My God, Woman - You've Got To Chill!!! (Norm Vs. Gravy)

[Forevermarypoppins]

I'll add my THANKS too.
All this planning(over planning, I feel) has me overwhelmed right now. MY sister and I are taking a "memory trip" in NOV. There will be laughter AND "tears" as our dad passed last DEC. Our father LOVED WDW with everything he had and it certainly was passed on to us. The last time the 2 of us were there was shortly after the new Magic Bands began, so it's been awhile.
I am reminding myself again, that It's still going to be FUN, regardless of the self imposed stress I'm feeling right now. LOL!!

 

[LadyDiznee123]

I'll add my THANKS too.
All this planning(over planning, I feel) has me overwhelmed right now. MY sister and I are taking a "memory trip" in NOV. There will be laughter AND "tears" as our dad passed last DEC. Our father LOVED WDW with everything he had and it certainly was passed on to us. The last time the 2 of us were there was shortly after the new Magic Bands began, so it's been awhile.
I am reminding myself again, that It's still going to be FUN, regardless of the self imposed stress I'm feeling right now. LOL!!

You should indeed switch to chill mode! You are blessed to be able to return less than a year after your fathers passing! He would want you to be in chill mode I'm sure! Think of two or three or four things (MEMORIES!) that he enjoyed most, and make sure you do them, and allow yourself some chill for the rest! There's always another trip. You want to ENJOY this MEMORY TRIP... so pick the best Memories for now, and do more on another trip. The last thing you want to do is hate your Memory Trip!
Enjoy!

 

[hereforthechurros]

Deluxe resort theme vacation. Nice. I love taking a ride on the boat... just for the ride. Always funny how other riders strike up a conversation with me as if I'm lodging there. Lol. Anyway... the boat ride, so relaxing. One of the things i think I'll still be able to do this coming trip! But wont be able to do my Ohana, and will miss Lilo. She's a favorite!

Yes, I'm just going to stay focused on my theme of SDD snd Mickey90... and, like I said, consider rest - Gravy.

Great theme to have! And yes rest is so underrated!

 

[Narnia_girl]

Thanks for this gentle reminder. Our upcoming trip is purposefully short to accommodate a school break. It's our first mother-daughter trip and we are lamenting the things we won't have time for. I'm going to start thinking in terms of GRAVY.

I'm going to Disney World.
With my daughter.
In her senior year of high school.
it's all GRAVY!

 

[LadyDiznee123]

Thanks for this gentle reminder. Our upcoming trip is purposefully short to accommodate a school break. It's our first mother-daughter trip and we are lamenting the things we won't have time for. I'm going to start thinking in terms of GRAVY.

I'm going to Disney World.
With my daughter.
In her senior year of high school.
it's all GRAVY!

Hope you and your daughter Enjoy!!!

 

[epcotty]

What we all thought of when reading the title

 

[Forevermarypoppins]

You should indeed switch to chill mode! You are blessed to be able to return less than a year after your fathers passing! He would want you to be in chill mode I'm sure! Think of two or three or four things (MEMORIES!) that he enjoyed most, and make sure you do them, and allow yourself some chill for the rest! There's always another trip. You want to ENJOY this MEMORY TRIP... so pick the best Memories for now, and do more on another trip. The last thing you want to do is hate your Memory Trip!
Enjoy!

INDEED!!
My sister got to vacation with my parents in WDW over 20 times. MOST of my trips were after I had my daughter and son. And about 7 yrs ago a trip that was just my parents, sister and myself. That was great one because I gave my dad a surprise Birthday "gift" of the Steam Trains Tour.

This trip will start with Day #1 at Magic Kingdom of course! We'll be riding It's a Small World ( one of his favorites) and eating at Kona Café (another FAV)!

 

[L_MD]

Cheers to this! I've been guilty of this for my upcoming stay in October. I usually do solo trips but this time my mom is coming along...for her first time since 2004! So I immediately felt the crushing pressure to make this AN AMAZING TRIP FOR HER. She hasn't seen this, done this, ridden that, etc etc etc. Then the stupid MDE issues happened and I started to get REALLY down about this trip. I just kind of went into this spiral...there's going to be issues/we won't be able to get any extra FP's/I'll be upset/she'll try to do the Mom thing and fix it and so on and so forth.

So, it's timely to read this thread and thank you for that! I need to think of things as gravy. I'm going to WDW with my mom, we're going to have a blast no matter what happens. I have a solid plan, and if there are things that I"m able to get to that I didn't think...well, that's gravy!

 

[LadyDiznee123]

What we all thought of when reading the title
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NORM!!!
lol.

 

[LadyDiznee123]

Enjoy! I know Dad will be with you!

 

[LadyDiznee123]

Exactly. Think about it. If she hasn't been since 2004, it's ALL going to be Gravy for her... the big and the small! She'll be with you and she'll be having a blast. No matter what you do, it will all be new and exciting!
Don't go crazy... it's a win no matter what you plan or how you plan it! Enjoy!

 

[Tigger in a kilt]

Funny, I started to cry a few moments ago, and I am realizing that while I did indeed post this to help someone else who may be experiencing the same thing, I now see that I think I needed to vent.

I was really potentially ruining my experience. When I saw that this post helped TIGGER IN A KILT, I saw that I may have needed to KNOW that there was someone else feeling as overwhelmed as I was with this FIRST WORLD PROBLEM. But, First World as it may be... it's real because we have become spoiled and we expect so much. I didn't realize it at first, but I think I also needed to see, and was relieved to see, that I was not alone. Yet, we still need to recognize that sometimes our BEST memories aren't the ones we had at a "Grand Floridian 1900 Character Meal", but perhaps that family pic you took of your 4 kids waiting at the resort bus stop to Hollywood Studios - where they are all noshing on / enjoying a pastry from the food court for breakfast, in place of a huge, hot Disney breakfast, because time got away from you, or your budget didn't allow for it. Our best experiences simply aren't always about how big or how long, or how much. We all need to keep this in mind.

It is definitely First World Problems of the highest order, but it's still stressful. I'm sure that people I speak to are thinking "Oh, boo hoo, my 4 week trip to Disney is hard to organise, so sad" but that doesn't change the fact that I am indeed stressed by it! We all put a lot of money and effort into these trips, and we do have expectations of having a fun trip. I am definitely working on managing my expectations better, because with so many people and such a long trip, there are bound to be problems, and how I react to those problems will determine whether or not I look back at this as a good or bad experience overall.

I have bookmarked this post, and expect to read it many times while we are there!

To be fair aren’t you planning a five week trip? That’s enough to drive anyone mad!

Only 4 weeks - we dropped the idea of 5 weeks as it just felt too much(?!). I think I will still need a holiday to recover once we return though, or maybe just a week lying in a dark room...

 

[LadyDiznee123]

It is definitely First World Problems of the highest order, but it's still stressful. I'm sure that people I speak to are thinking "Oh, boo hoo, my 4 week trip to Disney is hard to organise, so sad" but that doesn't change the fact that I am indeed stressed by it! We all put a lot of money and effort into these trips, and we do have expectations of having a fun trip. I am definitely working on managing my expectations better, because with so many people and such a long trip, there are bound to be problems, and how I react to those problems will determine whether or not I look back at this as a good or bad experience overall.

I have bookmarked this post, and expect to read it many times while we are there!



Only 4 weeks - we dropped the idea of 5 weeks as it just felt too much(?!). I think I will still need a holiday to recover once we return though, or maybe just a week lying in a dark room...

I feel like 8 days used to be a good number for solo (and perhaps one partner), and now I feel like it the minimum stay should be more like 10 days (and I mean this realistically). I had to give up ADR's that I really wanted in 2015 - in order have more Park and park event time. If I had more days, I could have done it all. I am planning Disney50 for 16 days. So I don't feel like 4 weeks for a family is over-doing it. There is a lot to plan just for me alone (and I don't have to satisfy any one else's wants or needs) - so I can see where this would be stressful for a group. That 5th week could even indeed be in order - just to plan more in between "DOWN TIME" days to help you regroup and enjoy the entirety of your stay. Those down time days are key (imo) to getting the most enjoyment from a Disney vacation.... and keep you from that dark room.

 

[Sparkly]

I'm here now (currently waiting for our food at satuli canteen!) and you're absolutely right. When I think back on our past days of our current trip, I don't remember how many rides we did, I remember what a good time we had on one, or a magic moment, or how good our food was. Sometimes instead of fussing about the small details of a trip, it's good to look at the bigger picture.

 

[LadyDiznee123]

I'm here now (currently waiting for our food at satuli canteen!) and you're absolutely right. When I think back on our past days of our current trip, I don't remember how many rides we did, I remember what a good time we had on one, or a magic moment, or how good our food was. Sometimes instead of fussing about the small details of a trip, it's good to look at the bigger picture.

Thanks for sharing, Sparkly! Hope you guys are having a blast!

 

[Sparkly]

Thanks for sharing, Sparkly! Hope you guys are having a blast!

We are! Last full day tomorrow, boo

 

[LadyDiznee123]

We are! Last full day tomorrow, boo

awwww.