My FMIL is the DEVIL

[sajetto]

She told my DF today that she won't be coming to our wedding because she doesn't have enough money after taking so many trips to the beach with her boyfriend and because of her high house payment. Shows where her son lies on her priority list huh?

This is the same wacko that stole over a $1,000 worth of my stuff.


This is really going to only make her look worse to my side of the family. Obviously she doesn't care if she hurts her son

 

[Servants of Evan]

I don't know. Considering her track record, it sounds like a blessing to me.

 

[SC Minnie]

double

 

[SC Minnie]

Maybe she doesn't have anything to wear since you took all your stuff back??? j/k


Sounds like you are in for a life of drama with this women. Time to suck it up and get used to it. Be there for your new hubby he will really need your support.

 

[Hercules10]

Wow! I didn't know my brother was even engaged much lessing getting married to you!

All MIL's are nertz. It's in the official MIL handbook.

 

[lindakmonty]

maybe she's expecting you guys to offer to pay for it? I would hope not...but w/her record... it wouldn't surprise me! It does sound like a blessing. She might think your gifts are things you won't need too....Good luck!!! you're gonna need it!

You're also not alone... my bil had to but a box in the middle of the kitchen table for his sons graduation party for the cards b/c his step daughters are known for stealing so bad

 

[willis37862]

Sorry to see you are having more MIL problems. I remember well the other thread about her taking your stuff and lying about it. This is very sad that she would miss her sons wedding. But like another poster said you may be better off as you won't have to worry about her pulling something or stealing something. For you and your soon to be DH, I hope she has a total personality change and becomes a better person. You both deserve to be treated better!!

 

[sajetto]

maybe she's expecting you guys to offer to pay for it? I would hope not...but w/her record... it wouldn't surprise me! It does sound like a blessing. She might think your gifts are things you won't need too....Good luck!!! you're gonna need it!
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This is EXACTLY what one of my friends thought. There is no way in H**L I'm paying for this woman's friggin hotel room after all she's done. I'm sure she thinks my dear old mommy and daddy will come in and foot the bill if she changes her mind and decides to go, but she's got another thing coming.

 

[zalansky]

I don't know. Considering her track record, it sounds like a blessing to me.

I was going to say the same thing!

 

[lulugirl]

Poke her in the eye w/ a stick.

 

[KEH]

Poke her in the eye w/ a stick.

Love the signature pic too.

 

[sajetto]

Poke her in the eye w/ a stick.

 

[ImMarcik]

I agree. The wedding will be a lot less stressful if you have to worry about her taking your stuff.

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

Love, I was thinking a stronger word than Devil. Maybe his earthly reincarnate though...

Oooh... I was thinking... are there any voodoo shops around you? Hlaf teasing and half not....

 

[sajetto]

I agree. The wedding will be a lot less stressful if you have to worry about her taking your stuff.

Hi Marcie!

The problem is that it really hurts my DF and I want this to be the most joyful day of his life with all the support from his family and friends. I'm sure it will be painful to see I've got a pile of people in my corner and all he has is his dad

 

[Wishing on a star]

One word of advice...

From personal experience here!

Inlaw problems are MARRIAGE problems.

If your MIL has ONE bit of phsychological pull with your future husband. You are in trouble. If your husband is ONE bit concerned about all of this, and is letting this affect your plans to become married, you are in trouble.

Hopefully your fianc'e is mature and is well beyond letting his mother affect his happiness and his plans. Is he excited to be moving forward with you, and leaving his mother to do as she pleases?

If so, he is a keeper!!!!
If there is one little tiny thread of 'apron strings' still there.... RUN!!!!

Learn right now to ignore your future MIL and to create your own happiness.
If she wants to pull stuff like that, and miss her sons wedding, then you are better off without her there. I recently read an old saying... Those who anger you control you. Do not give her that control. If you do, she will retain that control (and this IS a HUGE power-play) and you will be angry and miserable forever.

 

[cinmell]

Is this the woman who went thru your things when you weren't home? If so, consider it a blessing she wont' be there. At least you won't have to worry about her helping herself to your wedding gifts! Sorry, I couldn't resist.

I'm sorry for your fiance and you. Weddings are stressful enough without family adding to it.

 

[sajetto]

Love, I was thinking a stronger word than Devil. Maybe his earthly reincarnate though...

Oh girl, I'm definitley thinking of a stronger word, but I can't post it on the DIS

 

[MAKmom]

Let this happen & let her go away. This is your chance to be rid of her for good.

 

[Hillbeans]

Sajetto - i'm so sorry!

Another poster used this quote a few weeks ago describing their MIL and it sure fits here:

"She needs to be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral"

Don't you see, this is HER way of making YOUR day about her. Everyone will be talking as to why the Mom isn't there, etc....it's pretty sneaky.

I just feel bad for your DFI that he's had to live with this behavior for the past 30 years! Unfortunately you can't pick your family.