My eggs are too old

[Sherri]

I was reading an article today that was advertising for egg donors. You have to be between 21 and 33.
Yesterday was my 37th b-day so maybe thats why its hitting me so hard.
It's not that I was going to donate- well maybe I would have, that wasn't the point. The point is it hit me like a ton of bricks that I am getting old.

 

[lesroi]

Sherri,

I'm right there with ya. I just realized the other day that in just a few weeks I will be FIRMLY in my mid-thirties... We have recently started to really *try* for kids and it's not happening (it didn't happen in the past 10 years so I am not sure how I thought it would now, lol!) so I think my eggs have expired

My Mom died when she was just 39 so the whole age thing is really getting to me right now too...



Hang in there!

Tracy

 

[Sherri]

Sherri,

I'm right there with ya. I just realized the other day that in just a few weeks I will be FIRMLY in my mid-thirties... We have recently started to really *try* for kids and it's not happening (it didn't happen in the past 10 years so I am not sure how I thought it would now, lol!) so I think my eggs have expired

My Mom died when she was just 39 so the whole age thing is really getting to me right now too...



Hang in there!

Tracy

Tracey that is so sad. Your Mom died at a young age and you must have been pretty young. I can't even imagine how hard that must have been. I'm really sorry.
- I know my sister had fertility issues between her first and second child. Infact there is a large age difference between the two, she was on chlomadad (not sure how to spell it) but she did eventually have baby number two. Shockingly baby number 3 followed quickly without fertility meds. You just never know. I also worked with a woman who became pregnant in her mid 30's after she thought she couldn't.
I hope things work out for you as well.

 

[lesroi]

Thanks so much for your kind words... Yes, I was young. I was 13 and my little sister was 11.

The whole fertility thing is just really weird after all these years of saying we weren't sure we really wanted kids... It's like wanting the thing you can't have, lol! We will be fine if it doesn't happen because we have a neice and I have 3 other sisters that I am sure will give me more neices and nephews. We're resigned that it just might not be "meant to be" for us to have kids of our own.

At any rate, I totally identify with your original post. The other day someone asked me my age and I had to actually think about it. Then I was flabbergasted when I realized how old I was! Ugh. A ton of bricks is right.

Tracy

 

[Sherri]

Thanks so much for your kind words... Yes, I was young. I was 13 and my little sister was 11.

The whole fertility thing is just really weird after all these years of saying we weren't sure we really wanted kids... It's like wanting the thing you can't have, lol! We will be fine if it doesn't happen because we have a neice and I have 3 other sisters that I am sure will give me more neices and nephews. We're resigned that it just might not be "meant to be" for us to have kids of our own.

At any rate, I totally identify with your original post. The other day someone asked me my age and I had to actually think about it. Then I was flabbergasted when I realized how old I was! Ugh. A ton of bricks is right.

Tracy

My dd thought I was turning 36 not 37 because she said that last years birthday I said I was 35. My son said, for all we know you might be 41 since you told us the wrong age before. I just about fell over. I said, NO i'm not 41. Thats when I realized things could be worst (lol).
It sounds like you are in a place of acceptance and you are making the best of whatever happands. I sure hope things work out for you and dh. Sometimes things happand when we least expect them.
Wow, you were young when your Mom passed away, but luckily you were old enough to have lots of memories. I know in the school that I work in, there is a little boy in fifth grade that lost his Mom to cancer when he was in third grade, He will always remember her, but unfortunatly his little sisters were just 2 and 4 at the time. I think that has to be so tough for a child of any age.

 

[I Love Pluto]

I would love to be 37 again.

 

[Stacerita]

Im getting close to my eggs expiring too. Well, not that close. But a few years ago I was working on a chart and the doctor described the patient as being AMA.....advanced maternal age. And she was only 35!!!! That will be me a few years down the road. UGH!

 

[rie'smom]

At least you still have eggs!

 

[Tracey1974]

I called our IVF clinic in NJ about donating. My 22 year old sister did it 3 times, more for the $ reasons and had no problems. When I called for more information, they were super nice and invited me to their information seminar. When I told them how old I was and that I had just had a healthy pregnancy and child, they pretty much told me I was too old and that they wouldn't even consider someone 6 months shy of turning 30. Then they hung up!


I would love to be able to help someone out with donating- now that I have a child, I want to be able to help someone have the same chance but apparently I am too old. Doesn't matter that my mom carried and delivered 4 healthy babies and my grandmother carried and delivered 8 healthy babies.

Now I'm scared I won't be able to concieve another next year!