My DD's BFF

[LovinPooh]

is a total snot!! They are only 9, and if my DD acted like this I would kick right in her... rearend!!! I give the kid a ride to and from school, mainly cause she is our neighbor adn the mother takes total advantage.. but today I told the little girl she couldnt come over, and she says to my DD 'your mom never lets me go to your house'... umm hello!! I know her mother would call me right up and tell me if my DD said that... not that she would, she has manners! But should I be a kid too and call her up and say something about not appreciating how her daughter behaves???

ughh!!

 

[wdwmom0f3]

... and so it begins. Just wait, if you think that is bad, just wait.

I have a DD who is 10, about to be 11 and we know all about the snotty little kids, who's mothers feel their children are perfect. We went to a BD party of my good friends daughter a few weeks ago. She was so bossy to the girls but went and told her mom on them for being ugly to her. They had a pinata, and when the candy fell, she scooped a bunch into a pile, and when a little boy reached for some, she yelled "NO! This is MY candy". She is 10 years old. I couldn't believe it. Her Mom must not have been paying attention to her because she would have said something. She also kicked them out of her play house.

She's normally a sweet kid, kind of, but you can tell she is fake about it. I hate that too. Oh, and she never thanked my for the money we were told to bring.

 

[LovinPooh]

yeah, this girls mom thinks her kids are absolutely perfect. All the boys love her, yada yada yada. Tried to get her kid to 'hook up' with another boy. And because my DD didnt like the boy, she was jealous LOL! I think I will enjoy my DD not 'liking' boys for as long as I can

 

[mjkacmom]

I'm guessing you were kidding about calling up the mom - if this is your first run-in with a snotty gf of your dd, count yourself lucky! I've had girls bring my girls to tears! Dd used to have a friend who would tell dd to ask me if she could stay for dinner, and then if I said no, tell dd she was no longer her friend.

 

[LovinPooh]

yeah, she isnt worth calling. It would be like yelling at a wall. Her kid does nothing wrong. In a dream though, I would love to tell the witch what I think

Girls are horrible! Me and my BFF never had any issues like that. I guess my mom got lucky lol.
No issues with DS and his buds... boys just dont seem to care about things I guess... good for them

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

My BFF growing up was my neighbor. We used to argue ALL.THE.TIME! Her mother finally had enough and told me I wasn't allowed to play with her daughter again. A few months went by and her mother said if we stopped arguing I would be allowed to play with her daughter again.

Then my mother hated my middle school BFFs and told me they were sneaky, didn't like their parents because my mother had to drive them home, etc etc. It added a lot of stress onto me.

 

[koolaidmoms]

We are trying to use this time to talk to DD about values. She has a BFF who is bossy and a liar. I don't mean just little white lies (although she does those too) I am talking totally implausible bold faced lies. DD has learned this about her friend and she now says to me, "She said this to me today. But I don't believe her." I then have to say, "Isn't it sad that you have to guess whether x is telling you the truth or not because she lies so much? I hope you don't lie so that your friends do not have to questions everything you say."

As for the bossy thing her BFF had a sleepover party and the BFF's mother brought my DD home the next day. After DD came inside the BFF's mother (who always thought her DD was perfect) told me that my DD and two other girls confronted her DD of being bossy and trying to force them into always doing things her way but they were not going to do it anymore. If BFF wanted to play with them she could but she needed to stop being bossy! The BFF ran to her mom and the mom told her daughter, "They are right. If your friends are saying there is a problem with you being bossy then there is a problem."

Sometimes kids can say things that parents can not. Maybe a "That is not true and please don't talk like that about my mother" from your DD may put a stop to it all. Or else your DD may realize BFF is not worth it and find a better BFF!

 

[mommy-on-the-move]

I have boys and girls, my oldest is 11 and I am sooooo glad boys don't come with all the drama the girls do, i have two of each which means i only have to deal with the girl drama once more over before we can return to sanity.

DD11's friends mother actually told me "you're daughter is the only child E has ever bought home I've actually liked, she can come back" LOL i took that as a huge compliment as we've had alot of eyerollers and general disrespectful bratty kids visit before now so to know my daughter doesn't act in that number means alot to me

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Well, last year we had a TIME with this one girl "playing" each other against each other. Then they all turned on my DD and made her the focus point to all of the meanness. She would walk in and the ringleader would be mean. The other girls all got along, until that one little punk would show up. Finally, I had enough and I called the school. I was sick of her coming home everyday crying.

The school took care of it and everybody turned on the ringleader. Her Mom had the nerve to call me and say that it was my daughter. I don't think so, there were several kids that came forward to tell what was going on.

Well, when school was out, we were out by our pool. The phone rang, it was for my DD. She was told to go check her Email. She did and it was "We hate you, you are not one of us" and so on. I told her NOT to reply. She didn't. A few minutes later she was called again. Same thing, go check your email. I came in with her and again, a nasty email from these two girls. I told DD to tell them "Fine" and that's it. She did, and would you believe they called AGAIN. This time I answered, and when they asked to speak to my DD, I said "NO! You are not going to speak to her, to have her read another nasty email about how you don't want to be friends with her. She doesn't care. Oh, by the way, I know both of your mothers personally and I don't think that they would be to happy with you two girls, do you?" The one girl started crying and said that they didn't mean to send it to my DD, it went to the wrong place. I said that that was funny b/c it had her name on it, but whatever, just don't call back.

Now, I am not sure what these girls went and told their parents, because I have gotten more than a cold shoulder from them, but I don't care. It just makes me sick to see kids act like this.

 

[disneynewbee]

Uck I have a niece who is the snootiest kid you would ever want to meet. If she wasn't family my dd would not hang around her. I've walked in on her telling my dd that she was prettier than her, danced better than her, etc, etc. She is 3 yrs older than my dd and unfortunately my dd looks up to her, she doesn't act like her but wants to please her and it makes me sick. I do call my niece out on it but not in front of her mother because her mother also thinks she is perfect. I spend hours after my niece leaves trying to build my dds confidance and self esteem back up.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

gee, that is tough. It sickens me that they get away with all of this. I better not ever catch my kids acting like that to someone.