My brother, nah, he isnt a brother.

[Gail T AGAIN]

my brother messed up my plans for fathers day. he is 50 and felt it was more important to sit with his young GFs family for fathers day. needless to say I sat in all day , all alone, in my pajamas and cried my eys out. I finall told my father ( he is going to be 86) that I NO longer have a brother, the LOSER coun't even see his father, God only knows if he will be here next fathers day. Thanks for letting me vent, I would of done it sooner but I played around with my settings on here and couldn't log on

 

[WDWLVR]

Gail,

I've been there. My brother is 5 years older and has a Master's degree, but missed out on common sense. After years of watching him hurt my Grandmother and Mother by not paying even a little attention to them (after they both did so much while he was growing up) I wrote him out of my life. I did this with my mother's blessing (she saw the letter I sent to him before I sent it). Not 6 months later my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer and he still couldn't find the time to be a good son and visit. The last time I saw him at length was at her funeral and a couple of days after. My parting words to him were that I hope his children don't grow up and treat him like he treated her. I haven't seen him in almost 6 years now and that is fine with me. He is the one that lost in this deal - not me. I have wonderful memories of both my Mother and Grandmother and he does not.

There's an old saying my mother taught me that sometimes rings very true - A son is a son till he takes him a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for all of her life!

BTW - my DH breaks this rule because he is wonderful to his Mother and Grandmothers (one of which he just lost).

 

[jfulcer]

I'm not sure why you let your brother ruin your fathers day for you and your father? It's a long shot, but maybe he was thinking about spending time with your dad another day? Technically
'June 15th' is just a day that Hallmark picked. Who cares if he celebrates it on June 20th - it's the act of recognizing the parent that counts.... I don't like bouncing between DW's parents and my parents on days like this either.

Anyway, it was a great opportunity for you to spend some quality time with your father that your brother just doesn't appreciate.

I have a brother just like you who doesn't appreciate anything anyone does for him, least of all our parents. I can only hope some day he does.

 

[Betsyt82]

I have come to vast conclusion that some brothers are just plain nit wits. Mine is in that catagory. He is selfish and whiney and loves to talk about his newest ailment.( that is very odd but that is Bob). He showed up un announced and uninvited to my BIL fathers day BBQ that his kids had for their father. My sister was in aw of the big ones he had to just show up like that. He tends to show up for the free food and then leave. I ignore him and keep on trucking. Not much can be done for nit wit brothers. I guess we all have our roles to play within the family structure.