Mothers Day:I refuse to do DH's shopping!!

[HOGFAN]

dont get me wrong, I love my MIL, she is a jewel. HOWEVER, she is not MY mother. In the past I have always had to rush out at the last minute to get her something cause DH 'forgot' or ran out of time. not this year!!! If she doesnt get something this year, so be it.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I always get the Devi....um...I mean hubby's Mom, her mother's day present. My hubby is gone so much that it is very hard for him to even get ME a present...lol. If she only knew who picked out those gifts....

 

[momrek06]

My MIL's bday is May 15th soooo, it always falls around Mom's Day so we
take her out to dinner like the Sat night before Mom's Day and tell her this is ALSO for your bday. NO GIFTS as in the past she doesn't ever WEAR or USE any items I have "run out" (like the OP) to get. Out to dinner: EASY & EASY

p.s. I usually bring a small African Violet plant for her(to dinner) BUT what is soooo funny about all this(or sad)...DH & I have been married 25 years(2 sons) and despite ALL these bday/mday's Dinners and Gifts she has NEVER acknowledge that Mother's Day is ALSO a holiday I celebrate..... NOT ONCE!!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We just send cards. If she is a "jewel" I would get her something. Your fight is with your dh not your MIL.

 

[poohandwendy]

I pretty much set the rule in the beginning of the marriage. He deals with his family, I deal with mine...including gift responsibilities. It works out better that way, IMO.

 

[mtemm]

my mil is wonderful. It drives me crazy that dh is a last minute shopper...always. hate that. but she's his mother, not mine...he shops for her. Last year I don't think she got anything from him. He planned on flowers but then she was away that weekend so he never ended up sending them. this year he told me he knew what she wanted for it so a few weeks ago we were at a store that had it and I reminded him to get it. now lets just see if it gets to her.

 

[anewvance]

Amen sister! I feel the same way, I love my MIL to death but she is not my mother and if my dh can't remember to send his own mom something for Mothers Day then so be it.

 

[Marseeya]

When DH and I first got married, I tried taking over all the card buying and gift giving. He told me early on that he wanted to take care of his own parents, so I let it go.

I can tell you, though, in the 12 years we've been married, he's probably only sent her 2-3 cards and has gotten her NO gifts.

I tried.

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

Get this!!!!!!!!!! My brother-in-law, who lives in LA, called DH today and asked him to pick up DMIL a bouquet and give it to her in his name during dinner on Sunday night!!! He's too cheap to send her flowers, so he wants DH to pick up a $10 bouquet at Kroger, buy a card, sign it with BIL & SIL's names, and give it to her at MY family dinner on Sunday. At least I bought her the red Crocs she wanted...

 

[ryka]

I'm not married but I am engaged. I buy his mother a present because she is his mother. I love him and she is the woman that gave birth to him so I always buy for her. He buys his mother his own present too.

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

I'm not married but I am engaged. I buy his mother a present because she is his mother. I love him and she is the woman that gave birth to him so I always buy for her. He buys his mother his own present too.

That's so sweet!! She'll love you all the more!

 

[damo]

I always buy the gifts but he always gets the praise.

 

[Marseeya]

I'm not married but I am engaged. I buy his mother a present because she is his mother. I love him and she is the woman that gave birth to him so I always buy for her. He buys his mother his own present too.

Stop it! You're making the rest of us look bad!

j/k

 

[tmt martins]

I haven't got my Dm her gift yet I think she told DW she wanted a new pair of Birks.

Dw was bugging me about getting her car washed for MDay .I asked her if she picked up the Birks as she was there the other night.She said NO .

So I told her I already had the car washed for MDay ,she looked .I had to remind her DD wasn't old enough to drive and get hers washed but I washed my JEEP as DM drives it to her second job twice a week .

She started to laugh and said yea your right.

I'm sooooo lucky that DW and DM have just as good if not better of a relationship then I do as we all live in the same house it does make things easier.

Oh and DW has wanted her watch fixed for MDay It's still sitting on the dresser as she tells me every morning to take it and get it fixed.DD and I bought her a new one a few weeks ago.So I will take her old one with me tomorrow so she thinks I waited for the last minute for that as well.


TO all you MOTHERS out there a MOM is just a MOM but a MOTHER is a gift of a lifetime..

 

[sm4987]

I have done DH shopping in the past. If she knew it was coming from me, she'd scream!!! However this year, I looked and looked and didn't see anything. Dh was like oh well, guess she won't get anything. Sad huh. I know we are not on the best terms, but it is Mother's day. They don't acknowledge that it is Mother's day for me, as a matter of fact, neither does my own mom!!

 

[disykat]

I take care of my family, he does his. I do some reminding, but it generally doesn't take. Neither of us grew up in a family that is big on holidays like that, so it's not a big deal.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Oh my gosh. I get my present, my Dad's present, my brother's, my kid's (for my mom and his), and DH's for his mom.

Nobody but me shops for anything, ever, including birthdays and Christmas.

 

[ceiligh1]

I have to shop for 3 mothers. Mine and my DH's as well as his step mom. I get a little tired of it as I dont know them as well. SO flowers it is. Then he calls them on the day and takes all the credit.

For my mom and grandmother I try to put a little more thought into the gift. This year I am making them blankets and then using fabric paint on my sons hands and feet and my DS (9months) will walk on the back of it, I will also put his handprints on it. He is the first grandson and they adore him, so I know they will like it.

As for myself he will not be getting me a present as he does not do "hallmark" holidays such as Mothers day. He says he remembers throughout the year (usually that means he remembers he needs to remember and then forgets right before) so he doesnt need a specific day for it. My mom will get me a gift, though as it is a special day for us.

 

[MoniqueU]

I dont mind getting my MIL something. IF I didnt she would get crappy gifts. I also pick out stuff for me and I am getting more generous. I am getting 2 couach bags for myself this year and since my husband has no idea how much they cost all the merrier.

 

[princess pooh]

I going out to buy MIL a gift tomorrow. DH always forgets to get her anything and then I'll get blamed by his family for not reminding him .