Meeting People Later in Life

[RachelEllen]

How do people in their 50's to 60's meet people? My dad passed away several years ago. My mom is in her early 60's. She in great health, works full time, travels, is active, and has a busy social life. But I know she is lonely. Recently, she's been trying to meet someone, but all the ways that were successful for me (singles events, online) have just been frustrating for her. It might sound like a cliche, but she really reports that all the men within 5 years of her age want to date someone my age. Any ideas?

 

[SDFgirl]

My DH's aunt got divorced several years ago, she is in her early 60's as well. She has become heavily involved in dancing and LOVES it! There are a lot of men her age who dance as their hobby. They all go on long dancing weekends and she's got something going on almost every week. I think they do swing dancing, contra dancing, line dancing, etc.

She has met a lot of men and had a lot of dates. Most of them end up in friendship, but recently she has met a man that she's crazy about! She is really happy.

Good luck to your mom - is dancing something she would enjoy?

 

[AlleyKat]

How do people in their 50's to 60's meet people? My dad passed away several years ago. My mom is in her early 60's. She in great health, works full time, travels, is active, and has a busy social life. But I know she is lonely. Recently, she's been trying to meet someone, but all the ways that were successful for me (singles events, online) have just been frustrating for her. It might sound like a cliche, but she really reports that all the men within 5 years of her age want to date someone my age. Any ideas?

The odds of that are the same as me winning the lottery.

Joining civic clubs, the local drama club, a garden club, volunteering at a local museum, things of that nature should have her meeting single men on a regular basis.

Often, others met through these venues know of someone who may be a perfect match for so and so or who may have similar interests, sparking long term relationships.

 

[MickeySP]

Don't give up on the online thing.

I am pushing 50 and found myself single again. I joined a site and met some wonderful men who did not want twinkies. It took about 6 months but I met a great guy, we met as friends first but 2 years later having a blast.

BTW she may find alot of young guys who are fulfilling some kind of older woman fantasy - found that alot, flattering but...........

 

[MIGrandma]

My Mom is 73 and my Dad has been gone more than 2 years now. For her, meeting people at the Senior Center in town has been the best way. She and Dad went to the Senior Center a lot when he was still in good health. Their apartment is only a block from the center so they went almost every day. Lunch is served so they ate there most days, and they played cards, bingo, etc. and there are other activities, bus trips too. There are couples there, but also a lot of single women and single men. My parents started going there in their late 50's if I remember right.

Mom got more active in the senior center after Dad passed. And she plays cards at places like the VFW hall, etc. so meets new people there as well.

Around here most towns/counties have an active senior center. Your Mom should check and see if there is one in her area she could start going to.

 

[Mickey527]

My aunts are both in their late 60's and lonely since their husbands passed. they have tried senior groups etc with no luck. the "pickins" are slim for the ladies. Maybe she can move to an elderly housing area, or to a 55 and older community.
I do remember when my mom passed. My dad was 78 but he was inumdated with neighborhood ladies bringing him cookies and cakes and offering to make him a nice home cooked meal. He had no interest in women, he had been married to my mom for close to 56 years and didn't want to be with anyone else, plus he had 6 kids so he wasn't lonely.
I do agree though about the younger women, I am 55, soon to be 56 and boy those guys my age are looking for someone in their 30's and 40's, they don't want someone their own age at all.
Nothing wrong with being a cougar, I am checking out guys in their 50's now......

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

Dosn't craigs list have a personals section?

I don't know if they are that reliable, but they are free!

 

[minkydog]

My mom lost her husband 7 years ago, when she was 68. Since then she has been very lonely but she's still not ready for dating. She misses companionship, but she doesn't really want a new man in her life. She & Dave were active in a bluegrass band before he died and she has kept up with that. Through the bluegrass band she has made some really good friendships, with both women and men, most of whom are widows/widowers. They often go camping together and they travel around the country taking special classes in their various instrument specialties. Mom concentrates on having fun and they support each other in difficult times.

Maybe your mother is in that situation too. She may very well be lonely, but not quite ready for dating. Personally, I would be very uncomfortable with online dating, Craigslist, and singles events. Even when i was young I didn't like that stuff--too much like "sharks & minnows". I'm 53 and married, but if something happened to DH I would probably not be looking for love in a bar or a singles event. I like volunteering at the food bank, RVing, working with Special Olympics. Not necessarily places to find a man, but I meet interesting people and make connections.

If I ever do get married again, he better have a big motorhome.

 

[Robinrs]

I meet people at work mostly, met my current BF at my last job. He's 9 years younger and I wear my cougar logo PROUDLY>>>>

 

[GeorgeG]

The best way is to get involved in activities that you enjoy so you meet people with similar interests. We see it around here all the time. We're kind of unique here when it comes to opportunities, but the key, anywhere, is to make friends first.