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<font color="green">Mid-town Manhattan, anyone?</f
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I'm not asking for official advice, but I am curious enough to NOT cash a $1000.00 check until I at least describe the following question:
A bit over a year ago my biological father died.
He and my mother divorced within a year after my birth, but I was never adopted by either of my mother's two successive husbands.
Over the next 47 years my biological father and I had regular contact and in his last days I sat by his bedside and comforted him as he died, as much as I could in the face of my two biological half brothers (who he raised with his next wife) asking me not to spend too much time with him.
I spoke at the funeral and was considered by all one of three children who buried my father that day.
OK, now we come to money.
From what the lawyer for my father's estate tells me, I was not mentioned in the will, only my two brothers were, but my brothers did find a hand-written note in my father's papers leaving me $1000.00 dollars.
That's the check I received this week, but haven't cashed.
Honestly, I have no emotional issues left on this one and I'm happy to cash the check and move on.
But I was just checking with my partner and she wondered if before we cash that check if we shouldn't at least ask if I am in anyway being taken here.
Since my father died my brother's have not responded to any of my attempts to reach them; they've changed their phone numbers and email addresses. So, I get that they don't want anything to do with me.
I don't know what my father's estate might be worth, but I suspect it's somewhere between 250,000 and 1 million; it might even be much more.
OK, that's it.
A bit over a year ago my biological father died.
He and my mother divorced within a year after my birth, but I was never adopted by either of my mother's two successive husbands.
Over the next 47 years my biological father and I had regular contact and in his last days I sat by his bedside and comforted him as he died, as much as I could in the face of my two biological half brothers (who he raised with his next wife) asking me not to spend too much time with him.
I spoke at the funeral and was considered by all one of three children who buried my father that day.
OK, now we come to money.
From what the lawyer for my father's estate tells me, I was not mentioned in the will, only my two brothers were, but my brothers did find a hand-written note in my father's papers leaving me $1000.00 dollars.
That's the check I received this week, but haven't cashed.
Honestly, I have no emotional issues left on this one and I'm happy to cash the check and move on.
But I was just checking with my partner and she wondered if before we cash that check if we shouldn't at least ask if I am in anyway being taken here.
Since my father died my brother's have not responded to any of my attempts to reach them; they've changed their phone numbers and email addresses. So, I get that they don't want anything to do with me.
I don't know what my father's estate might be worth, but I suspect it's somewhere between 250,000 and 1 million; it might even be much more.
OK, that's it.
