Laurie & Kyle 1/16/10 Wedding PJ **TR Started Beach Party & Bio Bay Up**

[LLLBelle]

So it seems like our guest list is continually shrinking. Invitations do not go out for another few weeks, but we already know that we have about 25 confirmed, out of the 46 that were invited and that includes DFi and I.

I mean it will help us save money to have less people, we're just not going to have some of the family we wanted to have there.

I was a little frustrated this weekend, thinking that if we had only known, we could have saved more money by not booking the villa, but I love the location.

I do feel a bit better about it since we wouldn't have as many people, we can get the nice towels we were originally going to get since we will only need one case

Oh well, I suppose I am just in a funky mood today.

 

[LLLBelle]

I got my Passporter Book and the invitation paper in the mail, yea!!!

I'll book the invite pics once I have them together.

Also we are officially confirmed for the BWV and for a BW view, awesome!!

 

[LLLBelle]

I love getting more stuff in the mail

I got my hair flower in the mail today, it is beautiful, if I do say so myself. I am using a gardenia in my hair in honor of my grandmother who can not make it to the wedding and for my great-grandmother who is my guardian angel.

I wanted a real touch flower since gardenia's are extremely delicate and a real one would not be an option in Puerto Rico. I love the flower, I bought it off ebay and it came beautifully packaged and it actually smelled like a real gardenia. (Although I may need to air it out to get rid of some of it since I sometimes get headaches from strong flower scents) Even Kyle thought it was a real flower.

The second picture was not the best, but at least you get the idea of the sizing.

I'll put the link up if anyone is interested.

 

[ghoulish delight]

Aww! That hair flower is beautiful, Laurie! Nice choice!

 

[tiggersam00]

hahaha we must think alike because I ordered the real touch gardenia off etsy.com and it looks identical! Isnt it great! It looks so pretty in your hair, I was worried about wilting too so I went with silk, but the real touch silk is incredible!

 

[LLLBelle]

Aww! That hair flower is beautiful, Laurie! Nice choice!

Thank you! I love it.

hahaha we must think alike because I ordered the real touch gardenia off etsy.com and it looks identical! Isnt it great! It looks so pretty in your hair, I was worried about wilting too so I went with silk, but the real touch silk is incredible!

I'm really glad I decided to buy it, it's gorgeous, I love it! Oh I know, gardenias are so fragile, especially in the humidity, it would never survive.

Speaking of "fake" flowers, I am actually considering going this route, I never thought I would. However, I found this site: http://sndny.com/index.html and I really love her work and the flowers look awesome. The other good thing is the price. I am going to get a custom quote from her, but her pre-design would cost me about $350-$400 for what I need and my wedding planner quoted me for $800. Now she is re-quoting me in about a month or two, but who knows where the price will go. Plus with the fake, I can have them sent home and have them, I really don't want to pay 800 for something that is for one day and is going to die. Let me know what you guys think.

 

[LLLBelle]

Well my fears are now a reality, my MOH is no more. She said she would let me know for sure in two weeks, but is leaning towards no. She has travel anxiety and does not want to freak out at the wedding. I appreciate the honesty from her and I understand. I would have liked to know before we booked the villa, but at least knowing now is still better than knowing a month before or during the wedding

So there it is, Kyle and I are still absorbing the reality of it, but I am honestly relieved. Now he needs to get in touch with his Best Man and see what's going on on that side.

It has been a relatively eventful night. We are going to try to figure out a game plan if the worst happens after he talks to his Best Man. As of right now, I'm going to try to work on our invites. . .they are so pretty, I promise pictures soon.

 

[ghoulish delight]

You know, I'm terribly sorry it didn't work out with your MOH... but now I know you'll be more relieved. You deserve to have someone helping you out who will enjoy it, and be helpful to you without any anxieties! Hopefully you'll have someone else to fit the bill! You deserve nothing less, my dear!

Can't wait to see your invites!!

 

[LLLBelle]

You know, I'm terribly sorry it didn't work out with your MOH... but now I know you'll be more relieved. You deserve to have someone helping you out who will enjoy it, and be helpful to you without any anxieties! Hopefully you'll have someone else to fit the bill! You deserve nothing less, my dear!

Can't wait to see your invites!!

I do feel relieved. I'm just a bit angry at the situation since we were splitting the cost of the villa so we need to see if DFi Best Man will be pulling out as well to find out if we have a real problem.

I'm thinking about having my mom stand for me, she's been my MOH anyway, as far as I'm concerned and she is my best friend. Otherwise it would be one of DFi's sisters and that could produce problems in itself with him having three sisters and we're down to about 23 people coming to the wedding.

I talked to my FMIL last night and she was suggesting the idea of the moving the wedding and said that "Vegas doesn't look so bad now, does it" But we would lose more money moving the wedding then just covering the added expenses and staying put, we don't want to move the wedding and how to you do that when you don't know who has booked anyway, my parents are and they just booked their flights.

Oh well, I'm done my rant, hopefully we will have more info this weekend from the BM. At least it's Friday, I can not wait to get out of work, the weather has been sooo nice, I mean 90 in AZ in June is golden

 

[ghoulish delight]

I do feel relieved. I'm just a bit angry at the situation since we were splitting the cost of the villa so we need to see if DFi Best Man will be pulling out as well to find out if we have a real problem.

I'm thinking about having my mom stand for me, she's been my MOH anyway, as far as I'm concerned and she is my best friend. Otherwise it would be one of DFi's sisters and that could produce problems in itself with him having three sisters and we're down to about 23 people coming to the wedding.

I talked to my FMIL last night and she was suggesting the idea of the moving the wedding and said that "Vegas doesn't look so bad now, does it" But we would lose more money moving the wedding then just covering the added expenses and staying put, we don't want to move the wedding and how to you do that when you don't know who has booked anyway, my parents are and they just booked their flights.

Oh well, I'm done my rant, hopefully we will have more info this weekend from the BM. At least it's Friday, I can not wait to get out of work, the weather has been sooo nice, I mean 90 in AZ in June is golden

Feel free to rant away any time! If it helps, I'm happy to listen erm... read? Hehe. I can definitely see why you'd be annoyed with the monetary situation. I think it would have been far more gracious if she had pulled out much earlier, but c'est le vie I suppose. I think placing your mom as MOH would be brilliant! One of my brothers had our dad as his BM, so it can work!

I hope everything smooths itself out for you guys! You're such a sweetheart, and I want to see you have your perfect wedding!

And yay for Friday! The weather has been wacky here. It's been in the 60s-70s and cloudy all week! Very bizarre for southern California in the summer!

 

[LeesyUD]

sorry to hear about your MOH - but it seems like everything else is going great - I absolutely love your dress!!!!

 

[LLLBelle]

Feel free to rant away any time! If it helps, I'm happy to listen erm... read? Hehe. I can definitely see why you'd be annoyed with the monetary situation. I think it would have been far more gracious if she had pulled out much earlier, but c'est le vie I suppose. I think placing your mom as MOH would be brilliant! One of my brothers had our dad as his BM, so it can work!

I hope everything smooths itself out for you guys! You're such a sweetheart, and I want to see you have your perfect wedding!

And yay for Friday! The weather has been wacky here. It's been in the 60s-70s and cloudy all week! Very bizarre for southern California in the summer!

Thank you! I appreciate the kind words

We're keeping the location as it and know that everything will be wonderful, it's just too much to move it now and it will be the second wedding we will have planned, so no. Plus it will all even out as far as the money goes, I just can't worry about it.

I've pretty much decided that my mom will be my MOH now, I'm calling her the MOHOB I'm going out today to find some to give her to official "ask" her to be my MOH, plus I love an excuse to go shopping

sorry to hear about your MOH - but it seems like everything else is going great - I absolutely love your dress!!!!

Yea, it is what it is I suppose, trying to re-kindle a 20 year friendship across 2500 miles doesn't always work, it was a good idea at the time. But my mom is a much better choice, she is my best friend. Thank you! I love my dress, I finally get to try in on again next month

 

[Mrsdisneyb2b]

I love love love your story and I am so excited that you posted the pictures!!!That is definitely an AWESOME proposal if i may say so myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And so so unique!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[LLLBelle]

I love love love your story and I am so excited that you posted the pictures!!!That is definitely an AWESOME proposal if i may say so myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And so so unique!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you! I was really surprised that he kept it a secret. He done good

 

[LLLBelle]

A little update here. We are firing Kyle's best man, he STILL has not returned his phone call from Saturday and DFi has not talked to him since February, after repeated attempts. So we are cutting him. So now we are going to have my mom and his dad stand for the two of us, which is a much better option and I am much happier with it.

However, on top of it, we have to figure where to come up with the other portion for the villa we are staying in. So I contacted our wedding planner and she wants to talk, obviously, so I am waiting to hear back from her at this point. We also have a problem because our caterer has a 30 person min on some of the options and our guest list is down to 20 people and that includes Kyle and I

I know this sounds weird, but I am actually happy with how things seem to be paning out. I just want to hear back from my planner to see what our opinions are as far as getting out of the lease for the villa we are renting, if we can't get out of the lease that will keep the wedding at the house, if we can, it will save us a loooot, we will just have to replan the wedding, no biggie

 

[Pirate's Princess]

OMG I love that floral site!!!

I'm so sorry about your MOH. I'd love to my mom as the MOH but she's going to run the ceremony, so my brother will be instead. I hope everything works out.

Hugs

 

[LLLBelle]

OMG I love that floral site!!!

I'm so sorry about your MOH. I'd love to my mom as the MOH but she's going to run the ceremony, so my brother will be instead. I hope everything works out.

Hugs

I'm so glad you love the flowers! I love them too, I'm still waiting to hear back about my custom order, I'll post the pictures once I get them

Everything happens for a reason and I am so glad it worked out this way, it's for the best. I have my true best friend standing for me

 

[LeesyUD]

I'm so glad you love the flowers! I love them too, I'm still waiting to hear back about my custom order, I'll post the pictures once I get them

Everything happens for a reason and I am so glad it worked out this way, it's for the best. I have my true best friend standing for me

I wish I had made my mom my MOH...mine is not being very helpful and hasn't called me back in almost 2 weeks - i even had to go pick up her dress in shoes even though we live the same exact distance away from the store (we are in the same large apartment community) you will be better off it they are being flaky - btw I love the flower you got!

 

[ghoulish delight]

You know what Laurie? You guys won't regret having your mom as MOH and his dad as BM. I think it's really smart of you two! You know how some people look back at their wedding photos, and go "UGH why did we ever put them in the wedding?! "? Yeah... well, you guys won't have that!

That's why my DF and I decided as soon as we got engaged that our wedding party was going to consist of nothing but family. Less likely to flake out on you!

But anyway, I'm just happy you're happy.

 

[LLLBelle]

You know what Laurie? You guys won't regret having your mom as MOH and his dad as BM. I think it's really smart of you two! You know how some people look back at their wedding photos, and go "UGH why did we ever put them in the wedding?! "? Yeah... well, you guys won't have that!

That's why my DF and I decided as soon as we got engaged that our wedding party was going to consist of nothing but family. Less likely to flake out on you!

But anyway, I'm just happy you're happy.

That is exactly what my FMIL said about "People you want in the pictures" when we first got engaged, but I did not want to listen. Now we are sure that our wedding party will be there My mom is super excited to have both titles. And she now doesn't want to invite my ex-MOH to the bridal shower, but that's a whole other issue that I don't really care to think about right now.