Launching a personal comeback... anyone else interested?

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I was on Oprah's website and reading about women who let themselves go... and why. One of the segments was about launching your own personal comeback. Not necessarily the person you once were... but making active choices to be who you WANT to be.

So, if you are tired of the sweats dress code for winter..... tired of living a cluttered lifestyle... tired of couch potato life... tired of not being who you want to be....

Join me and launch a personal comeback....

What are you going to do to get you to where you want to go?

From their website
Thousands of us have confessed to "letting ourselves go"—not making caring for ourselves a priority in our own lives. Dr. Robin Smith says it's time to find out who you are and determine your greater purpose.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

there are so many things that I want to be. I want to be the healthy woman I can be. I want to be the happy person I know I can be. I want to be the organized caretaker of our home. I want to look nice.

What am I doing to launch my comeback?

Without knowing it I did launch a comeback when I went back to school for a second career. I can't wait to be a teacher!

Otherwise I dressed up nice today. No sweats today! I also cleaned. I am about to go do bills, which I have put off for over a month. YIKES! These sound like they may not be worthy.... but I let myself go in the taking care of my family... and I want to get my house in order. I want to be a proud homeowner.

I also exercised today. Feels great.

Anyone else?

 

[ohMom]

(((VIJA!!!!)))) i was thinking of you the other day -- honestly! you must've felt the WISH pixie dust surround you!!!!!!

so good to see you back on our board!!!!!!!

ok - i admit i'm in 'vacation' mode as we leave in just two weeks!!! but when I get back i'm going to join in on this ...................let me think about this but steady housework, scrapbooking and unfinished crafts come to mind! all things I can do instead of snacking right?!?

 

[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

Vija - you can be all that you want to be - just like you said "start" now and go for it!

I'm not quite in the vacation mode yet (yep - cruising with M and family) but working on it..... so........

for now - I say "you go girl" and I'll be thinking of you AND joining you in Dec!

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

This is a wonderful idea and I commend you for getting your things in order.

 

[Blondiex46]

Ok I will join you, just tell me where to do first. I have about 40 lbs at least to loose, have the equipment in my basement and have no modivation, need a buddy or some kind of support, none here!!

 

[travel with kids]

there are so many things that I want to be. I want to be the healthy woman I can be. I want to be the happy person I know I can be. I want to be the organized caretaker of our home. I want to look nice.

Without knowing it I did launch a comeback when I went back to school for a second career. I can't wait to be a teacher!

Otherwise I dressed up nice today. No sweats today! I also cleaned. I am about to go do bills, which I have put off for over a month. YIKES! These sound like they may not be worthy.... but I let myself go in the taking care of my family... and I want to get my house in order. I want to be a proud homeowner.

Were we seperated at birth? This sounds like me!!

I came back (I was here once several years back!!) to the W.I.S.H. Board to get help (kick start) to my weightloss/exercise program. And your thread caught my eye before I could post my own. I am going to think about what type of person I want to be before I contract with myself. I will post back later.

Thanks for starting this

 

[arkansas mom]

Me too!
I have such a list in my head of things that I have got to get a handle on. So many things I can't even remember what they all are--perhaps my first step should be writing them down????
For the life of me I can't figure out how I got here. I think maybe I got too comfortable with life and started getting lazy with so many things. Now I'm almost 37 and not too proud of my lifestyle. It all looks pretty good from the outside (except the obvious weight), but I always feel like I'm fooling everyone and just squeaking by.
What really baffles me is that I get so obsessive/compulsive about lots of things, but none of those things have anything to do with taking care of myself. What's up with that? Why can't I get crazy motivated about fixing me instead of fixing the dang window treatment in the living room? I have got to get myself together!
I've never visited this particular board until last night, and now I'm feeling a bit more inspired. I'm gonna take some time today and think this through and start making a plan.
Who better to jump on board with than fellow DISers?

Lori

 

[travel with kids]

PRINCESS VIJA-- I have just started my own personal comback journal. (on the W.I.S.H. Journal Page) Thank you for the kickstart.

There are so many things I need and want to change about who I am and who I am becoming. I go to bed so many nights wishing that I had spend more time with my kids. Very soon ds will be be moving on with his own life. I fear that all those things that we plan to do when they are babies will never happen. I want to spend more time with my husband...my poor DH! I want to reach a point when I do not panic when the door bell rings that it is someone who wants to come in!! I also want to work on my personal self. I want to work on my diet, exercise and mental well being. I want to have fun in my life and be fun to be around.

 

[M*2]

Princess Vija and others who mentioned organizing:
I've found FlyLady's website to be helpful (www.flylady.net). It's free (she does sell stuff, but you can simply not purchase if you'd rather not). If you get on her email list, be prepared for A LOT of emails, but you can just look at the subject heading and use it as a reminder. When I began doing the FlyLady routines, my home was definately in CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome), but now I'm always pleased to open the door and let people in. Note: it's not perfect and never will be, but I'm always comfortable with it, and I've learned to tackle other, non-household things in a more step-by-step way, rather than getting obsessed and then burning out (which was my old method).
Good luck to everyone on their comebacks! I want to lose ten pounds and exercise more regularly, but my comeback hasn't come very far so far (that's a mouthful!). I'm going to get there eventually.

 

[lmhall2000]

Me me!!! I'm so ready to get to goal it's frightening! But tomorrow I'm getting my water in and working on making a good salad mix I can eat from for 3-4 days...I just don't get my veggies in!!!!

GREAT TO SEE YOU VIJA!!!!

Tara

 

[misslissa]

Hey there Princess!

I agree! I want to whip my life into shape as well. I feel like Arkansas Mom as well and feel that I have everything looking good on the outside but I feel cluttered and fat on the outside.

In my job, I take 6 months on and 6 months off. I have just started my 6 months off and have dedicated to getting into shape during this time (in EVERY way!). I have lost 3 lbs since I started my 'off' time on October 14th but woke up this morning to find that it was all back on. I always seem to 'let it go' during the weekend and want that habit to stop. I also have a digestive problem that could be the cause of it but if I just eat right, I think I can counter act it...

I found a quote I'd like to share with you guys that I actually found last nite that pertains to this thread!

"If you do not change your direction, you are likely to end up where you are headed."

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

OOOH, I am so glad you guys decided to join me in launching our own personal comebacks. thanks so much for the warm words of support, you guys are the best!

So, let's get started!!! LET'S REALLY DO THIS!!!! what we need is a plan. misslissa that is a great quote to get us started. How wise, we need to change our direction. I guess first we need to decide where are we going, what have we been doing... and change the direction so we can get to our destination.

arkansas mom had a great idea to write down what we want. So that is our first challenge. write down what your heart desires.

I saw an interview with a life coach on tv and she said there are 3 things to success. Dreams, desires and destiny. The difference between dreams and desires is that desires come first. take all the clutter away, listen to your heart and find your desire. then the dreams come from that.

I'll open up and say that I thought long and hard about this. And what I desire most is to be happy. Sounds so simple, but that is my basic desire, to be happy in life. So now I build on that... what would make me happy? Those are the dreams.

Dream 1: I would love to be a stay at home mom, that isn't in the cards so I need to find another way to make myself happy in the work department. That is why I am going back to school to be a teacher.
Dream 2: I want to be proud of the way I look. So for example today... I was going to wear sweats, but I actively decided to put jeans, a sweater, and nicer shoes on instead. And I got to tell ya, I do feel better... and happier!
Dream 3: I want to be proud of how I look... so I recommited to WW today. What am I going to do different? I go for the weigh ins, but I do not want to know what I weigh! The mind games trip me up everytime, so 1 year from now... I will weigh in again!
OK, I digress I am doing more than listing, but I am so excited about this!
Dream 4: I want to be organized and clutter free
Dream 5: I want to be a good meal preparer for my family. (DD wants take out all of the time, hmmm wonder where she got that?
Dream 6: I want to have a clean house
Dream 7: I want to be spiritually more connected
Dream 8: I want a hotter sex life. Don't want to be self conscious (DH will be pleased! ) LOL!
Dream 9: I want to be a role model of health for my children
Dream 10: I want to run in the WDW 1/2 marathon in 2007
Dream 11: I want to be financially set

OK, LOTS of dreams for me! I know I can't tackle all of them at the same time, but I can work on some. So now that I have listed some, it is your turn. Lets help each other out and support each other. LIST AS MANY DREAMS AS YOU WANT!

What should we do next then? List ways to get to our dreams? Change our direction? suggestions for the next step greatly appreciated. This is a team effort!

 

[evilqueenfan]

I have been on the Dis Boards for quite a while now, quiet but I check in here almost every day. I came to this board for the first time today after having signed up for WeightWatchers yesterday.This thread caught my eye right away.
I also am a member of the "let myself go" club. I have come to realize that I have taken care of everyone but myself. Looking at myself now, I just can't believe I allowed myself to slide into the place I am...overweight,border line high blood pressure and unhappy with myself.
Like someone else mentioned,on the outside I appear to all to be happy and in a good place. Inside I long to be the person I used to be.... much thinner and healthier and proud of how I look. I need to take control NOW!
Dream 1: To feel healthy. Not to be short of breath if I run up the stairs. To be able to jog again not just walk slowly.
Dream 2: To keep my BP at a normal level ( I should know better. I am a RN)
Dream 3: To be able to go shopping and fit and look good in any gown I want to wear for my DD's wedding in May.
Dream 4: To be in better physical condition that I can dance hearty at DD's wedding and celebrate the long road we have traveled to get her to her wedding day.
Dream 5: To have my husband think I look as good as I did when we married ( not sure what he REALLY thinks, he always is very supportive and complimentary)
Dream 6: To find a fulfilling niche for myself once DD's wedding is over and she has moved to her new home. (She has had health problems since birth and has always been a main focus for me.)
Dream 7: To take a vacation that is just DH and me! A vacation where I can wear anything I want (or nothing if I want ) Ok! That's it for now.

 

[gjw89]

just subscribing for now gotta go work for a few hours

 

[saturday97]

Hey gals, I really like this idea! Just a suggestion-- breaking these fantastic goals into manageable steps. Otherwise, I start getting overwhelmed with a long list of lifechanging goals.

 

[newholidayx2]

Princess Vija - Im keeping an eye on this thread. Wondering how youre going to break down the path to your dreams. What steps are you taking? how are you planning on getting there?

Ive recently had to take a good long hard look at myself too. 3.5wks ago I was at the doctors cos I know something needs to change. Broke down my growth areas into 3 goals for now:
1) Physical - minimum 1/2hr exercise/day, 48oz water/day, 5 fruits/vegs per day, recently joined Curves since I know I wont be outside walking in the cold. Doc's looking at my cholesterol level. Had it down to 165 from 198 but now its back up to 180. He wants it lower as he knows I can do it. Im now regulated on thyroid meds. Working on myself physically is the easiest part.
2) Spiritual - joined a new Church. What else can I do besides weekly Mass? There's a giving tree - maybe I can grab a tag
3) Mental - I have gotten myself to 4 AlAnon meetings

Im pampering myself more now - hand cream before my hands start cracking, nail hardener, burning Yankee Candles, taking more time to read

 

[wiskband]

Hi all............ I too need to make a personal comeback.
I was up late last night thinking how much my life revolves around everyone else. I mean i think we can all agree that our offspring are THE most important thing and the focal point of our lives BUT............ they do have ANOTHER parent! lol. ( I should say at least in my life they do.) My hubby is a great father but hes the ALL ABOUT FUN PARENT! I take care of the all the dirty work and all the nessesary things in their lives. Clothes, appointments, school trips, teacher meetings, medical. DOnt get me wrong of course I enjoy doing theses things, and I should probably say that I may be guilty of thinking he can;t handle these things correctly so I dont give him these responsiblities. lol. When all things are done in my kids lives and they have a few hours of play time, thats when my husband comes in the picture, he then takes them go carting, on the quad, to the movies, etc. he truely gets all the fun time! NOT FAIR! LOL!
anyway I really do think I need more time for ME personally. I need time to exercise, take care of my nails,hair, etc. I mean I am 34 years old and still have never ONCE been to a nail salon! even my 12 year old has been to one at least 5 times!
I think this will be the first part of my personal comeback, and Ill start today!
I am gonna head back to the gym when hubby gets home from work and I will not RUSH to get back home. lol.

glad to see this thread started!

Ill post back!

renee

 

[ohMom]

there was mention of twins earlier -- renee i think you are mine

i'm sitting here in my jammies -- should be doing my WATP this morning and i'm not motivated AT ALL. i overslept - having trouble getting back on schedule after our MAGICal cruise last week. i'm overwhelmed with clutter from unpacking, holidays approaching, many things on my to do list and you know what i never ever take the time to even write a to do list.

yesterday was my first day back on WW and it was sorta hard -- today i have a social lunch and i'm already feeling like it'll be a failure

i need inspiration and this thread has brought me some. i want to stop feeling overwhelmed and then becoming cranky from it. i want to take each day by day and make the most of my time when the girls are at school and get thrings done! i want a better plan to conquer and feel successful. i think i'm going to check out flylady again

 

[wiskband]

hi all............. so far so good, I took some time out for myself yesterday and feel good about it!
while the baby slept mid day, instead of cleaning, I got on my TM and did a half hour, I thne took a long bath........ and still had some time to clean.
last night I told hubby he could get them to bed and hit the tm again for another half hour............ I ate OP yesterday and today I feel so good.........
I plan on doing the same.

renee