Kid was home sick today and Mom still wants to have her birthday party tonight...

[Jenn]

Okay - back me up Moms...

My daughter's friend from school was absent today and her birthday party is planned for tonight at her house. I told my DD to call her house when we got home from school to see why her friend wasn't at school. She was throwing up and had diarrhea. But, get this, she is still having her party! So, I told my DD I'm sorry but you can't go. She got upset, so I took the phone and politely told her friend, I'm sorry but she can't come. Mom calls me back and says, "My DD said you said your DD can't come..." I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???

 

[Darcy03231]

I wouldn't let my daughter go either. I can't beleive the Mom didn't cancel the party. That happened once with DD's friend. We got a call that morning (party was on a Saturday) and were told not to come, they had sick kids and the party would be rescheduled.

 

[seashoreCM]

It is a good idea for the person with the tummyache (the birthday girl in this case) to not eat anything for at least six hours after the last twinge of pain or bout of diarrhea/vomiting. Perhaps longer if the person "still feels" sick*. This may be enough to force postponement of the party.

While some tummyaches are not contagious there are a variety of stomach ailments that are contagious, Norovirus (or is it Novavirus?) is one example. Play it safe and have DD stay away from her friend for awhile.

Health hints:
http://members.aol.com/ajaynejr/health.htm

* After two days of fasting, perhaps a bite here and a bite there may be taken cautiously.

 

[TheDizMom]

Totally. I don't get why she is even thinking of having it in the first place. Keep your daughter away. I understand she is upset but point out if she goes she will be the one throwing up in a few days. No birthday party is so important it can't be rescheduled for when the kid is healthy. It sounds like the norovirus to me and that is highly contagious. Think cruise ships and stick to your guns.

 

[Mickey'sfriend]

Stay away!! Stay very far away!!

 

[meandtheguys2]

Ditto. I hate stomach bugs!!!!!

 

[Brier Rose]

OMG..people like this just amaze me!

My sis-in-law just did this last weekend! Dniece was up all night with high fever, etc. and they still had her party at a PUBLIC SKATING RINK the next morning!

Of course I didn't know any of this until after we had been there a few hours and I asked what was wrong with Dn because she was all flushed in the face, and kept laying her head on the table!

 

[kribit]

This drives me absolutely INSANE!! Why would a parent expose their child to several other children and make them sick?

 

[MiniGirl]

Wow!!!! It would never even cross my mind to still have the party. I don't get some people sometimes.

 

[PrincessGracie]

We were heartbroken last year when we had to cancel DD's birthday party because she was sick. But I wouldn't DREAM of exposing other kids to what she had (the Flu)!!!!! We rescheduled a few weeks later!!!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

No question about it- my kid would not be going. I absolutley cannot stand it when parents feel the need to parade their sick kids around other well ones when there is no need for it. I mean wouldn't her daughter have a better time not worrying about if whe was going to puke or poop in front of her friends? I get that joyous experience at Mommy and Me occassionally. Once in a while there is a Mom who feels the need to bring their sick child (obvious fever and runny nose) and I just don't get it. How is that fun for the child? I back you up 110%. Keep your daughter home. A few hours at a party is not worth praising the porcelein God.

 

[daisyduck123]

This drives me absolutely INSANE!! Why would a parent expose their child to several other children and make them sick?

Because the parents are stupid.
I'm a teacher...I've seen it all.

(I had one parent send her kid to school with a fever once, just so she wouldn't miss our field trip. And yes, the mom knew her kid was sick. The nurse had sent her home from school the day before with a 102. temp." I didn't even let the girl get as far as her locker...I sent her to the nurse to go home.)

Stupid, selfish parents.

 

[crazymomof4]

Okay - back me up Moms...
I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???

What is it with moms and their ignorance to spreading germs around?
I run into this all the time......mom's who let their sick kids play with your's and then you find out later!!
It's like they might as well say, "Heck, my kid is already sick, what do I care whether or not your kid gets sick?"
Sick kids should be home, on the couch surrounded by a cloud of Lysol spray! --just kidding, don't flame me- I'm not really that paranoid!

I do believe that considerate people keep their germs to themselves if at all possible!

I've called moms the day of a play date to tell them that my kid got sick over night and it would be best to reschedule. Sure, the kids are disappointed but mother knows best!

 

[dvcbnd]

Okay - back me up Moms...

My daughter's friend from school was absent today and her birthday party is planned for tonight at her house. I told my DD to call her house when we got home from school to see why her friend wasn't at school. She was throwing up and had diarrhea. But, get this, she is still having her party! So, I told my DD I'm sorry but you can't go. She got upset, so I took the phone and politely told her friend, I'm sorry but she can't come. Mom calls me back and says, "My DD said you said your DD can't come..." I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???

I have 3 children and I wouldn't send them either. You made the right decision in my opinion. I think that it is very SELFISH and INCONSIDERATE to want to expose a sick child to other children, just so they could have their b'day party. I also feel that it's downright sneaky if they don't expose the truth to all their guests ahead of time!

 

[kribit]

"Heck, my kid is already sick, what do I care whether or not your kid gets sick?"

This is primarily one of the reasons we avoid playgroups during flu season. I actually had a mom tell me this outright. She said to her child "I don't care if you're sick and threw up all night, your going out." At least she was being honest about her stupidity and ignorance. Most other ignorant people just drag their kids out and don't tell us their child is sick until AFTER our kids are up vomiting all night.

You can tell...this really is a huge pet peeve of mine.

 

[Tink561]

I can't believe she would consider still having the party. She should have been on the phone this morning calling everyone to cancel.

People amaze me.

 

[abookworm]

I agree, some parents are not very bright or responsible when it comes to illnesses.
We were at a b-day party and a little girl came that was my sons age-about 15 mos. They were both still slobbering on toys a little and exchanging these toys back and forth. After about 20 min the mom says, I'm so glad we could come since she (baby) was throwing up last night and had diarhea (sp?). I was so mad. I prompty removed my son from the area and washed his hands, etc. My Dh wanted to make a really rude remark but I prevented that. I wanted to say something but I didn't know these guests and didn't know what to say that wouldn't sound mean or rude.....
We left shortly after that. Luckily my child didn't get sick but my friend's child that had the party got sick and the mom called to let me know. When I told her about the baby she was surprised but what can ya do?
My mom has a daycare and she's had loads of parents bring a sick child (usually w/ fever) and act so surprised when they get a call an hour later...don't tell me they didn't know most of the time!

 

[nettii]

Wow and we wonder why the stomach flu can run ramped thru a school in a matter of a few days!

 

[TheDizMom]

After reading all these I felt the need to comment more. This would be my SIL. One of her girls gave my DD fifths disease, which I didn't know about until my DD got it and exposed two of the pregnant moms at her preschool to it(this is very dangerous for pregnant women and kids are most contagious before they develop the red face and get the temp). This then makes me look like the kind of mom who doesn't care. She constantly sends them to my MIL's sick with things like chicken pox, pink eye and high temperatures with unknown causes. My MIL never tells her she won't take them, but if mine get sick she tells me not to bring them or makes me come and get them. It really makes me mad. Twice she has sent her daughter to my MIL's (she takes the kids once every week) for the day because she was to sick to go to school, but apparantly the fact that she is exposing my kids to it doesn't bother her. What really ticks me off is I don't find out about it until the end of the day when I can't do anything about it anymore. Colds? No big deal, but anything else stay home and get better or at the very least give me the option of deciding if I want my child exposed to what your child has!!!

 

[fan_of_small_world]

If my child was the guest, they would not be going.

If my child was the birthday child, the party would be rescheduled.

I had a bad playgroup experience too. It was my day to host and one woman called to say her kids was sick, then she ASKED me whether I still wanted her to come or not. Um, NOT! I was really peeved that she made me make the decision to not have her come. I mean, really, she needed to grow up and be the parent. So, I told her it would be best to wait until after her daughter felt better. I didn't want my child sick, and I had a responsibility to the other moms coming too.