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[tric8783]

So I decided to bite the bullet and let my mom invite the people she wants to invite. We're at 139 now. We are hoping to only get around 75 or 80 so we'll see how that goes!

I asked my mom about talking to DF's cousin and she said she would never say that to someone, so who knows what is going on there. I'm just going to move along.. positive positive!

I've heard in the forecast we may have snow flurries on Friday, I really hope not since we are supposed to be taking our e-pics then! I'm really looking forawrd to them! We still don't have a location from the photographers, so I'm reallllllllly interested to know where they think "fits" us and they want to go.

I also found a website online for custom koozies! They sent me a picture of the design and I'm really looking forward to them! The front will say our names, the date, and WDW between a scroll design, and the back will say "To Love, Laughter & Happily Ever After" They are also only $.88/koozie which I thought was a pretty good deal! I'm hoping to put them out at cocktail hour in a basket near the bar or something! I will post a picture of them once they come in!

 

[tric8783]

You're not the only one, lol.... DF thinks I'm a nut. He's not stressed about anything and I'm on the other end of the couch freaking out, lol.

Families are difficult sometimes, and I hope it gets better for you!! The time will fly and everything will be great

YES! That is exactly what happens every night at our house I swear.
Thank you! I'm really going to try and just let things go as much as I can!

 

[belle2211]

Morning ladies!
I have some family drama I'd like some opinions on!

DF's family is large, (compared to mine anyway) so they probably take up about 1/2 of our guest list. All of them live near us, and we celebrate everything as one large group, we have at least one family party a month, and the ALL come.. to every.single.one. So to say I know these people and feel comfortable with them after 7 years is an understatement! DF didn't go away to school, he didn't live on campus either, so he has his core group of friends from HS and that's about it, which to me is great, shows he's loyal, really cares about them, and they all really are great. When we first started dating, I really wished my family were close like that, I have cousins, aunts and uncles, etc, but my parents lost touch with most of them, I haven't hung out with any of them since I was little and the connection is just basically gone.

So my side for our guest list consists of my parents, my two siblings and their husband and gf, one of my cousins that lives in FL, and my uncle that lives in CA, both the cousin and uncle are on my mom's side. We don't talk to my dad's side since my grandparents passed and that just is what it is. I did go away to school and I'm pretty social, so I have about 40 friends that I'm inviting, DF has the family and I have the friends. It actually balances in my mind.

My mom recently had an old friend pass away and since then she's been trying to re-connect with her side of the family. In my view, I think she is trying to use my wedding as some sort of family reunion. She wants to invite her sister (that I have only met twice in my life and I'm 28), and a few other cousins I also have only met a few times. I am very adament in telling her no, they are not being invited. We are having a destination wedding for a reason, we both want it to be small and intimate. I really don't want people I don't know at the wedding and DF agrees. My mom keeps sending me guilt emails trying to make me give in and say they can be invited, telling me it's sad I'm not considering other people's feelings, that we're inviting all of DF's family and none of mine, etc. At this point DF's family is my big family and I don't consider people I don't even know my family. I can't say that to her of course!
My mom also wanted to invite them to the engagement party and I told her no, since they were not being invited to the wedding. She went behind my back and invited them herself anyway, and then none of them showed up.

Am I being totally unreasonable?? Part of me says just give in, she is paying, who cares. But a bigger part of me says I don't want people I don't know coming to my wedding, it will make me feel awkward and uncomfortable and I don't want my wedding to be some family reunion where we don't see or talk to them again for another 20 years. Ugh!! What to do??

Hey girl! Sorry to hear all about the family drama! My parents and DH's parents invited a ton of friends to the wedding too. Probably as many as DH and I did. My parents paid for the wedding but I told my mom that as long as her friend didn't cut into my budget then it was fine And only a couple of them came, which made my mom happy

I also added a few people to the list over the weekend, (a few friends that were on the B list), after his cousin also told me they may not come because even if they leave the kids home, whoever watches them won't be able to get them to their baseball games. (The kids are 6 and 8). really?? haha I actually really like them, and I know they are very involved with their kids and sports, and maybe there's another reason they can't come and they don't want to say it, but it just got under my skin a little bit and I decided to invite my friends that are excited to come and have a good time!

Who knew this would be so stressful! I was really trying to be a breezy, stress free bride too and it is not working out!!! hahaha

And what is it with people. I have a cousin who is married and has 3 kids. My wedding was Saturday evening. He came with his wife and kids to Disney on Wednesday and left Saturday MORNING!!! Just so they could get our room discount! And they didn't even bother trying to see me! My mom was super pissed but I told her I didn't really care since I could use that money towards something I wanted more!

Good luck and I hope it all works out!

 

[CDsSleepingBeauty]

I will definitely let you know! We actually are probably right at that point, my ticker says 6 mos, a week and a few days! I better get on a calculator and get on the phone!!

You're def right! I'll post more about this below!

I counted up the days and I think Sunday is my day to call, so yours should be in just a few more days. I'm still going to double check myself, though. Good luck!

I hope the stress goes away and you're able to have fun with planning again!

 

[MrsDuck]

So I decided to bite the bullet and let my mom invite the people she wants to invite. We're at 139 now. We are hoping to only get around 75 or 80 so we'll see how that goes!

I asked my mom about talking to DF's cousin and she said she would never say that to someone, so who knows what is going on there. I'm just going to move along.. positive positive!

I've heard in the forecast we may have snow flurries on Friday, I really hope not since we are supposed to be taking our e-pics then! I'm really looking forawrd to them! We still don't have a location from the photographers, so I'm reallllllllly interested to know where they think "fits" us and they want to go.

I also found a website online for custom koozies! They sent me a picture of the design and I'm really looking forward to them! The front will say our names, the date, and WDW between a scroll design, and the back will say "To Love, Laughter & Happily Ever After" They are also only $.88/koozie which I thought was a pretty good deal! I'm hoping to put them out at cocktail hour in a basket near the bar or something! I will post a picture of them once they come in!

I hope your guest count comes to a number that you like!!

Snow!! How exciting! I'm a FL girl and think snow is pretty fun... I bet no one else shares that sentiment but me! For your sake, I hope the snow stays away for engagement pictures! Can't wait to see them!

The koozies sound adorable! Can't wait to see the pics!

 

[tric8783]

Hey girl! Sorry to hear all about the family drama! My parents and DH's parents invited a ton of friends to the wedding too. Probably as many as DH and I did. My parents paid for the wedding but I told my mom that as long as her friend didn't cut into my budget then it was fine And only a couple of them came, which made my mom happy

And what is it with people. I have a cousin who is married and has 3 kids. My wedding was Saturday evening. He came with his wife and kids to Disney on Wednesday and left Saturday MORNING!!! Just so they could get our room discount! And they didn't even bother trying to see me! My mom was super pissed but I told her I didn't really care since I could use that money towards something I wanted more!

Good luck and I hope it all works out!

Thank you! I cannot believe your cousin came there for the discount and left the morning before the wedding. AND didn't even try to see you?? That is bold! haha My mom hasn't said anything about me letting her invite them, she's too irritated that DF's family is accusing her of being rude. I guess it's always something

 

[tric8783]

I counted up the days and I think Sunday is my day to call, so yours should be in just a few more days. I'm still going to double check myself, though. Good luck!

I hope the stress goes away and you're able to have fun with planning again!

I have been checking timeanddate.com almost daily! Today I'm at 191, so tomorrow is my day!! Do you have the ph# for group reservations off hand? I was told to just call regular reservations, 180 days before. hmmm. I'll try anything I can!

I hope so too! Our e-pics are tomorrow so I'm hoping that gets me excited again!

 

[tric8783]

I hope your guest count comes to a number that you like!!

Snow!! How exciting! I'm a FL girl and think snow is pretty fun... I bet no one else shares that sentiment but me! For your sake, I hope the snow stays away for engagement pictures! Can't wait to see them!

The koozies sound adorable! Can't wait to see the pics!

I hope so too!! I am so interested to know exacty who is coming and who's not like NOW. hahaha

They're still saying snow flurries, but not until later. Hopefully they are right!! I am getting realllly excited for them, and to finally meet our photogs!

I am also really excited for the Koozies, I love any and everything that is personalized and they were a rather inexpensive personalization I thought!

 

[tric8783]

So I've been emailing with our photograher and she came up with this great board to show what we're going to do for our e-pics tomorrow!

I'm on the lookout for a light pink ruffl-y cardigan and a grey sweater for DF. She asked if DF could make this headboard for the shoot, to play up the breakfast in bed proposal, but we don't have any old wood laying around and I'm not really sure where to get some in a day, so that might be foiled. Still super excited to see what we really do!

 

[CDsSleepingBeauty]

I have been checking timeanddate.com almost daily! Today I'm at 191, so tomorrow is my day!! Do you have the ph# for group reservations off hand? I was told to just call regular reservations, 180 days before. hmmm. I'll try anything I can!

I hope so too! Our e-pics are tomorrow so I'm hoping that gets me excited again!

The number our wedding planner gave me is (407) 939-7707. As long as you have your room reservation number, you should be able to make your reservations tomorrow.

I hope your engagement pictures turn out great!

 

[MrsDuck]

Wow!! I LOVE your e-pic inspiration board!!! Gorgeous!! Cant wait to see those pictures!

 

[tric8783]

The number our wedding planner gave me is (407) 939-7707. As long as you have your room reservation number, you should be able to make your reservations tomorrow.

I hope your engagement pictures turn out great!

So I just tried to call and nope! haha She said I can make them at 180 days from my check-in date, and then she can make any reservations for 10 days from my check-in. We are checking in 5/2, so I have to wait another week to call! Next Friday it is! Foiled!

 

[tric8783]

Wow!! I LOVE your e-pic inspiration board!!! Gorgeous!! Cant wait to see those pictures!

Thank you!! I'm really looking forward to it!!

 

[ladyemz]

Just read through your PJ, love your dress and it will look super pretty with the sparkle on! Hope your e-photos go well today and you don't have any snow! Look forward to reading more, I especially love your ideas for the signs!!!

 

[CDsSleepingBeauty]

So I just tried to call and nope! haha She said I can make them at 180 days from my check-in date, and then she can make any reservations for 10 days from my check-in. We are checking in 5/2, so I have to wait another week to call! Next Friday it is! Foiled!

I'm so sorry. That's what I had been told by someone at dining reservations, so I was very excited until now. I called that number this morning and the lady I talked to gave me another phone number and said I would have to call them. I went ahead and called THAT number and the lady answered, "1900 Park Fare," so I figured that would work. Since my day to call is now the Sunday after yours, I asked her what time they would be open and she said someone should be in around 6:30 am. I guess I will be up early that day. Did they give you a better number to call to make your reservations?

 

[virtuous girl]

Awesome inspiration board! luv ur ideas
Do u have a facebook account?? Mrs Duck created the Disbrides page! Friend request me- Michelle Martin Sanchez. We r trying 2 spread the word 2 all the brides... Hope u have a blast taking ur e-pics!

 

[tric8783]

Just read through your PJ, love your dress and it will look super pretty with the sparkle on! Hope your e-photos go well today and you don't have any snow! Look forward to reading more, I especially love your ideas for the signs!!!

Thanks so much!! We had snow Thursday night, it was GORGEOUS yesterday (so happy & lucky!) and tonight we are supposedly getting 6-12 inches. Eek!! Thanks for following along!

 

[tric8783]

I'm so sorry. That's what I had been told by someone at dining reservations, so I was very excited until now. I called that number this morning and the lady I talked to gave me another phone number and said I would have to call them. I went ahead and called THAT number and the lady answered, "1900 Park Fare," so I figured that would work. Since my day to call is now the Sunday after yours, I asked her what time they would be open and she said someone should be in around 6:30 am. I guess I will be up early that day. Did they give you a better number to call to make your reservations?

haha, no worries!! Sorry I ruined the excitement for you! But next week we'll try again!! They told me to call back the same #, so hopefully I won't have any issues!!

 

[tric8783]

Awesome inspiration board! luv ur ideas
Do u have a facebook account?? Mrs Duck created the Disbrides page! Friend request me- Michelle Martin Sanchez. We r trying 2 spread the word 2 all the brides... Hope u have a blast taking ur e-pics!

Thanks!! So glad you're back I am about to head to your PJ!
Yes I am! I will go there now too! haha

 

[tric8783]

So our engagement pics could not have gone better... we are so thrilled with our choice for our photographers!! I was able to get my hands on everything they asked us to bring and I can't wait to see the pictures!!

We went down to their house (they live in New Haven right on the water) and followed them to a park close by, with a view of the water and some gorgeous trees. ahh I hope they come out good so I can share!!