I find this funny, because I would have quoted the exact same thing and said "it sounds like he is smart to understand his means and live within them." Like people are saying above it hasn't been said that he doesn't like to do any fun things, only that he has issues with things that cost a lot of money since he is in a lot of debt. Nothing was every really said about whether he thinks he will ever be willing to travel or do these kinds of activities, only that he doesn't do them at this point due to finances. I have a huge issue with your statement that seems to imply once you marry you can only do what your spouse wants to. My own DH honestly thought he wouldn't ever be willing to travel. Having never even vacationed, how would he have known? I married him prepared to deal with that because I know I'm capable of traveling on my own if he didn't want to. Fortunately he's decided that most of the stuff I enjoy is fun. I feel much worse for him because he has been unable to convert me to some of his interests (dirt biking, hunting, watching sporting events, transportation museums, etc.) I refuse to do those things, but happily send him off on his own or with his friends to do them. I've known several couples with long successful marriages where one spouse doesn't like to travel and the other travels a lot.