Is this tacky??

[illini]

For the past probably 5 or more years I have exchanged Christmas gifts and birthday gifts with a friend who I worked with for some of that time.
Her and her husband had a beautiful baby girl this summer. I have a 4 year old son. I am single ( which only has to do with this where money is concerned)
We don't 'hang out' really like we used to, but I would still say we are friends.

I was thinking this morning I would email her to see if she just wanted to exchange gifts with the kids and not with each other. I feel weird bringing it up though--maybe she wasn't even intending on doing anything!!
What do you guys think?

 

[minkydog]

No, i'ts not tacky. Is this a friend you see regularly? if not, maybe it's time to reconsider the whole exchange. You might be doing her a great favor in bringing the subject up.

 

[powellrj]

no, I don't think its tacky at all.

 

[tubachick]

Not tacky at all. If you two are friends (even though you may not "hang" out with each other often anymore-- family/work gets in the way) there is no reason not to suggest it. And the kids would benifit too

 

[eeyore kelly]

I agre with the others. It is not tacky.

 

[Marseeya]

How I always handled it in the past was to say, "We're trying to cut back on our spending this year, so would you mind if we just did XYZ instead?" and it was always met with a positive attitude!

 

[Ava83]

Not tacky at all, that is what we did and everyone was great with it.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I don't think it's tacky, and I do like the idea of seeing if they'd like to do something instead, maybe lunch or something.

 

[Beth76]

I don't think it's tacky either. It also might be a good way to give her an "out" if she would rather stop the exchange altogether (since she has the new baby and you don't really hang out anymore).

 

[Disney Doll]

How about suggesting that your kids exchange gifts and that you and she plan to meet for breakfast, lunch or dinner after the holidays when things settle down. It'll give you both something to look forward to, and you can choose a relatively inexpensive place to meet. Breakfast at a diner is usally cheap and delicious.

 

[rockin_rep]

She and her husband will probably be thrilled with your suggestion. Time changes everything, including Christmas giving. And its likely that if its not as meaningful to you now, then it isn't to she and her husband, either.