Is it OK to wish death for someone very old and sick?

[Chubroach]

I visited a nursing home recently to visit a friend of my parents. I was shocked at the mental and physical health of many residents of the nursing home. Many people were in their 80s and 90s and were in bed constantly in pain and their minds were gone. Many were in and out of the hospital on a regular basis. There was little chance they would live a full life anytime in the future.

Though when one of the residents died a number of the staff cried and said his death was such a shame.

If I were a relative of that man, I would celebrate his life but also celebrate his death. Am I wrong?

 

[honeywolf7]

I don't think you're wrong to wish release from a life of pain for them.

 

[musicalSaranader]

I agree with Becki. I would rather my loved one be with G-d than in that kind of incurable pain.

 

[mudnuri]

When my father was suffering from lung cancer a few years ago, he was really in a lot of pain, even with the morphine, and continued hospice support etc.. there was nothing we could do for his pain. There were times when I prayed that god would take him, to stop the suffering.

I believe 100% that my father led a very complete life, and would be in a much better place once the suffering ended. Im happy to say my father really only "suffered" for 3 days, up until then he continued to be able to carry out a day.

Brandy

 

[caitycaity]

right before she passed away in october, my grandmother was hoping to be released from her pain. i don't think it's wrong to want someone's suffering to end.

 

[darlene9947]

I agree with honeywolf. It's not the quantity of life but the quality of life. I had an aunt who had cancer. It started with a mastoid in her ear and eventually the cancer spread to her face. The doctors told her time and time again that she only had 1 year. When she did finally die, more than 20 years later, the cancer had eaten half of her face. She had no ear or eye on one side of her face and was in absolute agony. I hope none of my loved ones end up like that.

 

[Trish5768]

No, its not wrong. I've watched many family members suffer with cancer and I would pray that God would end their agony. Its not a matter of wishing them dead, its wishing them some peace as the go home to the Father.

 

[Lewski709]

you aren't wishing they go away, you are wishing the pain to end and for them to find peace and no longer suffer.

 

[Robinrs]

If you're talking about someone you just passed by and not someone you truly loved for a lifetime, the feeling is not the same.

The "shame" is for the living who will miss this person. The person is in a better place but the world all of a sudden is no longer a "better place" to be.

It IS the total definition of unselfishness but it's the hardest thing you can think, feel or do when it's yours.

 

[Rajah]

I don't think it's wrong at all.

That's one thing I'm actually kinda glad about how my dad ended up going. I hate that he killed himself, but at the same time since he was starting to decline mentally and physically, I'm glad I didn't have to see my "hero" turning into one of those who is just barely alive, constantly in pain, or just a shadow of their former self. I really don't know which would have been worse -- watching him decay, or the way he chose to go.

Anyway, point is, I don't think it's wrong at all to wish someone dead who is sick without the hope of healing.