Intimate Weddings- Are you tipping? And who?

[Maggimus]

Our wedding is coming up and I want to have all of my ducks in a row when I get there. Are you all (have you all) been tipping people there? And if so, who and how much should you tip?

 

[Maggimus]

haha - bumping my own entry hoping to get some help

 

[JennyandMike03]

Good question! I'd like to know the answer to this one too... We're getting married 4 days after you at SBP!

 

[Pollito916]

I didn't, but I really didn't think about it until afterwards, and realized that maybe I should have.

 

[Skylarr29]

You should tip you officient, you can tip your musician, and I don't think wedding planners can take monetary tips (or so I have heard) but you can give them another type of gift.

 

[Button]

I was thinking

Limo Driver
Musicians (Organist & Violinist)
Hair/Makeup
Officiant
Dress steamer

Video & photgraphy - Would you tip before you've seen the good? Thought could send something after

No idea how much though - any clues anyone?

 

[Pollito916]

I'm not sure of the amounts to tip, but there are plenty of books on wedding etiquette out there, and I'm sure that information would be in there.

By the way, I called my mom, and she said she took care of the tipping for me, so I feel better. I didn't ask her how much she tipped who, though.

 

[Cinderella2006]

I have thought about this and i will tip according to the service i get. Obviously if the service is outstanding i will tip more if it is average i wont tip as much, i am sure you get the general idea.
Heres a rough guide.

Co-ordinator: $50 (dont like my co-ordinator!)
Reverend: $30
Hair/ Makeup: $50 (there are four of us)
Violinist: $20
Limo: $20
Dress steamer: $10
Photographer: $30 (own company)
Videographer: $20 (own company)


I am from the UK and we tip differently so i had some time to think about it!

 

[Maggimus]

Wow thanks for the advice... and Congrats Jenny and MIke- maybe we will see you there while we are honeymooning

 

[JandJ]

I was thinking

Limo Driver
Musicians (Organist & Violinist)
Hair/Makeup
Officiant
Dress steamer

Video & photgraphy - Would you tip before you've seen the good? Thought could send something after

No idea how much though - any clues anyone?

We had an Intimate wedding so tipping is probably different than for a Custom - a lot fewer people involved. We sent our officiant the tip afterwards, but that was my fault because I left his card in the room - oops! We mailed him the card, a picture of the three of us, and a $40 tip. That was when the officiant fee was included in the package.

DH tipped the limo driver, I have no idea how much, but I doubt more than $20.

I tipped my hairdresser, but she was my personal stylist that I'd been going to for years. Found out MIL tipped her too, so she got about a $80 tip for 3 people - but she was worth it - she booked out her whole morning for us and came all the way to WL.

It never occured to us to tip the violinist or the photographer. I think I'd want to see the pictures before I tipped, especially if you're paying and it's not part of the Disney package. I knew our EM couldn't get a cash tip. I sent a letter of thanks to her and Rosie in Disney Floral. I was going to send our EM a gift but I guess I just figured it was her job. She arrived late and didn't go "above and beyond" IMO to deserve a tip. Rosie did go above and beyond, and I kind of feel bad that I didn't send her something, but she replied to my letter of thanks and seemed genuinely touched that I remembered her that way.

 

[Fairy_Tale_Bride]

The only people to tip in our situation involving the wedding was the dress/tux steamer, hair and make-up, and the officiant. We tipped the steamer and our officiant...but totally forgot to tip hair & make-up! I was so stressed and had to be out the door and dressed in 15mins! She did the best job of anyone and I wish I had tipped her!

 

[carolynben]

Tip anyone who made your day perfect in the amount you feel is right.

We tipped:
Officiant 75.00
Driver 40.00
Hair - makeup 50.00
coordinator 100.00 floral arrangement with card next day
flowers and music none
photography no tip but plated dinners at reception rather than cold cuts

Thinking back I would have tipped the last three but as all weddings - there is a lot going on and you can't be 100% perfect.