Inspired by tipping: another question for servers

[LindsayDunn228]

Do you mind if one of your tables overcompensates because of the rudeness/difficulty of another nearby table? Case in point:

About a month ago my hubby and I went to the Olive Garden. Sitting behind us was a woman about 60 something and what appeared to be her mother, who "looked" 80 something.

These poor ladies were so difficult (probably not intentionally) to the server, who was ours as well. All the mother was wanting was a plate of fried chicken, did they have that? The waitress very patiently described a ton of options on the menu and the woman ended up getting chicken parm without sauce. Good suggestion.

I know that sounds minor, but there was a lot more to it that that. They worried that poor waitress to death. She was SOOO good with them and did awesome. She was an excellent server to us as well. I tipped her extra and really thought about asking for a manager to tell my compliments to.

So does that explain my question? If another table notices folks are giving you a hard time, do you mind them acknowledging it and letting you know you are doing great? And asking for a manager to compliment you to? I know sometimes older folks have a tendency not to tip appropriately and I wanted to make sure this girl wasn't stiffed

 

[Chattyaholic]

That was very sweet and kind of you to tip extra because of the problems your waitress had with the other table, very nice of you to think of doing that.

I have been a server 9+ years and awhile back I had a problem with a customer, and she wasn't even MY customer. She was very nasty. I had to deal with her because her own waitress was outside smoking.
I had three tables of my own right around this nasty woman's table, and all three of them tipped very, very well. One woman in particular told me she also works in "customer service" and to not let that nasty woman bother me, SHE was the rude one, not me. So that really helped to make me feel better. I just wish I would have had the guts to tell the nasty woman exactly what I thought of her. When her husband paid the bill I told him I was sorry his wife got upset with me and he just shrugged his shoulders and said "she brings it on herself" so even HE knew it wasn't my fault. Thankfully nasty customers like that are few and far between.

But back to your original question, I'm sure your server very much appreciated your generous tip and it helped to make her day/night better.

 

[nativetxn]

I hope it doesn't bother servers for someone to do this because we do it all the time.

 

[Gwene65]

Just curious, why would you ask a question like that? You think you might really get a "No, please stop doing that" answer? Geesh. It must be a slow day at your house.

 

[Pagan Moon]

Yes, I do mind if you tip me more because of a rude customer...
J/K I don't even waitress....


Once we had a similar situation at a TGIFs, we didn't tip the waitress more (never even thought of that concept) but I did make sure I filled out a comment card and highly praised her for her efforts.. I also made a comment to the waitress, loud enough that the people heard me, about how that's such a shame that at the end of your shift you now have to get a table "like THAT" hey, the waitress smiled, that's all that counts...

 

[TandJ61574]

Just curious, why would you ask a question like that? You think you might really get a "No, please stop doing that" answer? Geesh. It must be a slow day at your house.

~Gee Gwenne65 if ya can't say anything nice then zip it plz. (hmm..can't seem to find the zip it smile LOL)

 

[live4christp1]

No we don't mind, in fact it's great if you let the manager know, at ours anyway. One night I passed a man about 4 times (he wasn't in my station but I had to pass him to get to my tables) Our companies policy is that we must great the customer with a smile within one minute of them being seated and I noticed he was still sitting with his menu and was looking increasingly aggravated so I stopped and explained that I wasn't his server but I would be happy to get him something to drink and go find the server working that station. It was a girl who is always in the breakroom smoking, talking on phone, etc., we always have to pick up her slack.

Anyway, when he left he told the cashier and the manager that I had just saved them a months worth of business. Turned out he was an out of town contracter staying in the hotel behind us and would be eating his meals there. Said that I was so friendly and nice and helpful that he would be back, said that he had been upset that no one had waited on him and was planning not to return.

Got me a huge score on my evaluation that comes ever few months for dining room awareness which is one area where lots of people loose points so I was really happy!

 

[Chattyaholic]

Just curious, why would you ask a question like that? You think you might really get a "No, please stop doing that" answer? Geesh. It must be a slow day at your house.

Nice, real nice

 

[poohandwendy]

Actually, I think Gwen's question is a legitimate one. Why on earth would anyone mind a larger tip or compliment, for any reason?

 

[ilovepcot]

Just curious, why would you ask a question like that? You think you might really get a "No, please stop doing that" answer? Geesh. It must be a slow day at your house.

Somebody cut your drinks off? Here..... smoothe out.

 

[grinningghost]

I worked in the restaurant business for several years and I don't think any server would ever be offended by that type of "extra" tip. They would undoubtedly be very appreciative.

 

[oregonmousefan]

Just curious, why would you ask a question like that? You think you might really get a "No, please stop doing that" answer? Geesh. It must be a slow day at your house.

Just curious, why would you reply to a post in that manner? Oh, wait, maybe you were the nasty lady discussed below and you're all mad now (again).