Inspired by LoriKay: If you could do your wedding over again....

[Kirby]

....would you change what you did? If so, how?

I would change mine. Granted we only spent about $600 on it. I made my wedding dress, long train, veil, petticoats the works. Still can't believe I actually did it. I paid a neighbor to sew the bridesmaids dresses, ones that they could use again by wearing them to church or a social event. We had about 125 guests, a cake, nuts, mints and punch. No grooms cake. My husbands family was so financially strapped that he didn't ask them to host a rehearsal dinner, therefore we did not have one. We spent quite a bit of time socializing with the guests. It was a laid back event.

I think that I would have just a small family gathering and have a really nice honeymoon. Either a cruise, trip to Hawaii or WDW.

Not that I regret our wedding. We really had a good time and everyone there remembers the way my husband dipped me when he kissed me. Listening to the recording you can hear lots of laughter and applause throughout the service. Which was our goal, for our guests to enjoy themselves.

Now how about you? Just curious......

 

[cgcw]

When DH and I decided to get married, I wanted to do so without any fanfair. We could have gone off to Vegas and been more than happy with that. But.....being DH had a DD5 at the time, he didn't just want to spring it on her. So, we had a very small wedding. I think a total of 25 people at a small little church with a small dinner afterwards.

I don't regret the way we were married. Maybe the part I'd change would have been the timing of the honeymoon. A childhood friend of mine was married just 2 weeks before us. So, we drove out to the Boston area to attend her wedding and then traveled down to DC for our "honeymoon". In hind site, I would have skipped my friends wedding or just gone for the weekend, and still planned a real honeymoon. As it was, we were married on a Sunday, took Monday off and went to work Tuesday. We should have taken off after the wedding to someplace really romantic.

 

[wvjules]

Inspired by LoriKay: If you could do your wedding over again....
....would you change what you did? If so, how?

Besides a different groom or not having the wedding at all?

 

[GoofieRuthie]

I actually had the wedding that I had always wanted. I had a beautiful wedding dress. The only problem was that it was a size 28. I get so depressed when I look at my wedding pics. I have had a gastric bypass since then and have lost 82 lbs so far. Once I reach my goal weight, we plan to renew our vows. I will buy a new svelt gown to wear and have pictures taken in it. Other than that, I honestly wouldn't change a thing.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>Lol - I had the same response as Jules... change the groom ... but then, I wouldn't have the rascals .... so, nevermind.

I would make more of the decisions, and would spend far less money than was spent. If my parents were so determined to spend that much $, I would have preferred that it go for a downpayment on a house ....

Although, guests still talk about how much fun they had at my wedding.

 

[Mishetta]

I can't believe this thread! I was just telling my mom last week that I had ONE regret over my wedding that at the banquet hall, instead of doing flowers, I did balloons. We had the "million dollar" lavish wedding & we married out of state (we lived in CA at the time & we married in MI to be near my family & friends) & all the traveling expenses, etc....that just at the point of ordering flowers, I decided to do something "in-expensive" & that is the only part I regretted!

We did have flowers on our table (the head table) but all the guests tables had balloons. It looked very pretty & the balloon decorating company made it look elegant but whaaaaaaaa I wanted my flowers!

 

[DonnaS]

The only thing I can think of is that I would have made sure my sleevelets were pulled all of the way up so that my upper arm didn't peak out when I had them on.

 

[Serena]

Yeah, I think I would have thought a little more first. But besides that.

We had agreed to keep the guests to just family and very few friends. To keep things small since we only had 10 days to pull it off. Well, all his friends were there, but very few of mine. I didn't appreciate that much.

The neighbor girl that crashed my wedding and caught the bouquet would not have gotten in.

The rest was nice. Oh, except I missed my cue to walk out because I was inside talking. lol

 

[Kirby]

wvjules, LOL!

 

[cinlee3]

I would have had a different minister. We had the minister from my church who we had known for years. Unfortunately he chose to bring up during the ceremony the fact that we had broken up the year before. I couldn't see my Mom's face or my sister's but everyone told me they were purple they were so mad. I really can't bare to listen to the tape because it upset me so much. I was literally shaking and praying he would just shut up.

I still to this day cannot believe he brought that up - he should have stuck to the script. The rest of the wedding was wonderful - simple yet elegant is how everyone described it.

 

[Michelle]

I would have had a different dress. We got engaged on Valentine's Day and got married in August (DH had to leave for a navy department head school for six months) so I had very little time to plan and did not get to shop around as much as I would have liked for a dress. My dress was okay but it's not really my style and I know I would have found something I liked better if I had the time.

That's a minor thing, though, everything else was great.

 

[snoopy]

If I got married later in life, I would have liked to plan it myself. However, I was pretty young when I got married (22) and my mother basically took over. Being that I was young and not really into planning parties, I let her. Looking back on it, I don't regret it for several reasons - for one thing my mother could put together a party better than just about anyone - the whole wedding was lovely as was the reception - and the other thing is my mother is now passed away, I was the only daughter she was able to do that for. I'm glad it turned out the way it did.

BUT, if I were to get married again, or renew my vows, I'm sure I would do things a bit differently. My wedding would have a lot less guests, and not such a big wedding party. Of course, I'm 16 years older now, so most of what I liked then has changed.

 

[NCRedding]

I would have changed the light and sound guy. Unfortunately, our church required that we use this old guy (who was a relative). He insisted on having dim lighting in the sanctuary--I felt as though I needed a flashlight to get down the aisle. I would also have made him check the microphones so that he would have noticed that the assistant minister's mic was in upside down, so that when he breathed, his mic brushed against his robe--because they couldn't hear his voice well, they kept turning up the volume until everytime he breathed, it sounded like thunder. I would keep the fly who chose to walk across my dad's glasses as he was giving me away--we needed some humor to remember. (it kept me from strangling the sound guy) Otherwise it was a great wedding--with lots of fun, good food and music.

 

[Barb]

First and foremost, I would never have my FIL be the photographer! What a huge mistake that was. We were short on funds and thought we could save money by asking him to take pictures. Ugh! I have the worst wedding album on the face of the earth.

 

[disykat]

I guess I'm lucky - I wouldn't change a thing! OH, I'm wrong - the weather. We rarely have snow here and had a terrible storm that kept some people from attending which was sad. But I have to say it sort of added to the excitement.

 

[mamajoan]

Thank you for asking..
First.. My parents and family would be at the wedding (they refused at original ceremony)
It would be an early evening wedding with lots of candles... I would have the white gown, flowers, bridesmaids and groomsmen...
I would have a big reception where everyone would dance and do the traditional fun things. There would be food, drink, laughter and joy... bursting at the seams.
My dad would smile and dance with me and Barry would dance with my mom.

afterwards we would have a lovely weeklong honeymoon somewhere glorious...

It would be nice to have a wedding that was a celebration for all.

Ya know what.. sometimes I think people spend way to much time planning the wedding when they should be thinking about the marriage but it sure was fun thinking about my perfect wedding! .... we did not have much of a wedding party.. about 30 people total.. reception at a college buddies apt (he gave us a keg of beer as a wedding gift) we had a quiet ceremony filled with meaning, friends that sang for us during the mass and a dear friend stepped in to give me away. We have some sweet memories... my fraternity friends got together and gave us a gift of money.. (difficult for college kids) it was enough for us to go to St. Louis and stay at a fancy,schmanzy hotel.
I am hoping that we can renew our vows for our 25th anniversary in two years. I wish my parents could have lived long enough to have attended. I think they would have liked to do that for me now.

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

If I could change something about my wedding it would be a new hussband, wow, I wasn't very good at judging. Now I am divorced, lonely but happy as anything

 

[grinningghost]

Not a thing. We got married at City Hall. Just DH, me, DD and my best friend as witness. Cost us $35, no fanfare, no music, no guests. We went to Perkins after for breakfast. Perfect.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

The only thing I would change is that the tape recorder would have gotten turned on. We were married before people did videos. My brother was going to audio record the ceremony. I didn't really care, at the time. If he wanted to, fine. He set it up (he was in the wedding party) but somehow the pause button got hit so there was no recording. I really wish I had it now, 19 years later. Oh well, I still have DH and that is the important thing.

BTW, the honeymoon was at the Contemporary at WDW. Wouldn't change that at all.

 

[mickeyfan1]

I would like to have not walked through LOCK UP in the county jail on the way to the elevator lobby, but that's how the courthouse was designed! My wedding cost $10.00 for the ceremony, 4 for the license, I think maybe 12 or 15 for my dress and DH's Jeans and shirt was probably 20 total. It was just us and the lady that did the ceremony. A very cheap wedding and has lasted 27 years so far.I would love to do an entire wedding pavilion wedding with my 5 sisters attending, their DHs as groomsmen, my mother (86 now) as the guest of honor, and a fab "honeymoon" night in a suite in a deluxe. But that will NEVER happen, so I am just content with what I have.