I'm so over this...

[RNMOM]

I can understand how all your stress about the wedding can make you touchy but in the big picture it isn't the worst thing you will face.

People want to be happy for you and share your happiness. Often it is difficult to know what to say to people, especially if you are not very close and know a lot about their lives. Just try to relax. Maybe give them a sly smile and a wink...they will think you are knocked up and they just learned the secret. Or, just tell them you want to practice a bit first.

It's like so many things in life where we need to speak with people but don't know what to say. I bet no one means to be insulting so try to take it such.

 

[Sparx]

Whenever someone asks when you're going to have a baby just reply with, "Well I don't know. When are you (your wife) going to get around to losing that babyweight?"

They won't ask again. I promise.

 

[MoniqueU]

I don't see why that would be offensive or bothersone? I take it as just casual conversation and interest. Perhaps you talked about the wedding non stop like most brides do for a year or so and they ae just looking fo a change of topic?

I had my kids so fast and close together I got the you know what causes that don't you comment alot. I thought it was a kind of tacky thing to say but wasn't really offended or annoyed. People do actually have a slight interest in others lives that doesn't always indicate they are butting in. Relax and either get used to the questions or don't go out in public as most anything is liable to bother you.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I thought of this thread yesterday. I have two kids already (ages 11 and 13). We live in Germany and with our visas I cannot legally work here for at least 3 years (we keep getting different answers as to what happens after that). Last night I was told I should have another baby so I will have something to do while the kids are in school.
I think I may have offended he person because i didn't stop to think and just said the first thing that pooped into my head which was "I am not THAT selfish." I honestly did not mean to come of so abrupt but it hit me so unexpectantly and I was so shocked and the thought of essentially having a child becuase you are bored that I spoke too fast