If you were married in the last 10 years, who paid for most of your wedding?

[monorailsilver]

I got married in May 2000. My parents paid for the whole thing, except for my dh's tux, his dad's tux & the groomsmen tuxes.

I didn't think it was an expensive wedding.

 

[DawnM]

Well, we were married 14 years ago, but here is what we spent:

DH's family paid for reception dinner
My family paid for the rest

The total wedding came to $5K and most of that was for the photographer. I was given a dress, we had a luncheon/buffet wedding, pastor was a friend, a close friend played the piano, and we had a beautiful cake. We didn't serve alchohol, so that was a huge savings.

I got a lot of flack from his family for having a "cheap" wedding when they found out the cost.....but all of the other weddings were more lavish and ENDED within 10 years.

Ok, I have a lot to say about that, but you didn't ask about that part.

Dawn

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

we got married 10 years ago this october. we paid for the majority of it- even took out a loan. his folks paid for out cake- 300 and they hosted the rehersal dinner, and sent us to sandals for our honeymoon(wish i coudl go back!). my folks paid for the reception- about 2000. dh and i paid for our attire, flowers, dj, photog, limo, church and all the little things.... i cant even remeber how much it was.

 

[Sparx]

Jsme is correct. People have given me LOTS of grief over the years. More than you can ever imagine. I've heard it all. 1000x over. In fact someone who I didn't even know when I got married gave me the old "I can't you got married there, didn't it cost a fortune. I wouldn't waste that much money on a wedding" speech just this past weekend when they saw a photo in our house.

It is what he wanted. There were lots of things I wanted to scale back and he'd contact the people behind my back and order them. It still makes me smile, which is what he wanted. He had plenty of money so it wasn't like I put anyone in debt or borrowed a dime. Over the years many people have tried to make me feel guilty about letting him spend it on me. So yeah, I'm a bit defensive.

This board is notorious for judging people on everything so I figured I'd circumvent the usual questions.

it sounds like you had a beautiful wedding, that really made your grandfather happy. may i ask where you got married?

 

[HsvTeacher]

My DH and I got married in October 1998. Although we were prepared to pay for our wedding, my FIL paid for everything.

We originally planned to get married on October 17, but my FIL's company was hosting a huge convention, and it was impossible for him to miss it since he was the owner. We offered to change the date to October 24, and he paid for everything. To us, it was so much more about the marriage and not the wedding, so it didn't really matter what date we got married.

 

[mrs_hower726]

DH and I just celebrated our 5th anniversary.

We paid for mostly everything. Our total cost (including rings and honeymoon) came to around $3,000. We were married by the JP and had a small dinner reception at a restaurant afterwards.

My parents paid for a second reception at a park in my hometown since many relatives couldn't make it to my wedding due to distance.

 

[hulagirl87]

My mom paid for our wedding. We got married a little over 2 years ago in Disney. It was a fantastic day and it was amazing to have her pay for it for us. She is the most wonderful woman ever

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

Fiance & I will be paying for our wedding (in 2011) ourselves.

I want to keep it small. I have about 10 people coming on my side (family and 2 close friends). He has a big family of around 60 (including some close friends of his). I don't know. My desire for a lack of drama trumps my desire to not spend as much so it may have to be pushed back to 2012 to have enough funds.

I would be horrified at the thought of my parents paying. And if they give us money as a gift, it will go into savings.

 

[Disney Doll]

My grandfather. And frankly, I don't want any crap about it. I was the only daughter of his only daughter and he was a dying man who WANTED to provide a fairy tale. And he did. His involvement in my wedding (10 years ago this October) brought him great joy in his final months. It also provided me with cherished memories, not only of the day, but of time with him.

Yes, it was lavish and expensive but believe me, he had the money. I've gotten grief over the years that we should have used the money for a house or investments or what ever more practical thing people like to throw out but the fact is HE wanted a wedding. He didn't give me money for a house or investments or what ever else people think is 'better.' He gave me money for a wedding, so we had a grand one!

And all that money that DH and I had saved for our wedding.....we bought a house.

Good for you!
Practical is nice, but I know it gives my parents great pleasure when they can give something to us or my brother & DSIL and see us enjoy it now.