If you have lost a loved one this year

[GailT]

OK, I am having a hard time with seeing happy people, hearing Christmas songs but my heart is not whole, my father has been gone 2 months on the 21st, this Christmas isn't a good one for me. I can't be happy and get into it, some people understand where I am coming from, others just poo poo me and say get over it and get on with your life. How is everyone else handling the holidays?
Oh PS, i have no BF or Husband, i am trying to get through this alone

 

[LBAK]

I have not lost anyone this year but the year my mom died was really hard. You go through it one day at a time. Do what's right for you. There is no right or wrong. As for other people, take them with a grain of salt. They mean well but don't always come across well. You'll get through it, the first of everything is tough. I does get easier with time but you will still always miss him. Have you joined a grief support group? Those help a lot. Again to you.

 

[mickman1962]

I've always tried to remember some fond xmas memories of my Dad. Try and look for something positive and not the negative. I know it's not easy but it's what you need to do.

 

[kaylajr]

My FIL died Nov 6 2003 so that Christmas was very Hard on the family especially since he was the one who "did" christmas in the family

The way DH and I and the kids got threw it was just day by day
we didn't FAKE it for anyone we didn't force the christmas stuff on ourselves
we did get a tree and do presents for the kids but it was just a quite year
so was last year
this is the first year we are really feeling christmasy again and there are still moments where we get sad and miss him

I know EXACTLY how you feel
even having someone to go threw it with doesn't always help
Grief is a personal thing

feel free to PM me if you just want to "talk"