I think it's time to say something.......

[Poohbear123]

I would have hired Tony Soprano a LONG time ago! Best of Luck to you!

 

[msdznyduck]

I would have someone (dh and the brothers) check up on her. Something kinda similar happened to a friend of mine's mom a few years ago. She started getting a little Alzheimerzy and this guy had her convinced her family was after her money (which was not true....they just wanted to make sure she had money to live on) and he almost had her totally turned against her own family..Everything was turned around against them. They finally just had to intervene. Turned out this guy had done this before to another older woman.
Good luck

 

[lisajl]

Blondie,

Just to put my two cents worth in here.

My DH's aunt is going through the same thing.

She is in her 60's, the guy is in his late 30's early 40's.
I am not sure.

Here's the deal. Her husband died from ALS. His wife died from ALS. They met at a meeting. They hit it off well. Did some things together.

Next thing you know, he moved in with her (lived in the basement). Then she let him move upstairs (much nicer place), then she moved downstairs.
She never let my DH or I meet this guy. She knows I would say something!

Well....she sold him her house. She said it was too much work for her. (WE think she took a big loss on it).
She said it was over with him. We all breathed a sigh of relief.

Oh, she did introduce him to several family members, just not us.
She has NEVER met his family or friends. We think he is too embarrased of her.

Well, my MIL just told us that Aunt and cutie pie are back together again.
Will this mess ever end? I think it is great if you can find someone you love and have a wonderful time with.
I cannot tolerate people being taken advantage of and being made to look like a fool.

Lots of prayers going out to your family with this situation!
We know where you are coming from!

Good luck
Lisajl

 

[Blondie]

Lisajl, thanks for sharing your experience.

My MIL was widowed a long time ago, when she was only 44. My FIL was only 48 when he died of a heart attack!

She had an affair w/a married man that lasted almost 14 years after her DH died! At least the other guy was the same age, and he only came around once a week for "company." And we did get to meet that guy. I think they both got tired of sneaking around and it eventually ended with both of them being in agreement that it was time to end it.

 

[lisajl]

Hey blondie...

This aunt lives in VA. I believe in Fairfax.

It sounds as if your mil has been lonely for a while.
I think that is the case with our aunt too.

I just wish she could see through him
Oh well...her kids will have to deal with it when he cleans her out.




Lisajl

 

[Blondie]

Earlier today I told my DH and one of my SIL that they better hope he isn't around in 6 more years...then they'll have that "common law" crap to deal with!

They both said she has a will, yadda yadda yadda, but I said, "oh yeah...when was the last time either of you looked at it?" I got no response from either of them.

 

[lisajl]

Oh boy Blondie!

Does not sound good! I hope they can open their eyes and really look at the situation.

Sometimes it is so hard to see it when you are so close to it.

I am sure DH's cousins could care less. They are all so screwed up it is ridiculous! I should not say that, cause they will care when something happens to her and there is no more money!

Lisajl

 

[Disney Debbie]

The fact that she doesn't let ya'll come in the house and no one is around HIM puts up a major red flag. It would be one thing if they had a relationship but she still had one with her family - but this sounds like an abusive relationship of some sort to me. She's cutting ties with her own children - WHY?? She doesn't have them around him - WHY?? She doesn't allow them in the HOUSE?? I would be over there in a shot if it was my mother.

Wills can be changed - easily. I wouldn't be as concerned about that though as I would about what he's taking from her NOW. Or doing to her home NOW.

 

[JasonLyons]

he is already taking advantage of her and will do so even more, but there is nothing anyone can do