I actually sent an email to one of the sweeties that helps us in Boston and told her that I could not believe that our doctor had not contacted Tom to see how he is doing with the chemo down here.. I wonder if he will call now, I wonder if I will get an email back...but you know what I have had it with insensitivity and I am going to speak up from now on.. I also have told my girls.. no matter what they say to us.. no matter how bad it is, we will not cry in front of them. They take it as a sign of weakness, I truly believe. I will cry if I have to when I get outside, but never in front of any of them ever again.