I miss myI Dad :(

[jamiesmom07]

I'm 38 and I miss my Dad. He has been gone 17 months now. He didn't live close to me, but I knew if I needed to hear his voice all I would have to do was call him. I am having a hard time dealing with his death, it was sudden and he was on vacation visiting me and my family when he had a stroke and died 2 days later. I was very strong for my Mom and my sisters. I made all the arrangements, made sure everyone had what they needed (as they all ended up coming from out of town). I don't know how to deal with the grief. I have talked to my pastor, I know he's better off where he is, I woudln't have wanted him to live and have to be on a vent forever. I am not angry at God, I'm not angry at my Dad.

I just miss him. I would love to have just one more hug from him.

 

[mommasita]

I am so sorry for the loss of your father Can your pastor suggest any counseling? Perhaps a professional grief counselor would benefit you..

 

[GingerJay]

I'm sorry. I lost my mom when I was 18 (I'm 30 now) and I feel your pain. When you think of them it's like ripping a scab off an old wound
I've got a funeral coming up this week (my great aunt) and it's dredging up a lot of those sad feelings.
What helped me the most after my mother's death was doing things that reminded me of her- it made me feel closer to her, KWIM?

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

I can totally relate. I lost my dad too just a few days before Christmas.

Some days are harder than others.

I hope someday we will see our loved ones again.

 

[Shelly F - Ohio]

Sweetie heres a

 

[LuvBug1977]

I am 33, and my dad passed away suddenly 18 months ago. I totally understand where you are coming from. I find it helps to write about it... even if no one reads it, it is a way for me to get my feelings out there without feeling like I am burdening someone else. In no way, am I saying you are burdening someone else... just that I feel like that when I try to talk about it to someone.

 

[rjb123]

I am so sorry for your loss.
I work full time as a hospice nurse, and just want to suggest to you that you might contact your local hospice. In our area, grief support groups are part of our service to the community. It really helps to be surrounded by folks who truly understand what you are going through. Grief is a funny thing. for me, I found that I could be going along, doing fine and then on one random Wednesday or whatever, it hits me. Talking about it helps a lot.
Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way.

 

[jamiesmom07]

Thank you for all of the kind words. It's ironic, I will be fine and then it hits me, that I can't talk to him.

 

[quasar4legs]

I can relate to your feelings.
My dad died 17 years ago this month and although the pain eases I still miss him. So often I am doing something and just think about how much dad would have loved to be there, to see his grandchildren or fix a leaking tap. It's the simple things for the most part.

Hold your memories close and give yourself permission to grieve.

Sending you a big cyber cuddle

Quasar

 

[Jerseymomof2]

WOW I feel like I could have written that post. I'm 38 and lost my dad a little over 2 years ago. I get so upset when I want to talk to him and I can't call him.

Most of all I get upst when we are planning our trp or going to Disney. Right after I had my 2nd child my dad went and bough a time share at Disney for the boys. Well he died before we could ever take them there. I know that he is there with us in spirit but I would much rather have him here on earth with us. He was walking across the room talking to my mom and just dropped. He had a massive heart attack and died before the paramedics could get there.
I get so upset almost every day because he would have loved to see my boys at disney. and t enjoy it with them.

 

[LCARDVERO]

I understand. My dad has been gone 16 years. He died on my 1st child's due date. I was 2 weeks late, so my dad never got to see my children. Only from heaven. Hang in there. I'm sorry for your loss

 

[jamiesmom07]

Thanks for the wonderful support. It's amazing how God works, this thread has been so quiet and all of a sudden I was having a horrible week, couldn't get through one day without tears and I heard from you all. Thanks!