I love my in-laws but...

[chmb1]

... if you had the choice of a stateroom directly adjoining (but not connecting to) your in-laws' stateroom or one on the next deck (both easily within a 30 second walk from your stateroom), which would you choose? All are the same category.

I can't decide not that it really matters or does it?

 

[JLSE50]

Something to consider and discuss ahead of time is how often you are expected to be together. Do they expect you to attend shows with them, dinner every day, the same excursions, etc.? Or will you do your thing and they do their thing and if you meet, then it is a nice surprise? Or something in the middle? Where the cabins are may be less important than this kind of planning.

Jan

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

if you had the choice of a stateroom directly adjouning (but not connecting to) your in-laws' stateroom or one on the next deck (both easily within a 30 second walk from your stateroom), which would you choose?

I'd sail on a different deck on a different ship on a different cruise line on a different ocean on a different hemisphere on a different month...

 

[KaitlinsMom]

I'm with you BD!!!

 

[my3kids]

Absolutely the one on a different deck! Otherwise, they will know when you are coming and going....and maybe you want to go without them!

The other deck will give you more flexibility in hiding from them if you want to, and is still close enough to get together easily if that is what you choose.

 

[Lisa F]

I love my inlaws also but I would choose a different deck. The walls between staterooms are not that thick, and have you seen that commercial "A little souvenier"? I think a little privacy might be appreciated by all (I'd rather knock the old headboard next to strangers whom I will never see again than next to my husband's parents, iew!)

Lisa

 

[AnnMorin]

I would have a several deck seperation! I love my inlaws immensely but they would be surgically attached to us if I allowed it (they would even pay the medical bills )
Give yourself some breathing room, remember the old saying "fish like visitors go bad after three days" Having them "on top " would get old really fast I think.

 

[jlp651]

BD I'm with you on this one!!!

but if I had to sail on the same ship-definately different decks...

 

[chmb1]

Thanks for saying exactly what I was thinking.

I'm only glad you all said it first !!!

 

[jgalecpa]

BD is a wise man.

If you can't follow his advice this time, the more steel that separates me from my inlaws the better (and I actually like my mother in law.)

Jim

 

[Favorite Auntie]

chmb1, do you have small children? If so you might want to consider rooms near your in-laws. My sister and her hubby had a 2 and 4 year old on their last cruise, and they cruised with my parents. They had rooms a few rooms a part and it was so convenient for when the girls wanted to see Nana and Papa! Every morning they would get up and want to go see Nana and Papa, my sister just opened her door and let them walk down there by themselves with her watching. They have pictures of them coming to "visit" in the morning, and they are so cute!

Just something to think about....

 

[LAMPSKIES]

My in-laws keeps saying "we all need to go on a cruise together". On our last two cruises I saw a LOT of worn out "son-in-laws" in the ESPN bar prior to dinner. We went this weekend to Las Vegas with them for a wedding. Between the phone ringing at 7a.m wanting to know if we were up(we weren't) and my mother-in-law almost passing out when I baught a 15.00 disposable camera for my DD at the Stratosphere and hearing "do you need anoyher beer". I think I'll pass on the "famiily" vacation.

 

[Mjasp]

I tell my DH we should take HIS mother for the Fl. resident rate. He tells me to have a good time and call him from the ports LOL

Seriously though, you should definitely go with separate decks.

Joanna

 

[whytcrystal]

My inlawas are coming with us in Feb and I am the one to convince them! I probably should have the talk about alone time for both of us though.

 

[Riodog]

We are taking our first cruise and we are going with my Sister, her husband, 3 nieces and 1 nephew . and of course my mom.. They have all cruised before with Disney a couple of times and the kids have begged Aunt and Uncle to go on cruise. We agreed at the start that we may or may not do things together the whole trip. We have agreed to have dinner each night with everyone to get a chance for that special Aunt and Uncle bonding we love so much and to just hang. We agreed ahead of time, like a year ago, that we would do what we like and if we end up doing the same thing great if not great also. We, DH and myself, decided we wanted to be up on Deck 7 The rest chose Deck 2. Privacy for us and a verandah!

 

[Mjasp]

We did the exact same thing traveling with friends. We enjoyed each others company at dinner and did meet up on the beach in Grand Cayman, but purely by accident.

Worked out good, we are all linked for dinner again next August.

Joanna

 

[tksbaskets]

I would thing the best of both worlds would be to have the in laws on a different deck. I would talk about expectations ahead of time. "I think it would be great if we can be flexible and do our own things during the day and meet up at dinner!" would be my plan.

My idea of a perfect day is lounging by the pool with the DH and a good book while the DSs swim or go to the lab. I have friends who would go slowly insane if not moving 24/7. (We are also the family who crashes around 11:00 at night and up at 8 for a full breakfast )

To each their own which is the beauty of a cruise. We are even reluctant to invite friends along because they may crimp our style.

Interresting thread!

 

[Duckielucky]

Who's paying? If the in-laws are paying and making the reservations then their opinion counts a lot. If you are paying and making the reservations then the in-laws will get "the best available cabin." I suggest that everyone have a prior understanding of the ground rules.

We took our daughter, son and daughter-in-law to be to Disney World. My son asked if they were expected to go around with us. We told him that he and DILTB could go where and when they wanted but if we met for dinner or something we would pay. They stayed with us about 90% of the time.

We are giving the Disneymooners a week at the Beach Club plus a four day Disney cruise. We were not asked to come along.

 

[eye R.N.]

but otherwise a different floor would be a very good thing.

Personally I'm with BD for both in-laws and my own parents.

 

[woody64]

I consider myself very lucky. I get along great with my in-laws and we are going on our second cruise with them(hi whytcrystal). This time we have connecting rooms and we think it will be great.

We went with connecting rooms that way MIL and FIL can watch the kids at night as they(kids) sleep and still watch a movie or read in their room. During the day we all go and do our own things which most of the time ends up being together but it doesn't bother us.

(plus they might read this and Christmas is coming)




woody64