I just saw the epitome of self-centered

[alizesmom]

Yesterday, after the funeral of my 6yr old son, an old friend came up to me crying. She then proceeded to tell me how awful her estranged husband was being to her. Am I being insensitive here?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Funerals so not the place to air what bothers you to the grieving.

One is there to offer condolences, not their own life's problems.

You are not insensitive, she was.

ETA: And I apologize for my insensitivity. I am so sorry for the loss of your son.

 

[wdwmom2]

Yesterday, after the funeral of my 6yr old son, an old friend came up to me crying. She then proceeded to tell me how awful her estranged husband was being to her. Am I being insensitive here?

Uhh, no, you are not being insensitive. You are getting ready to lay YOUR son to rest, "self-centered" is putting it mildly. There is a place and time for every discussion, this wasn't the place or time for that one.

Sorry about your loss. I can't, nor do I want to even imagine it.

 

[powellrj]

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I think sometimes grief makes people do wacky things and she just wasn't thinking clearly. If you value the friendship and this is the only time she has even done anything like this, I would give her a pass, BUT if she is always self-centered this is a perfect time to break it off.

Again I am sorry for your loss, I can't begin to understand what you are going through.

 

[EMom]

Self-sentered? Insensitive? You're being too kind to her.

I cannot being to imagine the pain you are going through. The thought of ever losing my child is like a knife in the heart and my thoughts and prayers are with you at this terrible time. It is unfathomable that someone would make your son's funeral about THEM.

My condolences to you and your family.

 

[momof1princess]

my condolences to you and your family. i think i'd be ending that "friendship". that goes so far beyond insensitive and thoughtless, there are no adequate words...i'm appalled.

 

[happygirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss

As rude as she was maybe she thought you help take your minds off of things

 

[SereneOne]

I am so sorry for your incredible loss...

 

[PatsGirl]

I have no words.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I am so sorry for your loss. Is it the boy on the bean bag in your sig photo?

 

[ORMom2Four]

She was being insensitive.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son.

 

[Mkrop]

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I think sometimes grief makes people do wacky things and she just wasn't thinking clearly. If you value the friendship and this is the only time she has even done anything like this, I would give her a pass, BUT if she is always self-centered this is a perfect time to break it off.

Again I am sorry for your loss, I can't begin to understand what you are going through.

I am so sorry for you and your family's loss I can not even imagine your pain right now.

I have to agree with powellrj, grief and funerals make some very uncomfortable and they just say stuff so as not to have to deal with your greif.

I remeber after my dad dying people saying some really wacky and insensitive stuff bc I really dont think they knew what to say.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[PaulaSue]

My condolences to you and your family.

 

[nrsldy]

Sorry for your loss.
I know when my DD died I was suprised by what people said to me at times. Sometimes others are so self centered.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

Yes, your "friend" was insensitive and incredibly rude. Is she socially off? I can't imagine a mentally healthy person would do something like that.

 

[Ember]

The only thing I can think of is that she didn't know how to process grief. Either hers or the pain of yours. This is NOT a justification, just a reason.

When I told one of my best friends that my mum had inoperable, terminal cancer she proceeded to tell me about her brothers wedding and how much stress it was for her.

I haven't quite forgiven her for not being there for me when I needed it, but when I'm a little more balanced I'm hoping to talk to her about it. I think (hope) she really just didn't know what to say or how to deal with it.

Apart from all that, I am truly, from the bottom of my heart, sorry for your loss.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little angel. {{{alizesmom}}}

 

[denisem]

I am deeply sorry - and offer prayers for you & your family for strength in dealing with such a tragic loss.

If this were a true friend (in the sense of give-and-take over the years), I might give a "pass", thinking maybe they were under stress when making thoughtless comments. OTOH, with a clear conscience I've severed a life-long "friendship" in similar circumstances. It just took that slap in the face to realize how self-centered they were.

Again, my heartfelt sympathies. Hoping for that day in the future when your grief is replaced (on the most part) by happy memories.

 

[Miss Park Avenue]

I have "friends" like that to, I don't see them much anymore.

I am so sorry for what you are going through right now.