I had terrible parents...anyone else?

[DisneyBamaFan]

I understood the context.

I quote "Seriously, the only necessity to being a good parent is love."
I understand that you were trying to say that what ever you do it does not amount to a hill of beans without love and I couldn't agree more but I also felt the need to disagree with your first sentence. If you had said the most important thing is love I would not have even responded because I totally agree but you said you ONLY need love and I had to strongly disagree with that statement.

Huh? You get that the sentence was a part of a larger message, but choose to ignore the entire message (which you agree with) because you disagree with one sentence (even though that sentence was an integral part of the message)?

You don't pull sentences out of paragraphs to determine their meaning. You read them in context. Each is not written to stand alone. If it was meant to stand alone, it would not have been in a larger paragraph. Do you really think that I meant that all you need is love or are you just being argumentative?

 

[jamimb]

Huh? You get that the sentence was a part of a larger message, but choose to ignore the entire message (which you agree with) because you disagree with one sentence (even though that sentence was an integral part of the message)?

You don't pull sentences out of paragraphs to determine their meaning. You read them in context. Each is not written to stand alone. If it was meant to stand alone, it would not have been in a larger paragraph. Do you really think that I meant that all you need is love or are you just being argumentative?

Im really not trying to be argumentative! BUT regardless of what was written in the remainder of your original paragraph your 1st sentence said that the only thing needed to be a parent was love The word ONLY is your word not mine. I disagreed with this sentence. I'm confused as to how your confused about this. You may have meant it is the most important thing but you didn't say that you used the word only. Okay maybe now I'm being a tad bit argumentative.

 

[wvjules]

Huh? You get that the sentence was a part of a larger message, but choose to ignore the entire message (which you agree with) because you disagree with one sentence (even though that sentence was an integral part of the message)?

You don't pull sentences out of paragraphs to determine their meaning. You read them in context. Each is not written to stand alone. If it was meant to stand alone, it would not have been in a larger paragraph. Do you really think that I meant that all you need is love or are you just being argumentative?

Im really not trying to be argumentative! BUT regardless of what was written in the remainder of your original paragraph your 1st sentence said that the only thing needed to be a parent was love The word ONLY is your word not mine. I disagreed with this sentence. I'm confused as to how your confused about this. You may have meant it is the most important thing but you didn't say that you used the word only. Okay maybe now I'm being a tad bit argumentative.

Depends on what the definition of is IS.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Im really not trying to be argumentative! BUT regardless of what was written in the remainder of your original paragraph your 1st sentence said that the only thing needed to be a parent was love The word ONLY is your word not mine. I disagreed with this sentence. I'm confused as to how your confused about this. You may have meant it is the most important thing but you didn't say that you used the word only. Okay maybe now I'm being a tad bit argumentative.

Let's just let it go...

 

[castleview]

DH and I are terrible parents. When the kids come home, they have to do their homework. If the spelling words are too easy, we talk to the teacher and give her permission to up the ante. We make our kids participate in the science fair. If our kids want to quit an activity, we make them finish out the session - we're commitment nazis I guess. And when DD8 was mouthing off and not stopping after a few warnings, we made her sit out the first half of the soccer game we were on the way to (DH is coach). Other coach wondered how we could do that to the team.

 

[jamimb]

Let's just let it go...

I agree! I just read this to my DH and he asked me if it was that time of the month.

 

[EllaM]

Every generation seems to repeat the mantra of "kids today..."

I find a few things to be true. With each generation kids seem to have more opportunities whether that's more activities, more available friends, more stuff, or just more distraction. The only thing that ever concerned me about today is how complicated life can be for parents and kids. We don't live in simpler times so it is much easier for parents to become distracted and not put the time into leading they should and kids become distracted and not pay attention. But in my parents' day it was the TV that was the major distraction. Now it's the computer. Sometimes the best tool you have is the Off switch.

There are times I think my nieces and nephews are too unrestricted and times I think they are too restricted. It really depends on the moment and whatever battle their parents have decided to fight.

Probably the worst thing a parent can do is to become apathetic with their kids. If you don't care neither will they.

 

[Tinkmom75]

A couple of brief telephone calls and a 15-20 minute teacher conference isn't enough to over-rule everything your own child says.

My parents listened to everything I said, and they knew when I just needed a sympathetic ear to fight my own battles, and when the situation was bad enough that they needed to step in.

I think its unimagineably poor parenting skills to just assume your child is lieing anytime they bring up a conflict with a teacher.

Heck this is why everyone can see Snuffleupagus on Sesame Street now.

I never said I wouldn't get both sides of the story. I never said I assume my kids lie. Like I said I haven't had to be put into a situation yet where I had to take one word against another, but if one of my kids got detention or something for misbehaving then they would have to pay the consequence.

 

[PeterPan09]

DH and I are terrible parents. When the kids come home, they have to do their homework. If the spelling words are too easy, we talk to the teacher and give her permission to up the ante. We make our kids participate in the science fair. If our kids want to quit an activity, we make them finish out the session - we're commitment nazis I guess. And when DD8 was mouthing off and not stopping after a few warnings, we made her sit out the first half of the soccer game we were on the way to (DH is coach). Other coach wondered how we could do that to the team.

and when your kids are adults, they will appreciate what "terrible" parents you were. I know I am thankful every day for how "terrible" mine were.