I had a missed miscarriage, 4 months later the GP thinks i have retained the baby :(

[Cinderella2006]

I am so sorry 2 have 2 put this here, this place really needs an agony aunt section, lol!

Just before Christmas i experienced a missed miscarriage. I didn't know i was pregnant, i experienced heavy bleeding for 2 wks, clots, sickness etc, generally not nice symptoms. I went to the Gp who gave me some tablets and was sent home to let nature take its cause. I have not had a period for 7 years so i knew something was wrong, i only bleed when i am pregnant.

I found this extremely upsetting, i got no support and i was very confused and hopeful that the baby was still there. With all of my children i have hemorrhaged throughout the pregnancy but still had healthy boys. I was not offered a scan and it still upsets me now but apparently its the procedure they follow.

This was in dec and i have been bleeding since, perhaps a wk or 2 break in between. For the past 2 wks i have been bleeding very heavy, generally not feeling well, weak, feeling sick. Been to the doctors on a number of occasions, just told my hormones are still settling. On sat i was having contractions and "gushes of blood" my thought was another miscarriage but its almost impossible as we use protection.

I went bk to the doctors again yesterday, the gp thinks i have retained the baby i am devastated and to make it worse he tells me a scan will take a month or two to determine this. Needless to say i have payed privately for a scan and i am due to have it tomorrow. Been sent away with more pain relief and more tablets whilst potentially carrying my unborn child who died in my womb nearly 4 months ago!? Surely this isn't right, how cruel. How can they expect me to wait 2 months!?

I am worried what i will find tomorrow

Anyone been in a similar situation, i would appreciate any advise/support.

Thanks for listening, my husband is supportive but he feels hopeless knowing that there is nothing he can do or say xxx

 

[Jets fan]

OMG, I have no answers for you, having never been in your situation. I really hope that everything is OK as this is really awful care you have been given.

Tina

 

[Cinderella2006]

OMG, I have no answers for you, having never been in your situation. I really hope that everything is OK as this is really awful care you have been given.

Tina

Thanks Tina, not long to wait now but i am feeling really emotional

 

[wils]

not long to wait now but i am feeling really emotional

I'm not surpised - this is majorly upsetting without having hormones involved let alone what you have been through upto this point.

I really don't know what to say and, with no useful advice to give I just send you a and I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Let us know how you go ok x

 

[Pinky166]

I have no experience or advise but it sounds as though you have been treated terribly by your gp. Big hugs to you & your husband.

Hope everything goes well tomorrow. x

 

[natalielongstaff]

I have no advice either im afraid......we are hear for you if you need to vent

 

[GlendaONeill]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[MrsJobba1]

I too have had a miscarrage but I did not retain the baby.

We are here to support you. I have since found out I cannot have chn which is heartbreaking. I am so pleased you have chn.

I did not get much support from GP but found comfort talking on forums.

Feel free to vent, share cry whatever you need.

 

[CustardTart]

I am so sorry 2 have 2 put this here, this place really needs an agony aunt section, lol!

Just before Christmas i experienced a missed miscarriage. I didn't know i was pregnant, i experienced heavy bleeding for 2 wks, clots, sickness etc, generally not nice symptoms. I went to the Gp who gave me some tablets and was sent home to let nature take its cause. I have not had a period for 7 years so i knew something was wrong, i only bleed when i am pregnant.

I found this extremely upsetting, i got no support and i was very confused and hopeful that the baby was still there. With all of my children i have hemorrhaged throughout the pregnancy but still had healthy boys. I was not offered a scan and it still upsets me now but apparently its the procedure they follow.

This was in dec and i have been bleeding since, perhaps a wk or 2 break in between. For the past 2 wks i have been bleeding very heavy, generally not feeling well, weak, feeling sick. Been to the doctors on a number of occasions, just told my hormones are still settling. On sat i was having contractions and "gushes of blood" my thought was another miscarriage but its almost impossible as we use protection.

I went bk to the doctors again yesterday, the gp thinks i have retained the baby i am devastated and to make it worse he tells me a scan will take a month or two to determine this. Needless to say i have payed privately for a scan and i am due to have it tomorrow. Been sent away with more pain relief and more tablets whilst potentially carrying my unborn child who died in my womb nearly 4 months ago!? Surely this isn't right, how cruel. How can they expect me to wait 2 months!?

I am worried what i will find tomorrow

Anyone been in a similar situation, i would appreciate any advise/support.

Thanks for listening, my husband is supportive but he feels hopeless knowing that there is nothing he can do or say xxx

Oh Aimee! I'm so sorry, hun... Try not to worry about tomorrow - chances are it'll be a piece of placenta that has stuck where it shouldn't after the miscarriage which is causing you to bleed. Your body is trying to get rid but can't...

I experienced something similar tho' I found out the baby was dead when I went for a routine pregnancy scan at 16 weeks or something like that. Seems the baby had died much earlier but my body had carried on thinking it was pregnant. I was sent away with the advice to just let the miscarriage happen naturally - which it did about two weeks or so later on holiday in Spain... Nice... Anyway, once that was over with I kept bleeding every couple of weeks or so - very unlike my normal experience! It took a while but I was referred for a scan which wasn't what I was expecting as it was internal but it confirmed that part of the placenta was still in place. I was then referred for a D&C which was performed under anaesthetic and removed the post-miscarriage bits left behind... I think this happened a week or so later. It wasn't pleasant and, all in all, I guess it took 4 months to get sorted but once done, the physical issues were resolved.

The emotional issues of carrying a dead (and longed for) baby were tougher to cope with and never at any point was I offered any counselling - maybe I should've pushed for it but I hate going to the GPs at the best of time esp as mine loves to push Prozac so I gave it a miss...

I hope that helps a little, Aimee - like I said, try not to worry...

 

[mandymouse]

Oh Aimee, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through these last few months. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I can't imagine what you are going through

Like everyone says, we're here for you, if you need to vent or rant

I hope everything goes well tomorrow

Take care

 

[jen_uk]

Aimee I am so, so sorry to hear this, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow and then be finally able to move on and grieve for the lost baby. I've never had a miscarriage but I did have a son who was stillborn so I know what you are going through. The doctors were rubbish in my case as well, I was in hospital when the baby died and knew when it happended that something was very wrong but the doctors refused to listen to me and wouldn't check the heartbeat, it was 24 hours until they did and by then the baby had died. It is at times like these that you need all your friends and family for support, we are all here for you

 

[BRobson]

I have have 3 missed miscarrages - each time at the 12 week scan they found no heartbeat but still I had to go through the weeks of morning sickness as they would not scan me early

Each time I was offered tablets which would take their course or a D & C which I opted for as it was immediate

I think it is appalling that they will not scan you right away. A nurse friend of mine always suggests that you just go to A & E and get seen there

I am so sorry you have to go through this - we are all here for you

 

[T16GEM]

So sorry to hear that you are going through this, I think the way that they are treating you is awful. Hope everything goes as well as it can tomorrow.

 

[Cinderella2006]

I too have had a miscarrage but I did not retain the baby.

We are here to support you. I have since found out I cannot have chn which is heartbreaking. I am so pleased you have chn.

I did not get much support from GP but found comfort talking on forums.

Feel free to vent, share cry whatever you need.

So sorry to hear that, i feel so fortunate after being told i would never had children. I have one ovary and my periods stopped altogether at 17 but i proved my consultant wrong.
Thx for sharing x

Oh Aimee! I'm so sorry, hun... Try not to worry about tomorrow - chances are it'll be a piece of placenta that has stuck where it shouldn't after the miscarriage which is causing you to bleed. Your body is trying to get rid but can't...

I experienced something similar tho' I found out the baby was dead when I went for a routine pregnancy scan at 16 weeks or something like that. Seems the baby had died much earlier but my body had carried on thinking it was pregnant. I was sent away with the advice to just let the miscarriage happen naturally - which it did about two weeks or so later on holiday in Spain... Nice... Anyway, once that was over with I kept bleeding every couple of weeks or so - very unlike my normal experience! It took a while but I was referred for a scan which wasn't what I was expecting as it was internal but it confirmed that part of the placenta was still in place. I was then referred for a D&C which was performed under anaesthetic and removed the post-miscarriage bits left behind... I think this happened a week or so later. It wasn't pleasant and, all in all, I guess it took 4 months to get sorted but once done, the physical issues were resolved.

The emotional issues of carrying a dead (and longed for) baby were tougher to cope with and never at any point was I offered any counselling - maybe I should've pushed for it but I hate going to the GPs at the best of time esp as mine loves to push Prozac so I gave it a miss...

I hope that helps a little, Aimee - like I said, try not to worry...

Its good to hear other peoples experiences, thank you so much. I am an emotional wreak at the moment and it helps to vent on here, i don't want to upset anyone else. I didnt know i was pregnant so i cant imagine how u felt going for a scan to be told such sad news.

Aimee I am so, so sorry to hear this, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow and then be finally able to move on and grieve for the lost baby. I've never had a miscarriage but I did have a son who was stillborn so I know what you are going through. The doctors were rubbish in my case as well, I was in hospital when the baby died and knew when it happended that something was very wrong but the doctors refused to listen to me and wouldn't check the heartbeat, it was 24 hours until they did and by then the baby had died. It is at times like these that you need all your friends and family for support, we are all here for you

So sorry to hear that. I just wish doctors would have more empathy x

I have have 3 missed miscarrages - each time at the 12 week scan they found no heartbeat but still I had to go through the weeks of morning sickness as they would not scan me early

Each time I was offered tablets which would take their course or a D & C which I opted for as it was immediate

I think it is appalling that they will not scan you right away. A nurse friend of mine always suggests that you just go to A & E and get seen there

I am so sorry you have to go through this - we are all here for you

I don't understand why they wouldn't scan u early even though u went through all that trauma!? Its terrible. I wish i would of went to A & E on the weekend but i have a phobia of hospitals and knew i wouldn't get scanned on a w/e, how i regret that decision now!

 

[Cinderella2006]

Thank you everyone, it has really helped! Now at least when my husband comes through the door he can have 5 mins knowing that i have already "vented". Will let u know how i get on tomorrow

 

[florida sun]

Loads of hugs for you, Im so sorry for what your going through

 

[joolz1910]

This is so awful for you. It is also so unnecessary as a scan, followed by a D&C would not only allow you to grieve for your lost child but to heal physically. Something similar happened to me. I was told that the baby had died at my 13 week scan and was given pessaries (v. painful) and told to let nature take its course. A later scan revealed that my womb was still growing as if I were still pregnant as I had the 'retained products of pregnancy'. I was devastated for a second time. A D&C was performed and I went on to have two more beautiful children.

The Miscarriage Association is a wonderful organisation and I can't recommend them highly enough. When I thought that I was losing my middle daughter, their advice was to go straight to A&E to get scanned. It saved me the stress of waiting and luckily the news was good. Perhaps you should go to your local A&E or women's health clinic and request a d&c - I don't think they would perform one without a scan. I was told that infections can occur if the 'products' are not removed - it might be worth querying this.

My heart goes out to you at this sad time.

 

[jjk]

for you xx

 

[jns]

sending you some for tomorrow

 

[saratogagirl]

I am so sorry, I have no advice but what you are going through is awful, I just wanted to add my support and offer you a virtual hug