I feel helpless, gf's grandma really sick!!!!!!

[MagicKingdom05]

Hi,

Well this was suppose to be a great weekend for my girlfriend and I and one we have been looking forward to for a while. We were going to spend last night together watching TV at my place and then on Sunday we were taking her younger sister and her friend to Six Flags Great America in Gernee, IL and meeting up with some of her other friends and there SO's.

Well I get this call from her yesterday about 5 pm which is unusual because normally she doesn't call me from work. Well she called to tell me that her Grandma in Florida was taken to the hospital because she had a mild heart attack. After talking to her sister, she decided to come over anyways, but if her grandma got worse, she would have to leave, which I told her I completely understand. I told her that we could cancel if she wanted, but she insisted on coming over.

Well early this morning she got a call from her sister telling her that the Dr's found that the Grandma had a leaky heart valve and some kind of anurism some place and that she needed to come home. After crying for a while in my arms she took off and headed home.

I just got another call from her letting me know that the Dr's are working on her now, and they think they can fix the damage and that she will be ok, but you know how that can go especially with someone up there in age. She is putting her older sis on a plane for Florida right now and unless it gets worse she isn't going down until next weekend or so. If the end does happen obviously she would go down asap, so it's pretty much wait and see right now.

She still wants to go to Great America on Sunday and I said that was ok with me and she wants me to stay over tonight because she doesn't want to be alone, which I said that was fine as well. Other than being with her for support, is there anything else I should do. I have never been in this situation were a gf's grandparent had this happen especially when they were very very close.

 

[MsDisney23]

Jason, keeping your GF and her Grandmother in my Prayer's...

 

[kejoda]

Your doing the right thing. Just be there for her and if she needs time to herself don't take it personally. Some people just need to be alone at times.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

MsDisney23,

Thanks

 

[MagicKingdom05]

kejoda,

Thanks. I figured that she would probably want some time just to herself, and that's why I was so surprised when she asked me if I would spend the night because she didn't want to be alone. I guess each woman is different, and she just doesn't want to be alone.

 

[kejoda]

kejoda,

Thanks. I figured that she would probably want some time just to herself, and that's why I was so surprised when she asked me if I would spend the night because she didn't want to be alone. I guess each woman is different, and she would rather have me around then to be alone.

I'm the same way. I much rather be with people. I just have had experience with people that needed some time alone and others that would get upset.

All the best for your dg's Grandma. She is lucky to have someone so concerned about her.

 

[Disney Doll]

The best thing you can do is be supportive.

Let her decide about keeping or cancelling plans, and if she wants to cancel, be understanding, which it sounds like you are.

You're doing all the right things so far.

Prayers for Grandma too!

 

[MagicKingdom05]

kejoda,

Thanks. I believe that a boyfriends first responsibility is to be there for there girlfriend no matter what, even if that means just being there as a shoulder to cry on.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

Disney Doll,

Thanks. Like I said, this is all new to me so I will take your advice and let her decide what she does and doesn't want to do plan wise. She already knows that if something gets changed or cancelled at the last minute that I understand and support her decision either way.

She told me that once she gets her sister to the airport, she will call me and let me know exactly what she wants to do, which should be in 30 minutes or so. She invited her younger sister and her friend to spend the night, but she doesn't think the friend can stay. So if they aren't staying she want's me to and we will just take them to see a movie this evening or something like that.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

I just talked to my gf and nothing has changed so we are still going with the Great America plans that we already have set for Sunday. Obviously between now and then this could all change, but at the same time between now and then nothing could happen, so we might as well go.

 

[crz4mm2]

You're a good man Jason.
Support her and love her. You're doing all you can.

Prayers for all of you.

 

[MagicKingdom05]

crz4mm2,

Thanks. I'm thinking about getting her a card on my way to her house. Not a sorry for your loss kind of card because she hasn't died, but more of a thinking of you during your time of need type thing. I'm sure she would appreciate the gesture.

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

kejoda,

Thanks. I believe that a boyfriends first responsibility is to be there for there girlfriend no matter what, even if that means just being there as a shoulder to cry on.

You sound like a very supportive boyfriend. That's what she needs right now. Just be there for her. Youre doing the right thing. Hang in there and I will be praying for her Grandma.

 

[crz4mm2]

crz4mm2,

Thanks. I'm thinking about getting her a card on my way to her house. Not a sorry for your loss kind of card because she hasn't died, but more of a thinking of you during your time of need type thing. I'm sure she would appreciate the gesture.

I think that would be perfect.
You are a doll.

Cathy

 

[LoraJ]

crz4mm2,

Thanks. I'm thinking about getting her a card on my way to her house. Not a sorry for your loss kind of card because she hasn't died, but more of a thinking of you during your time of need type thing. I'm sure she would appreciate the gesture.

That sounds great!

Continue to do what you are doing. Giving her your shoulder to cry on must be very comforting for her now.