I expected some rude people, but some of this was ridiculous...

[ARAITHEL]

After reading this post, Why in the heck to I keep going back to Disney World.

We all go back because the good outdoes the bad. One bad apple in the bunch might be annoying for 10 minutes...then we eat a dole whip or we smell those cookies on Main Street...it makes the angst all go away! :good vibes


I love what the PP said about doing something positive in place of the rudeness. So, on my next trip, I'm going to try to offer someone my spot, give someone a pin, etc every day of my trip. It'll be one of those "Disney Firsts" that everyone always wants to do. Spread some Pixie Dust to someone each day I'm at WDW is my goal.

 

[ttintagel]

Sometimes when I'm out in a crowd I think that we spend so much time alone and insulated from the outside world that we've forgotten how to be out in public together. Maybe we need to bring civics and manners back as a formal subject in schools.

 

[Too Far From Home]

I think this is what most people are talking about.

Several people have posted "don't care if you feed your kid, just don't want a "show".

For example, the mom sitting at the character exit at the old Toontown. The toddler was more interested in running around than "feeding". That did not stop Mom from opening her top (full exposure) and sitting there facing all of the people lined up to meet the princesses and the fairies. The "kicker" was when the GS guide attempted to stand in front of her (to perhaps give her some privacy) she started screaming at the guide about her "rights". She told the guide not to stand in front of her, that people were just going to have to "deal with it".

I would have stood as close as I could get and stared at her ****. Just stand there and stare . Maybe with a huge grin - and drool al little. Let her feel a little uncomfortable. I doubt that she would get it, but she might.

 

[pigletto]

I suppose if we're on the topic of rude I might as well add this one.
If your child is going to have an epic tantrum in a restaurant, or really even in line for a ride and it isn't stopping.... please please please take them somewhere else!!!!
We had several meals that were really unpleasant with all out screaming and wailing from small children. I can understand a few minutes while you try to get them to stop but if it isn't working.. do something about it. I know I didn't allow my kids to ruin other peoples enjoyment of their dinner. It sucks to have to leave, but it's fair.

 

[Hannathy]

I suppose if we're on the topic of rude I might as well add this one.
If your child is going to have an epic tantrum in a restaurant, or really even in line for a ride and it isn't stopping.... please please please take them somewhere else!!!!
We had several meals that were really unpleasant with all out screaming and wailing from small children. I can understand a few minutes while you try to get them to stop but if it isn't working.. do something about it. I know I didn't allow my kids to ruin other peoples enjoyment of their dinner. It sucks to have to leave, but it's fair.

100% agree

And it doesn't even have to be an all out pitching a fit in a restaurant, if they are crying and not stopping take them out!!!

 

[Johndoodle]

I would have stood as close as I could get and stared at her ****. Just stand there and stare . Maybe with a huge grin - and drool al little. Let her feel a little uncomfortable. I doubt that she would get it, but she might.

And than end up in jail? You can bet your a... of she would be crying PERVERT in just seconds. We can never win from this type of women.

 

[mom133d]

We were pretty lucky during our trip. Only had the folks come to a complete stop in the middle of the street to consult the map.

But I really felt bad for the CMs during one of the downpours. We were in the Norway store, everyone taking shelter. One "gentleman" had his family camped out by the cash register to wait it out. He got extremely pissy with the CM when they asked him to move so they could open the register. Complaining that they couldn't go anywhere because of the rain and there was no where to wait it out, they finally found a place and now they were making him move. I really wanted to go up to him and point out that he was blocking the register IN A STORE but I was afraid the guy would punch me. Seriously, he was that angry.

 

[dvcdisney]

We've been going to Disney for a long time now and we found that it has only been that last 5 years that we've noticed that the guest are getting ruder and ruder. It gets worse every year. On our last trip, we barely spent time in the parks. And we stopped watching parades and fireworks (unless we're in a remote area where guests don't find it necessary to push and shove because they paid a lot for their vacation and they deserve to get everything they want).

It's getting more difficult each year to explain such obnoxious behaviour by adults. It does give us plenty of opportunities to emphasize the importance of proper behaviour and upbringing.

And I have in some occasions said things loud enough to, possibly, educate adults and children around me. At this point, there are more people who appreciate it than not. I had one woman lean over to me and say that she wishes I could go on the "announcement" system to broadcast what I just said. I've had quite a few people smile at me with a encouraging nod. As long as we, as adults, behave properly and try to instill this in our children, we can still outnumber the "bad apples".

 

[palmettostatemom]

Which camp do you fall in?

1. Are you insecure about your husband looking at another woman, or
2. do you feel guilty because you did not breastfeed?

It's always the women who complain! So much for sisterhood and unity. Men are usually the understanding ones who don't give a rip.

Sorry if I struck a nerve, but I personally know a few people who are appalled by nursing in public and they do indeed fit into one of the two. I think it is safe to assume there are more.

I just want the hating to stop and for people to mind their own business.

wow, you are REALLY advancing the cause for breastfeeding. You have such blinders on about cramming it down everyone's throat that you can't conceive of different situations Sisterhood and unity? No thanks, not with someone who thinks like you.

You're funny.

But no. I fall in the "I don't want to see a woman's breast in public" camp. I have no problem with breast feeding done with modesty.
And yes, many woman achieve this.

I also don't feel guilty about NOT breast feeding because I don't think anyone would argue that my traveling half way around the world to adopt my girls trumps any loss over missing out on breast feeding. Heck, my kids were happy to eat ANYTHING....

I love you and I would not trade travelling to a foreign country to adopt my son just to breastfeed for anything in the world - of course, people like the poster above just can't get that

 

[goofyernmost]

I often wonder if people who stop in the walkway also stop and park in the middle of the road.........then tell the police "It is their fault they slammed into my car".

I'm sorry, am I doing drugs or is there a substantial difference between driving a car and walking on a path?

In a motor vehicle, by law, you are required to be in control of your vehicle at all times. That means anticipating the unanticipated. If you run into a stopped car, well, you ran into it didn't you, regardless of whether or not it should have been there. It certainly didn't run into you!

Now lets switch gears and start walking down a path. The speed is slow, the actions of others can be anticipated to the degree that you know it might happen and I would think you can control the direction you are moving in. There is no rule or social norm that states the there is anything wrong with stopping anywhere on a pathway that you want too. If you, like when in your car, are paying MORE attention to your surroundings then the people that stopped did, you should have no problem avoiding them. If you can't then you are also guilty of not paying attention to anything but whatever is on your mind at that particular time. No one owes you a straight line, it's not part of the package particularly in a crowded park. It takes no measurable energy to walk around. Even though I almost always stop over to one side when I have planned a stop, I don't think that there is a person alive that when in a Disney Park hasn't at some time or the other stopped unexpectedly because something caught their eye and attention.

As for the Breastfeeding discussion...I'm think I can truthfully say that my time machine is working because there is an awful lot of posts here that say that we are in 1952. Breasts are mysterious things. Originally designed to nourish a baby have now become something that are seen strictly as toys and any exposure will be erotic and should be forbidden. Funny thing about breasts and nipples is that both genders have them and I cannot, for the life of me, understand why anyone would care if they saw one or not.

 

[Mamato3Princes]

OP, all I can say is wow! People can be so inconsiderate and nasty. You are a MUCH better person then I am tho bc I would have said something to every single one of those people. Why would anyone think it's ok to mow someone down with a wheelchair or cut in front of people in line or in front of children at a parade? You have every right to vent after that! And I see in your signature that this is your 1st trip?! I really hope that these rude ppl don't keep you from going back to Disney!

 

[Luvscrappin]

I think that as a whole society has somehow lost its manners and there is no ettiquette left. Its not just at Disney, but just about everywhere. I think it more noticeable at WDW because it's supposed to be "The Happiest Place on Earth" and the rudeness ruins that ideal. There have always been rude people...for example my DS was 3yo and knocked down by a male adult to get a pony that goes up and down on the carrousel ..he is now 17. I just think there are more of them now and it has become common place unfortunately. The other day there was a story on the news about a young man who caught 2 HR balls at a MLB game...all the commentators made note of how polite he was, answering "Yes, Sir" and "No, Sir" to every question. I even noticed how polite he was and thought...what a shame, its so rare these days it was like he was a freak of nature for being polite ...shouldn't it be the opposite?

Oh well, just my two cents worth. I will never let rude people keep me from Disney ..I love it too much. I just wish more people would be considerate of others. Like they say "Kill em with kindness"

 

[Too Far From Home]

And than end up in jail? You can bet your a... of she would be crying PERVERT in just seconds. We can never win from this type of women.

LOL - they can cry pervert if they wish. There is nothing illegal about staring at another person in a public place.

 

[Johndoodle]

LOL - they can cry pervert if they wish. There is nothing illegal about staring at another person in a public place.

I have to confess I feel very uncomfy with these kind of ladies.
Must be something cultural or my age.
I was in Kindergarten with Methuselah.

 

[jesswindsor]

OP i'm sorry you had all of those rude encounters, nothing surprises me anymore.

 

[GraceMonica]

WOAH! why are people still talking about the breastfeeding?

Anyway, back to the subject. If people are being rude towards me, and I'm feeling extra sassy that day, I'll call them out on it. I'm also really good at giving them the death stare.
I once was standing in line to buy a treat at a store and a man came up and jumped in front of me. He could obviously see me, and he took the hint that what he did was NOT happening. I stared him down and he said "OH? There's a line" and he quietly moved to the back. Sometimes people don't even realize what they're doing. Understandable. After that I just smiled and went back into my happy mood.

Perhaps people continue to be rude because NO ONE calls them out on it. Most people need a reality check.

 

[t_catt11]

I have seen rudeness at Disney.

I remember a father who was FURIOUS that he couldn't ride Dumbo with both of his children at the same time (they simply would not fit). The CM tried to accomodate him - was even going to let him ride twice, but he elected to yank the holding area chain off of the wall, grab his kids, and storm off... neither kid got to ride, thanks to his actions.

I've seen parents yelling at kids for little things (not walking fast enough, dropping food, etc).

I've seen the parade pushers, the line cutters, the flash photo on dark ride takers, the yelling on Haunted Mansion riders, the runaway scooter drivers, the ankle bashing strollers, etc.


You know what? I've also met a TON of nice people. I make it a point to be friendly while at Disney. When in a long line, or crammed on a bus, I talk to my neighbors (if they seem so inclined). Small chitchat - like asking where someone is from, how many times they've been, etc - can lead to fun conversations.

I've seen magical moments all over the place. I've seen parents tear up over moments involving their kids (and I have done the same). I've seen laughter, I've seen joy. I've seen people give away fastpasses, seen them let kids in front of them at parades, seen them give away snack credits (and done all of the above, myself). I've seen cast members make people's days.


The rude people make me angry, too. But people, don't let them ruin Disney for you. People are people, wherever you go. Sadly, there are no anti-rudeness fields that stop folks from coming on property.

Disney is what you make of it. If you expect perfection, you'll never be happy. If you expect to have a good time, and perhaps create your own magic (or at least let yourself be open to it), you will have an amazing time, rude people or no.

 

[Epeyon]

So many people have said in the last X-amount of years things have gotten worse.

I doubt they've gotten worse, so much as you've started noticing it more because the sheen of Disney has worn off.

And there were plenty of rude people 40 years ago, now Disney just has such huge numbers there are more of them together. Even if 10% of the population is rude/ingracious/etc. that means 10% of 75,000 at Magic Kingdom on a summer day. Which, check my math, is 7,500 rude people.

And Disney hasn't helped, the new message Disney needs to start sending is "No you can't do everything here in your trip, make the most of what you can do."

 

[Chicago Mo]

What about the public urination with a John Travolta???

People are rude they will ALWAYS be rude. Yes it is getting worse because it takes a village to raise the children... It's the teacher's fault, it's the neighbors fault AND NEVER THE PARENTS!!!
Yes a screaming child is a product of the parents ALLOWING the child to scream and throw a fit. Yes you see a Child urinating in plants Because the PARENTS ALLOWED IT. Nasty Language, yet again mirror of the parenting.

Soapbox: I have triplets i am VERY proud of my kids they have manners, they SEE the behavior of other children and comment on it and they are 7
off soap box:
But I would like to apologize the whole whole Dis community... becuase i am one of those people who did stop in the middle of main street becuase of the shock of the castle!!!!! on our first trip then on the second with all the lights...
On my Dis Honor.. It wont happen again!!!!
talking about the breastfeeding i keep thinking about "me Myself and Irene"
and i giggle.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Okay, so since this has turned into a bf-ing thread, I have a question. If I'm at Disney and a woman who sits next to me on a ride starts to bf her baby without a cover and I watch appreciatively, is that rude? I'm not a guy, nor gay, just appreciative of the female form.