I don't like this father's day...

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

...since my long time married parents are headed for divorce. I am mad and sad about my Dad all at once. I figured he was with the young witch today, but he may not be. I got the nerve to call him and wish him Happy father's day. He seemed alone and was very nice to talk to. Now I feel guilty for not doing more. But HE is the one who wanted out! And I am sure my mom is home sulking and I don't want to deal with that.
And DH is doing his reserve weekend and won't be home until dinner. The kids can't wait to give him his gift-a Desert Storm Gamecube game he does not know exists(he was in Desert Storm).
I think once DH gets home, I will feel ok again. I am just weepy about my dad I guess. Kids and I went to Church alone and Dad was not there for the first Father's Day since we moved back here. We used to have big cookouts and a good time.
Ok, I feel better typing all this . I am just not used to being a grown child(30 something!) with divorcing parents. Yuck. I guess it is kind of like he has died in some sense.

 

[snoopy]

I'm sorry, that must be very difficult for you.

This Father's Day is difficult for me too, as have been the last 15 Father's Days - my father died way too young at age 48. This particular Father's Day is extra difficult since my husband is also away on business.

I hope your day turns out to be o.k. - at least you got to speak with your father. Perhaps its the beginning of a mutual understanding. {{{hugs}}} to you!

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Hugs to you too Snoopy. I think Father's/Mother's day are difficult for many people. My kids talked to him too. We do see him on occasion, but it is not the same. I even had a gift, but will put it aside for his b'day or take it back. Did not know how to get it to him(awkward) or even if I wanted to.

 

[honeywolf7]

((Hugs)) I'm sorry.

 

[snoopy]

BBB, I hope you don't take the gift back. Maybe put it away until you feel that you can give it to him.

My parents died very young, which in itself is very painful, but I cannot imagine what it must be like to have my parents divorce after a long marriage. I have friends who have been through this, and they have shared many of the same feelings as you have in your post.

Perhaps with time this will be something that you find you can accept...... I sure hope so, for your sake, and for the sake of your kids.

In the meantime, maybe you and your kids could go do something fun tonight? See a movie, maybe? Something to get your mind off your troubles? I'm thinking of taking my kids to see Rugrats tonight, I've been sort of moping around today, and the kids miss their Dad. I'm thinking its not exactly healthy for any of us.......

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

You're right Snoopy! I think we will go to Blockbuster and rent a DVD. Would hate to be away when DH does get home !
I will hang onto the gift. My kids have NO idea what their Granddad did to cause the divorce. He has come to all their end of year events too(games, concerts, recitals). They just see their grandma crying ALL the time and that is not healthy either. It is a tough situation. I am careful not to say anything to warp their impression of him. They are scared of my mom's emotions though.
Enjoy the Rugrats! Perhaps we will all go see it next weekend!

 

[WilmaBud]

I'm sorry, BBB. I feel bad for you and your mom. {{hugs}}

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sorry to hear the rough day, trpl B. A big {hug}.

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

Thanks for the hugs . DH got home and things got better for me. He is my rock.
Hope you had a nice day Dan.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Sorry you are feeling this way.Please dont take the gift back,give it to your father,remember he is the only one you have.i know that you are mad at him right now but Please just try to get along with him.things will get better.