I don't get my friend... should SHE or HE concede... marriage? *Another UPDATE*

[SiAmCrAzY]

I see Jerry Springer in their future.

well, better that they end up there than on court tv

 

[rie'smom]

well, better that they end up there than on court tv

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Whatever you do, do not accept to be in the wedding. Who knows what he would require of you.

Crazy couple.

My SIL just got married--and this is their compromise...

They got married ina private ceremony upstairs in the Aquarium where the reception was held. Guests only went to the reception. My understanding is that he got what he wanted (something small) and she got what she wanted (the big party).

First marriage for both, but a way that a couple compromised when neither wanted what the other wanted in a wedding experience. (only the parents were the witnesses)

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

OKAY.

Had to update again.

Had dinner with them last night.

I kind of poked around for information, and this is what I got.

The wedding IS important to HER. HER parent's actually ARE paying for it. They have the money saved. HE does NOT want a big wedding AGAIN, because he had one before, for his first marriage. Apparently, it doesn't matter to him that it is important to her.

HE plans on having a kid, and soon, and apparently she is sort of on board for that. His plan is to retire when the time comes, and be a stay-at-home dad. He is actually really serious about this. So, apparently SHE will be the one working, he will still expect her to work, him to stay home, and he will marry her when she finds a job.

I'd like to repost my last comment:

I'm going to disagree with everyone else and tell you that you, as her friend, should sit her down and have a heart-to-heart. My initial reaction was that this guy was a controlling jerk and now I'm sure of it.

She needs to RUN and she needs to do it NOW.

These people are obviously more than just acquaintances if you're having dinner with them, so based on that... I get that it's a weird situation, but if this were my friend I would be seriously urging her to rethink this entire situation. Posting about it on here is providing entertainment, but it's not helping her.

He sounds emotionally abusive and controlling.