I didn't know my older DDs life was so bad!!

[always quiet]

Can someone please assure me that someday, my 14 yr. old daughter will once again be happy??

My older DD had a "meltdown" last night. Something totally horrible has happened to her.............her friends think her little sister is adorable and they love her and they think her older brother is both funny and hot!! We went through the whole "Mom, do you know how it feels when your friends tell you this??!!!!!" This rant is accompanied with a whole bunch of . To make her twice as mad, her friends are calling her brother on his cell phone. It left me with such a . I quite sarcastically apologized for giving her a set a nice and decent siblings. Keep in mind, this is the same little sister that she had the stand off with the bus driver the other day when she went to leave the school without her (just in case you remember that thread ).

Can someone please tell me when she will start appreciating her family again?? Please tell me it won't be the same time that her little sister starts to tell me how terrible it is to be the baby of the family and how she is always being compared to her older sister!!!!! I need some "normal" time in here!!!

 

[Sandcass]

The joys of motherhood!

No words of wisdom for ya, except that it sounds like normal oldest sibling behavior, and "this too shall pass".

Good luck!

 

[Serena]

I haven't had that problem, but really, she's complaining because her friends like her sister and brother. Oh what a problem to have.
Chalk it up to hormones and I'd tell her to go to her room and listen to herself because you don't have to.

 

[Disney Doll]

She's 14. Isn't it her job to be dramatic?????

 

[tw1nsmom]

My mom calls the years I was 14-21 my "blue funk" years.

 

[HayGan]

Oh threads like this remind me why I am so happy that I will never have to deal with teenage girls in my house!

Look at the bright side, she will only be a teenager for a few more years so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

 

[LBAK]

Oh aren't these years something. These are the drama queen years and I think it's pretty normal. While it breaks your heart she will get over it pretty quick. It's a hard few years but life will get easier. However you might age by 100 years while your DD will be beautiful! gotta love teenagers!

 

[Pooh Crew]

Oh, yeah, teen girls are sooooo much fun! Daytime soap operas have nothing on the drama that goes on with a 14 yr old. Our teen is 16, almost 17 and she is slowly kinda sorta returning to normal--or at least tolerable. See, this is why they are so cute when they are babies--so we don't kill them when they become teens. I hate to tell you, but it will probably get worse before it gets better.

 

[Disney Doll]

I read a bumper sticker once that said "Grandchildren are God's reward for not killing your teenager".

 

[Maleficent13]

Well, i'll be the one to stick up for the teen...

Basically, her friends are the only people in her life she doesn't have to "share" with her sibs. She has to share her parents, grandparents, teachers etc. with them...her friends are supposed to be HERS and hers alone. I can understand why this is upsetting to her, especially at this age.

Just sayin'...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Oh I am telling you....This morning I got my 14yodd up to clean up the dogs. They had fun in the mud this morning after their breakfast. Imagine how happy she was.
She then proceeds to rant at her 9yo sister. AAACK!
We compromised on her getting up at 11am to go dog training & walking. Then she went back to bed where all teens belong.

 

[Deb & Bill]

A million years ago when I was 14, I also had a younger sister who was cute and perky and blonde and blue-eyed. I had mousy dishwater blonde hair and I wore glasses (and they weren't that attractive back then). I'd always get the "look at this darling little girl, isn't she so cute, what an angel... Oh and you're the other sister?"

Only my sister as she got a bit older got the "oh, you're Deb's sister. I'll be expecting great things from you in my class."

Remind your daughter that she has talents that her brother and sister don't .

 

[we3disneygo]

my dd is 12 ........right there with ya........

 

[KristaTX]

Why do I have "Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!!" stuck in my head now??

 

[Dan Murphy]

This is Jeana? The sweet Jeana I know? Naaaaa.

I think it passes in their 20's sometime.

 

[kendall]

Ah, let me join the club - DD is 13 (turns 14 in a couple months). Life is certainly dramatic in our house, too. Perhaps we should start a support group - oh wait, that is why I am here at the DIS , for my sanity!

 

[always quiet]

This is Jeana? The sweet Jeana I know? Naaaaa.

I think it passes in their 20's sometime.

Yes, Dan...this is 'sweet' Jeana. I swear, one of the biggest reasons I love to go to WDW is that this is literally the one place where the kids don't fight!! You know Dan, a nice photo thread would do wonders for me right now!!!!!


As far as Jeana "sharing" her friends, now that both girls are in the middle school, they do know some of the same people. They also just finished doing the school play together, they spent quite a bit of time after school, with the same group of kids. I don't let Jessica "hang out" with Jeana and her friends...just like I don't let Jeana hang out with the "tween" set of girls.

Aren't I lucky..........they are off of school today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ILUVMYBRIT]

I always tell my parents I'm surprised they still speak to me after my teen years (Im 34). I'm so not looking forward to having a teenaged daughter.

 

[figment52]

Can someone please assure me that someday, my 14 yr. old daughter will once again be happy??


Please tell me it won't be the same time that her little sister starts to tell me how terrible it is to be the baby of the family and how she is always being compared to her older sister!!!!! I need some "normal" time in here!!!

Everything you are describing is normal. All of it. I would be more worried if this didn't happen once in a while.

 

[dmslush]

I'm right there with you! Shelby is 14 going on 40 and is turning be gray in the process! Everything is dramatic, everything is 100% about her, everything is earth shattering.. ugh.. I hope she had two teen daughter's just like her!