Well, Captain.. It looks like you are in the same boat as all of us. I always disconnect when I get into the room if I do at all. VMK's servers are probably the worst on the Internet. Club Penguin can handle four servers at once with 200+ areas. You never disconnect on there. Anyways, this doesn't mean you should give up.
I have a few stories to tell you about my misery and woe (or more or less, my anger). I was playing HOST_Phinny's game a few months ago.. and it was a spinning game, the hardest to win. I managed to get into the line, and finally into the room. I spun the right numbers.. and guess what? Disconnected. I have no Inferno to show that I did anything that night. Around three hours of my time were wasted. I sent five messages in the past few months about it and have not recieved anything back. I have talked to staff, and they tell me that I have to find Phinny.
Let's just say Phinny and I do not have such a great friendship. I was playing her door game one day.. and she says one more game.. But yet.. I was first in line. Phinny decides that she has to go even though she had promised the people in line one more game. Then, at HOST trading.. she had to wander off to tell someone to change the signature while I was waiting to trade. When I got back, she boots me because it was the end of HOST trading even though she said I could trade with her when she got back. I have had numerous problems with other staff.. including (get this!) Hula.
So, I know how it feels to be in line and disconnect or see your wishes go down in flames because of a Staff member who doesn't want to do his/her duty. Keep trying and you will eventually get it.