I am SO ANGRY - Girl Scouts Rant (LONG): UPDATE Pg.12

[JadenLayne]

What a wonderful response. I would love to hear what she said to SP and love to hear SP's response. Good for that CEO!!!!

 

[Amlee]

I'm so glad things turned out for you both. I agree with the others about your daughter going in and meeting with the director. Let her be reassured, that not all GS leaders are like the ones she has encountered.


I have mixed feelings about the co-leader. I don't know if she was part of it or just went alone with it because she was out numbered. I have to give her kudos for starting the ball rolling on clearing things out. It sure made things easier for you.

 

[hentob]

It's refreshing to find people who handle things the RIGHT way. YAY! For you!

(((Hugs))) to your dd.

I agree.

Way to go OP!

 

[Mellie2162]

What a great outcome. Your dd is such a trooper to handle all this and you are a great mom for sticking up for her. I really think you should consider being a troop leader because you know what it's about to be a true GS. Good for you!

 

[ilovejack02]

I AM SOO HAPPY that the ceo handled it so well. I got all teary eyed also... what a sap I am. Girl Scouts is wonderful, i hate that a few bad eggs ruin can ruin a child's experience. I was in G.S. from kindergarten to 11th grade, I could slap myself for not going on through my senior yr, but I was to worried about boys at that point

I hope your DD knows that this is just one troop and there are many more out there that would be happy to have her!!!

 

[rie'smom]

Great job on looking out for your daughter. Others will benefit too! If your daughter is still interested in the GS,then it probably would help her to meet with the CEO.

 

[Keli]

Wow, you just couldn't ask for a better response by the CEO. I'm so glad that the GS is doing what they can to make up for the bad leader & co-leader. It's a shame it ever happened in the first place but at least they are doing what they can to make up for the injustice when they found out about it.
I think you should encourage your dd to give GS one more try. Even if she doesn't stick with it long term it I think it would benefit her greatly to experience a good troop with good leaders. Plus it might help heal some of the wounds this bad leader and her dd have inflicted on her.

 

[Aimeedyan]

Yeah, I'm so glad they responded so well! I hope your daughter is able to have a better GS exp next year.

 

[Disney_Dreaming]

Great news! I'm happy that the CEO took the time to listen to you and take action. I agree with a pp about you becoming a leader. I think it will be both rewarding and a lot of fun!

 

[Chicago526]

It's turning out to be a great lesson for your daughter.

1) Never treat people like Mrs. Snottypockets (but she knew that anyway).
2) If you do something wrong like the Co-leader did, fess up and make it right.
3) If someone you have oversight of screws up, do your best to make it right (CEO helping you guys out).
4) There are people in the world you aren't going to get along with. Sometimes you have to grin and bear it, other times you can and should stand up for yourself or others.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[Towncrier]

That is fantastic news. Thanks for the update. I suppose that we should have taken our beef to our local Girl Scout council, but we dropped the ball. I am so glad that your CEO took interest in the problem and is doing something to solve it.

 

[PaulaSue]

Glad things are on their way to being worked out. Sorry you DD had to be in the middle of this though.

 

[rabx5]

Glad you got a positive response!

I wish your daughter the very best and hope she can put this behind her. It's awful that she had to witness an adult acting like that all the time

So where are you going for your mother/daughter weekend?
Have a blast!!!

 

[Hannathy]

Just prepare your daughter for any backlash she might suffer from her daughter over this issue.

Got to agree and emphasize this!!!! Girls can be real snoots and this one has been taught by the best. Prepare your DD with how to deal with her talking about and possibly getting other girls to exclude her from things and even talking to them. She could spread some real nasty things.

 

[Nancyg56]

Yea! I'm so happy for the way the council is handling it. As the mom of a girl who has had to deal with bullying I know how heartbreaking this is.

I would hope that someone from the council is going to get in touch with the leader and let her know how she screwed up.

I was thinking the same as you. My oldest was bullied and it breasks my heart that this kind of behavior is encouraged by adukt who are in leadership positions.

I am so glad that the council is taking action to rectify this. Good for you for not taking the easy way out! Kudos to your DD for the way she has behaved throughout this. It is clear that she has a wonderful role model in you.

 

[TPCShauna]

I'm so sorry that you and DD have experienced this. I try SO HARD as a GS Leader to make sure all of the girls are included and involved. Our troop is so anti-clique that it is funny. I don't even allow the girls to choose their own buddies for field trips so that everyone has the opportunity to work together and get to know one another. My girls have been together for three years and one of my girls tried to make me promise last month that I would be their GS Leader "forever".

The problem with the G.S. is they just let any ******* be a leader.

This is a really unfair comment. Our Council does a background check and reference check on all new leaders and they take the comments very seriously. I am a leader and I don't even have kids. Yet I spend 5+ hours a week on Girl Scouts as a leader, service unit manager, orientation specialist for new leaders, new leader mentor, trainer. Why? Because I was a Girl Scout and it is important to me to give back.

Even if the audit shows nothing, it will be a pain in the butt for the leader to deal with.

Honestly, an audit should be no big deal if this leader's books are on the up and up. I leave our troop financial information out at every meeting so that the parents can glance through if they are interested. I also maintain a full list (including photos) of all troop and service unit equipment that I store so there is never a question of ownership that I cross-reference to our financial reports.

Her audit should be easy if she has nothing to hide.

I am just totally appalled at how awful this troop leader has been. Then there is the poster who said there was a troop that was invitation only. Doesn't that go against the whole idea about scouting, it is for everyone.

I hope you and your DD have a great time for your mother/daughter weekend.

Please keep us updated.

To be honest, my troop is "full" at the moment. We have 12 girls at the moment; I would take more but my assistant leader does not want more from the sheer organizational standpoint of coordinating that many families. I certainly wouldn't call our troop invitation only though. I take any new girls that are interested until we reach our cap.

please DO keep us informed! We're with you all the way! .....Did you ever watch the movie "Troop Beverly Hills" about a beveryly hills girlscout troop, and how one mother who used to only care about shopping becomes a troop leader and finds out what's important in life, all the while there is a Leader Snotty Pockets who only cares about winning and being the best troop..The leader's name is VELDA this woman is exactly like her!

I am service unit manager and I actually have a leader that calls her troop, "Troop Beverly Hills". My assistant leader and I just roll our eyes and go on our merry way teaching our girls what it means to be a GS.

I know that the leaders are all volunteers and that everyone has their own agenda. It is just unfortunate when young ladies have to suffer the results of those agendas. It's a life lesson that we all learn sooner or later. It's too bad that your DD (and mine) had to learn it so soon.

I'm sorry your daughter had a bad experience but I don't think it's fair to label all leaders as "having an agenda". I lead because I want to give back and everything I do is for the girls. It is much more common for the parents in my troop to have agendas for their daughter's involvement which can sometimes make it very hard to lead.

To the OP - I hope you do decide to look into leading or co-leading a troop. It is so rewarding and I would imagine it would be even more so for your own daughter. I hope you get resolution from this situation. I'm sorry you both have to go through this.

 

[janette]

Sounds like what GS is supposed to be about - great response from the council.

Something you might consider asking them is if there is another troop in your general area the same age as your DD that would allow your DD to be part of their troop for the trip? I can see that your DD wouldn't want to associate with her current troop but maybe another troop could show her what it should be like?

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'm so glad for you and your DD, OP! The CEO sounds like a stand up person doing the right thing. Yea!

Regarding possible backlash from Mrs. S.P. DD, has her DD done any bullying/harassing at the school? If so, you may want to talk with your DD's teacher and give her a heads up that this girl has "issues" with your DD. Shut down any further/worse bullying/harassment before it has legs.

I wouldn't be surprised if Mrs. S.P. calls you and blames you and your DD for everything and trys to ream you out. She'll try to play the victim. Be prepared for that. She sounds like the classic type that nothing is ever their fault. I bet she'll go out swinging.

Stay strong it's almost over.

 

[Disney Doll]

I'd like to be a fly on the wall when the CEO person talks to Mrs.SP.

Be prepared for backlash and prepare your DD for the same.