How would you handle this?

[tchrchgo]

my twin 8 yr old boys have an acquaintance who lives down the street. he has called a few times over the past few weeks inviting himself over. he is a real weenie so I usually take pity on him and let him come play at our house.

today he calls and invites himself over. I said fine whatever. my kids were working on lego projects so I entertained him with a board game in the living room. my front door knob rattles and then I hear the door bell. we answer the door, and it's the kid's grandma with his little brother. she throws him in the door, says see you later, and leaves.

I guess I must have sucker written all over my face. I don't know whether to say something to the mom or just stop answering their calls.

forgot to mention- my kids can't stand this boy since he is so oaf-ish and weird. the only time his mother calls me is to pick them up from day care or help watch them, never to invite my kids over or have us over for a social get together.


Help!

 

[JulielovesDisney]

I would say something to the mom.

 

[WDSearcher]

If your kids don't like the kid and the kid spends his time at your house playing with you, then I think you can safely say that this child -- as unfortunate as he is -- should find some playmates somewhere else. When he calls next time, simply tell him he can't come over. Either that, or let his mom and grandma know that you'll be charging a normal hourly babysitting rate from now on.

 

[DWGal210]

I would for sure say something!!! First, no way should the brother have been dropped off-that was very rude.

As for letting him come over at all....that's a hard one. If you say "no" enough times to him coming over, perhaps he & his parents will find other playmates for him.

 

[snykymom]

I agree that it was wrong for the grandmother to drop off the other child on you.

That being said, if this is how the parents & grandparents act, please consider that you may be the only ray of sunshine in these kids' lives. If you can show a bit of compassion on them (and maybe teach the same to your sons), you may be performing an act of kindness the results of which you might never know. I have heard many stories of abused & neglected kids who found an "angel" who would show them kindness and saved their lives.

You may be the angel to these little boys.

 

[minniecarousel]

my twin 8 yr old boys have an acquaintance who lives down the street. he has called a few times over the past few weeks inviting himself over. he is a real weenie so I usually take pity on him and let him come play at our house.

today he calls and invites himself over. I said fine whatever. my kids were working on lego projects so I entertained him with a board game in the living room. my front door knob rattles and then I hear the door bell. we answer the door, and it's the kid's grandma with his little brother. she throws him in the door, says see you later, and leaves.

I guess I must have sucker written all over my face. I don't know whether to say something to the mom or just stop answering their calls.

forgot to mention- my kids can't stand this boy since he is so oaf-ish and weird. the only time his mother calls me is to pick them up from day care or help watch them, never to invite my kids over or have us over for a social get together.


Help!

Yeah "Sucker"! (sorry!)

This kid invites himself over, your kids don't want to play with him, so you do....then you get his little brother. If you want to start a babysitting service, let the Mom know what your rate is. Otherwise, let them know that you will let the boy when your boys want the company.

It's still early in the summer - I'd nip this in the bud pronto!

 

[PaulaSue]

Ditto!

 

[EllenFrasier]

Maybe your kids are taking their cue from you and that is why they do not want to play with him? You seem to think he's an odd child - how did he get invited over in the first place?

If you don't want him playing at your house anymore, then tell his mother that her son and your kids do not share any common interests and you do not have time to sit and play with him yourself. Or maybe they will move away.

 

[DisTeach1]

Well, I wouldn't "say" anything to the parents or grandparents, as others are suggesting, but if my kids aren't interested in playing with him, I certainly wouldn't have him over. Why are you doing that? I don't understand why some people just don't say NO or don't answer your phone, or just don't let the kid or his brother stay. If your kids don't want to play with him and don't want to be his friend, why are you the one playing board games with him, Duh....Are you a door mat?

What's the dilemma here?

 

[DawnCt1]

Well, I wouldn't "say" anything to the parents or grandparents, as others are suggesting, but if my kids aren't interested in playing with him, I certainly wouldn't have him over. Why are you doing that? I don't understand why some people just don't say NO or don't answer your phone, or just don't let the kid or his brother stay. If your kids don't want to play with him and don't want to be his friend, why are you the one playing board games with him, Duh....Are you a door mat?

What's the dilemma here?

I agree. When the grandmother shoved the little brother through the door, she did it because she could. That was the time to say, 'i am sorry, but I was just going to send little Johnny home in a few minutes, so now is a good time to take them both".

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Of course you don't have to have any child over if you don't want them.

That being said, do you always talk about kids as "weenies" "oafish" and "wierd". I wouldn't be surprised if your kids pick up on that. Maybe that's why they don't want to play with the little boy.

Sorry to say but you sound like a bully more than a mom.

 

[JaneBanks]

I agree with a PP who said that maybe, for some reason, this little boy finds something about you that he wants to be around. You don't always have to say yes to him.

I also feel as if your words to describe him are a little... harsh. Is he rude, mean to your children or ill behaved? He's only a little boy. How would you feel if his mother was describing your children the same way on another message board?

 

[ginna74]

I am wondering what you said to the grandma after she threw the kid in like that.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I agree that it was wrong for the grandmother to drop off the other child on you.

That being said, if this is how the parents & grandparents act, please consider that you may be the only ray of sunshine in these kids' lives. If you can show a bit of compassion on them (and maybe teach the same to your sons), you may be performing an act of kindness the results of which you might never know. I have heard many stories of abused & neglected kids who found an "angel" who would show them kindness and saved their lives.

You may be the angel to these little boys.

This.

 

[GSDRescuer]

I agree that it was wrong for the grandmother to drop off the other child on you.

That being said, if this is how the parents & grandparents act, please consider that you may be the only ray of sunshine in these kids' lives. If you can show a bit of compassion on them (and maybe teach the same to your sons), you may be performing an act of kindness the results of which you might never know. I have heard many stories of abused & neglected kids who found an "angel" who would show them kindness and saved their lives.

You may be the angel to these little boys.

Also, this.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well, I wouldn't "say" anything to the parents or grandparents, as others are suggesting, but if my kids aren't interested in playing with him, I certainly wouldn't have him over. Why are you doing that? I don't understand why some people just don't say NO or don't answer your phone, or just don't let the kid or his brother stay. If your kids don't want to play with him and don't want to be his friend, why are you the one playing board games with him, Duh....Are you a door mat?

What's the dilemma here?

Agree. I would not have him over either. I don't get it.