How Would You Handle This?

[DisneyPRPrincess]

Give her a speech and then have her give the friend the same amount she had in the coin purse from her allowance.

She didn't take anything from the purse. She didn't even take it to steal it. I guess you can say that she took it in order to frame the other girl so that BFF would not want to be her friend. I suppose she figured if BFF (writing it this way so there is no confusion my DD is too into dolls and playing to be into boys...thank GOD) was upset at this girl she would want to spend more time with her.

They have known each other for 3 years. They take dance classes together and go to religion class together, and girl scouts. This is the first time that they are in the same class. When they are not in school and they are at an activity together they are attached at the hip. So I suppose that DD thought that it would be the same way at school. Both of the girls have lots of other friends. Her BFF plays with her and naturally at times wants to play with her other friends too. Somehow DD thinks that if BFF plays with others that she isn't her friend. This is something I have been tryig to explain to her that is wrong.

 

[DisneyPRPrincess]

I thought your punishment was fair except for writing to the other two children. I think a verbal apology to the other kids would suffice and allow them to move on faster. I am sure she is embarrassed enough but a formal letter of apology may cause her undue ridicule in the hands of another child.

Thanks for this advice. I mulled over it overnight and definitely see what you mean. Thinking it over thoroughly I know my DD tends to keep notes tht were given to her. So if they kept the letter the girls would always be reliving the incident rather than moving on.

I told her to give me the letters to her friends and told her to give the teacher the letter she wrote to her and then ask if she can verbally apologize to the two girls in private.

Thanks again!

 

[DisneyPRPrincess]

Um...mystery, I figured that out....look above you...

I am an idiot!!!

Caught it when you rewrote it, LOL Oh dear, I don't even want to think of the thought of Boy Friends. Have my fill with best friends right now.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

This brings up a story from my past. I was in second grade when I stole $5 from my so called "boyfriend" (whatever that was in 2nd grade!!!) because he was talking to another girl. I got busted and that was the only time I have ever been to the principal's office. The phone call to my mom explaining what happened and then coming home to her face to face was horrible. Scared me to death and never happened again!!!! I think I turned out ok, and I am almost 27!!!

 

[ndelaware]

I was in second grade when I stole $5 from my so called "boyfriend" (whatever that was in 2nd grade!!!) because he was talking to another girl.

Looking for alimony at seven years old?

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Looking for alimony at seven years old?

That's it...I learned early.

 

[Glinda64]

When my DS lies I make him write a particular Bible verse. It's a good way to get some handwriting practice and it makes him think about what he's done. Actually, now that I think about it, he very rarely lies now...Hmm...it must be working for him.

 

[momrek06]

Caught it when you rewrote it, LOL Oh dear, I don't even want to think of the thought of Boy Friends. Have my fill with best friends right now.

, to you OP. I am sure this will all work out. Life lessons, you know!

 

[DisneyPRPrincess]

, to you OP. I am sure this will all work out. Life lessons, you know!

Thanks for the hugs. Ahhh, life lessons. Where is that manual they come with again??? LOL