ilovemk76
DIS Veteran
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- Oct 20, 2010
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This is one of the most cruel and uncalled-for posts I have ever read on the DIS. Shame on you! How many foster kids have you hosted? How much money have you donated so that loving foster parents like OP presumably is can buy all new furnishings for every foster child who comes into their home?
I have spent thousands on foster kids and will continues to do so. What I stated is exactly what I was told by the social workers and they said that many of this kids have never had a new item or a real item they have owned their entire lives. They get made fun of in school for having to wear old clothes, the same outfit more than once in a week, the same five outfits week after week, for ill fitting clothes and smelling funny.
I have bought these kids new clothes each season, new bedding (no smelly stuff for them, new bikes, new toys for Christmas and their birthdays, back to school supplies and much more. I make sure all is new and they are what kids desire. I can do all of that and very budget wise by shopping sales, clearance and the end of the season.
You may not like to hear the truth but I am telling the truth. Put yourself in their shoes. They just see it as another stop on the "nobody wants me train". When they get to pick out clothes and decorate their own room they start to get that sense that they belong and are wanted here for them not for the money the state gives the foster parent.
The first child I took care of is now an adult. She has told us how loved she felt to get a new toy and have the same clothes the non-foster kids had.