How social are you? How often do you have friends over?

[DisTeach1]

So, I have this one girlfriend, I haven't known her that long. She and her husband are extremely social. They seem to have friends over every weekend...usually spur of the moment, but it's almost every weekend that she will end up entertaining or having someone over for a BBQ.

Then, during the week, friends will always stop by...for a drink or whatever.

She makes me feel like a stick in the mud, but my husband says he enjoys his quiet weekends too and likes a balance.

What about you? Is anyone else that social?

 

[NMAmy]

I'm not really very social. I have a job where I'm interacting with other people all day. By the time the weekend comes, I'm ready for some quiet time with my immediate family and possibly my mother.

 

[MushyMushy]

We're not social at all. Sometimes I wish we could be more, but we love our solitude.

 

[FireDancer]

I'm very social but usually not at my house. I'm single while many of my friends are married and have kids. Usually we all get together at the home of someone with kids so not only their kids but everyone else's kids have stuff to play with and also a place for them all to go to sleep if we stay late.

I would say that just about every weekend I do something social, many times on both days and Friday night. It could be a fire at someone's house, softball, a race of one sort or another, hiking with friends, getting together either at someone's house or neighborhood pool.

I don't just sit around the house very much.

 

[krcit]

In the last 2 years we have started hanging out with our neighbors about once a month...more often in the summer. Probably 3 times a month. I love it. We can all relax, no worries about babysitters or driving. It's a lot of fun and in fact I think we will host on sat night. I also try to go out with my best friend at least once a month for a drink. Keeps me sane

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Not social at all. I wish we were a little more social sometimes, but the PITA-factor outweighs the fun.

 

[RadioNate]

We are. Well usually we are. This last year has been tough. Many of our friends have been laid off and several moved away. The ones still "in town" all live 30-45 min away.

I'll tell you, my DH has been in a serious funk and I think this is one of the huge reasons why.

Before everyone left we would have people over every Sunday and usually in Friday nights for dinner.

We don't do too much during the week. Maybe 1 weeknight.

It has been depressing and we can't wait to meet new people.

My DH can not stand to sit around in the house. Drives him crazy. I can tolerate it more but I don't think either of us could stand it for weeks at a time.

 

[cinmell]

We're not social at all. Sometimes I wish we could be more, but we love our solitude.

Same here.

Not social at all. I wish we were a little more social sometimes, but the PITA-factor outweighs the fun.

So true!

 

[Minnesota!]

We are extremely social. Usually have parties every weekend or every other. Just had a huge one last weekend and our next one will be May 15. If we aren't having parties, we have people over for poker, or a UFC fight, or just a simple BBQ. Last week we had one BFF and her family over on Monday for chinese, and then Tuesday we had my other BFF and another set of friends over for a BBQ.

I love entertaining. I love my house being noisy and fun!

We do a lot of events out of the house, too. Scouts, sports, volunteering at the kids school, etc.

So yes, we are very social!

 

[WDWorBUST]

We're not social at all....but we're not anti-social either. More than anything it's logistics. We live 30+ minutes from most of our friends and it just makes it not really worth the headache. We do occasionally get together with friends and really enjoy it when we do....but we don't necessarily NEED to either.

 

[Pakey]

My husband is very social; I am not. He does all the socializing he wants at the country club.

I do not even invite family to our home.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm not really very social. I have a job where I'm interacting with other people all day. By the time the weekend comes, I'm ready for some quiet time with my immediate family and possibly my mother.

That's my answer exactly!

 

[MIGrandma]

I'm not very social at all. It used to bother me. Made me feel strange, and kind of a loser or something, to not have a lot of friends.

But, I'm an only child and while I had a lot of friends as a kid I still spent quite a bit of time alone and learned to entertain myself with toys and books.

Now, as an adult, I find I enjoy my own company vs. the company of others most often. So I guess I might be considered anti-social by some.

I enjoy spending time with my husband, our adult children and grandchildren, my Mom, and I do have one close friend (we've been friends for 40 years) but as far as doing things with other couples we just don't do that very often. We travel some, and occasionally go out to eat, with DH's sisters/husband but that's about it and we're fine with that.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I'm more social on a personal level. I think it's fun to hang out in pairs, three people or at most four people together. Otherwise it just feels like a jumbled mess and usually someone gets forgotten about or slips into the shadows. I still do hang out with my friends as a whole, we're a very close group of about 10 people but usually if we go to a restaurant, it's only about 3-4 people.

Where I live with my mom, it's not too suitable to have people over but with DFiance, having 20 people over wouldn't be a problem. He's a very social person and can strike up a conversation with anyone. Sometimes it can be annoying, lol.

 

[lecach]

We've been in our current house for 3 years and I dont think we have ever had friends over. We're not social at all.

 

[Minnie824]

We're not very social. DH & I work all day, the kids have activities every day and on the weekend. In what little free time we have, I want to relax and spend time w/my family, not with everyone else. We do dinner with other couples, more in the summer, but I need to plan ahead! I am not a spur of the moment type person. DD is starting now to try to plan friends over, etc, last min, which I guess I'll have to start getting used to at some point, but really, I like my time to myself.

On that note, I will also say I don't think theres any way I could vacation with other families. I know a lot of people do that too, but I think that would drive me nuts.

 

[KimR]

Stick in the mud here. I'm not social at all whereas DH is. We've worked things out, though, so that he does hit thing (poker) during the week and then the weekends we spend together as a family. I used to feel bad about depriving him of more of a social life and honestly, sometimes I still do; however he seems to have accepted it, for which I am very grateful.

Maybe you could work out a similar agreement with your DH if you feel you are missing out. But if you are content with things as they are I wouldn't feel pressured to be a social butterfly just because you think you should. Some of us are just more introverted than others and there's nothing at all wrong with that. It took me a long time and a lot of grief to come to that conclusion.

 

[NMAmy]

Just to clarify--not being social does not necessarily equal sitting around the house in my mind. We go to the zoo, go to a park, go to the movies, go to the mall or Lowe's, work in the yard, etc. but it's just my family.

To me, being social means spending time with friends and not just your immediate family.

 

[KimR]

Just to clarify--not being social does not necessarily equal sitting around the house in my mind. We go to the zoo, go to a park, go to the movies, go to the mall or Lowe's, work in the yard, etc. but it's just my family.

To me, being social means spending time with friends and not just your immediate family.

OH, we are that way too. We go out quite often. In fact, I get stir crazy if I'm in the house too much. We just rarely socialize as a couple outside of family.

 

[Robinrs]

I hardly ever have people over! I never have either. I'm VERY private in my social life though I appear overly outgoing in my world.

I love dealing with people OUTSIDE of my home but when I'm home it's me and my family and no one else....