How rude is this!?!

[Neoshoegal]

I just got the rudest wedding invitation I ever got in the mail today. A highschool from DH is getting married next month. He and his parents were invited (and came) to our wedding 6 years ago, and obviously also got a thank you card. They didn't have our current address (we moved a year after the wedding and they weren't exactly the people we kept in touch with), so they asked DH's parents for the address. The invitation is addressed to "DH and partner" Not only did they forget my name but they didn't even have the common courtesy to look it up or ask DH's parents when they asked for the address. Send them a reply card to say we can't make it (we're at another wedding that day) and signed it "DH & partner".

 

[angel659]

Hi

This happens alot. There are a few people I know who forget including my children names. There are people who shouldnt forget, but they do It boils down to laziness.

 

[Strommie]

That's shocking.

 

[Minniespal]

That's not good. As you say they could have asked Dh's parents when they were getting your address.

 

[cstokell]

It could be worse, they could have got your name completely wrong.

My DH was sent a Christmas card by one of his friends (who again had been to our wedding) addressed to DH & Jackie (??)

As it wasn't sent to me I did not bother sending one back!!!!!

 

[wils]

What a shame you can't make it! If it had been me and there was no way to find out your name (how difficult could it be) I'd have addressed it to Mr and Mrs 'Neoshoegal'.


PARTNER would have looked good on the placesetting

 

[Goofysmate]

how sad no one seems to think of theses things or take the time to ask any more. cheer up we still care here

 

[Danauk]

I agree that it is rude and also that it boils down to just being lazy. I teach in a junior school, I have the same children all day every day for a year. Any notes that go out have my name on, my name is on my door etc. Yet still I get notes that say Dear Teacher! How hard is it to learn one name!!

 

[jockey]

That is so rude.

 

[mandymouse]

I wouldn't be happy about it either

 

[Goofyish]

Can't see the problem myself - I forget names after 5 minutes never mind 6 years
Perhaps they didn't know whether you and DH were still together and so didn't want to put the wrong person's name on the invite. Certainly would bother me if my DW got an invite address to DW and partner - I'd be happy just to get invited LOL

 

[cstokell]

.....Perhaps they didn't know whether you and DH were still together and so didn't want to put the wrong person's name on the invite.

But this could have been checked when they asked for the address.

"So how are Johnny and em......., her name has slipped my mind for the moment, what is it again?"

 

[Goofyish]

But this could have been checked when they asked for the address.

"So how are Johnny and em......., her name has slipped my mind for the moment, what is it again?"

Perhaps with all the hassle that goes with organising a wedding they forgot to ask. Still wouldn't take it as being rude (forgetful, perhaps lazy, but not rude), and I certainly wouldn't loose any sleep over it - at least until I knew the full story
I'm sure they wouldn't have put "DH and Partner" to be rude or hurtful, especially after 6 years.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

My brother can't even remember my childrens names. If he ever sees them he say 'eh up you!' I 've long since stopped caring. I have a dreadful time with names if its someone I don't see a lot of, but I agree they could have found out if they spent some time trying.

 

[wils]

Just saw this on the community board

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1542617