How rude are you?

[browneyes]

I know, it's rude to ask that, but I'm curious. I work with a lady and she admits she knows she's rude, and she doesn't care if others know it. Actually, I think she's kind to herself by just calling herself rude (I have heard her refer to herself as others have referred to her though ).

If you know you're rude, wouldn't you want to not be rude?

 

[LarryE]

Rude enough to know better but not to rude to care

 

[Beauty]

It depends on the person or people , my mood, and the situation. I can't stand stupidity! It drives me crazy, so if someone is acting stupid I can be pretty rude. Sometimes I can't believe people are given jobs....I can't believe they are smart enough to fill out the application. That kind of stupidity drives me insane and I can be rude to them.

Now on just everyday things and people I'm not rude at all. Actually I think I'm overly nice. It takes a lot to get me to the point of even being a little rude.

 

[CookieGVB]

What's it to ya?

 

[SuiteDisney]

Aren't all Yankees rude?

 

[Robinrs]

I think being unnecessarily rude is one of the most unattractive traits anyone can have. And I'm a NEW YORKER!!

I used to be VERY rude, but now insist on treating people the way I want to be treated. It's a sign of a major maturity process on my part.

My sister works very hard to be rude, she uses it as a defense mechanism. I've lived with her rudeness all my life and more pity it than hate it. I think people who are comfortable in their lives and in their own skin don't feel the need to drag people down to THEIR level.

If only your co worker and my sister knew how it makes them look!

 

[peg2001]

If being rude gets you what you want, I can see why someone would not be eager to change.

I'm generally very polite but if someone manages to really get me angry, I can be as rude as anyone. So, if you are completely blocking a passageway and I politely say excuse me and you don't move, I'll try again with "could I please get through?", and if you still block my path, I'll probably shove past you with an ugly remark.

Peggy

 

[Steve H.]

Depends on who you ask!

 

[Disney845]

I would like to think of myself as a nice person, but truthfully know that is not always the case. There are just some people that IRK you the wrong way. My mother always tried to tell me that when someone was mean or rude to you that you should be overly nice back to them, "kill them with kindness" she said. Of course more often than not when I am in a situation with someone who is "bothering" me, I tend to resort to throwing a few zingers of my own.

 

[JAP]

My dad is rude! I love him dearly but sometimes he gets bent out of shape on the smallest things. It makes me nuts!

I try not to be rude. Some days my impatience shows and I always regret it.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by peg2001
If being rude gets you what you want, I can see why someone would not be eager to change.

This lady rarely gets things the way she wants because of her rudeness. She can't figure out why she doesn't get things her way.

Sis, Yankees aren't rude. Besides, this lady has lived in Georgia all her life.

 

[RickinNYC]

The only time I'm ever rude to anyone is if I see them being rude to someone in my vicinity or, or most especially, rude to a family member or friend. I go through the roof when that happens. If someone is rude to me, I can deal with it to a point.

I think if everyone just really settled down for a quick minute and took a cold hard look at themselves, perhaps most wouldn't be quite as mean to one another.

But one comment or look or action against a loved one, I'm all over you like flies to poop!

New York City has a pretty bad rap about rudeness. Some of it is founded in truth, sure. But I've found that most everyone I know is far more polite, sincere, kind and helpful than one would expect.

In fact, if I see a tourist (I can see you coming a mile away ) staring helplessly at a subway map, I always ask if they need help and point out which train to take and what stop to get off, etc... If they're trying to figure out which is the west side or east side, I stop and point them out. My partner does the same. We've walked out of towners to restaurants, theaters or street corners so that they know exactly where to go. He and I offer to take pictures and SWEAR we won't steal the camera! And you know what? We're not strange about that. New Yorkers do things like this all the time!

But be mean to my Mom, Dad, brothers, partner or friends, may the Lord help your soul! LOL!.... no, really.....

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

Originally posted by Steve H.
Depends on who you ask!

Ditto here!

Great response, Steve!!

 

[Mishetta]

The nicest most helpful people I've ever met are from NY. (I was born in Brooklyn & raised on Long Island BUT that has nothing to do with it!)

The RUDEST people on earth that I've ever met live in France! Now there are some people who need some serious attitude adjustment!

Yes, I can be very rude in France!

 

[Robinrs]

Originally posted by RickinNYC

New York City has a pretty bad rap about rudeness. Some of it is founded in truth, sure. But I've found that most everyone I know is far more polite, sincere, kind and helpful than one would expect.


But be mean to my Mom, Dad, brothers, partner or friends, may the Lord help your soul! LOL!.... no, really.....

I SOOOOOO agree with this Rick!!

I moved to Georgia when I was 31 years old. I miss the brutal honesty of New Yorkers. They are abrupt, in your face but you will have NO DOUBT about how they feel about you, EVER. IMHO, it's refreshing.

Rudeness can be expressed in many ways. People who claim to do something then don't do it with no explanation... ... now THAT is RUDE!! I've gotten that constantly since I left the "rude" New York, man, give me that kind of "rude" anyday!!

 

[JAP]

My dad is from NY/NJ. Yes sometimes he is in your face in a NY kind of way, however, he sounds a lot like Robin's sister. Sometimes I think he complains or lashes out b/c he has no other way to express his feelings. Sigh.

 

[Tiggeroo]

I used to associate assertiveness with rudeness. And as a consequence, I frequently let people push me around, or would accept things that weren't what I wanted, etc...Basically being a dish mop with the excuse of being polite. I still have these tendencies, but I have begun to change them.
If I don't, one day I will wake up, and my life will have passed me by, while I lived it to please others. (I know there are times when this is good, but I took it to an extreme) So, now, while I would still not want to hurt somebodies feelings, and I would try not to be rude, I am going to be more assertive.

 

[Disneymoon04]

I tend to react to people how they are acting to me... so if someone is rude to me then yeah, i'm rude back. Otherwise, no, I'm not rude.

 

[ChibiJones]

I'm generally very polite but if someone manages to really get me angry, I can be as rude as anyone. So, if you are completely blocking a passageway and I politely say excuse me and you don't move, I'll try again with "could I please get through?", and if you still block my path, I'll probably shove past you with an ugly remark.

I do that all the time on the train too. I say excuse me once & then go. I don't have the time to go 20 stops out of my way just because some idiot standing in the doorway has their walkman turned up too loud to hear me. If you're going to stand in the door at least be aware enough of your surroundings to notice people getting on/off.

 

[HookdonWDW]

As a transplanted Yankee, I think it depends on how you define rude... I can be rude if pushed against a wall, but I'm not as a rule. I am very honest and willing to give my truthful opinion... if you don't want to know how I really feel about something, don't ask me! I don't just blurt out my opinion on everything, but I figure if you ask for my opinion, you must want to hear it...