How often do you and SO go on dates??

[FreshTressa]

Do you still date "after all these years"?

We get out about once a month. We like to go to comedy clubs and local theater. I would like to do it more often, but our schedules never seem to make it work and it is hard with two little ones!

 

[Kteacher]

We go out to charity functions without the kids, but we don't usually just go out. Once a year we go away for a week-just the 2 of us. I do think it's important to "date" your SO. When our kids are grown and out of the house i want to make sure I still know the person I'm married to

 

[Dumbo Deprived]

Just recently we began having weekly date nights. So once per week.

 

[CamColt]

We usually get out for dinner about every 3 months. Occasionally its a whole night alone.
Last time out was mid July for our anniversary and it will probably be about another month until we get another chance.

 

[lenshanem]

Not enough. Maybe out to dinner and/or a movie once every 2 to 3 months. I actually have only left my oldest daughter (5 1/2 years old) once for a weekend to go to NYC for an anniversary, oh and when i left her to go to the hospital to have another baby! LOL OH MY!!! I still ahven't left my youngest now 2 1/2 years old. I think we're gonna go to GF in February 2005 for a coupel nighst for our 10 year anniversary. Of course, thsi is over a year away and I'm already doubting leaving her. A littel attached to them i wodul say...

 

[SonjaB]

As often as possible, LOL, which with four kids amounts to once every other week.

 

[cgcw]

We are bad. Other than the occassional wedding, we haven't been out for a "real" outing alone since our youngest was born -- he'll be 4 in February. Just recently, DS3 has been asking for his favorite babysitter to come over and take care of him and DS8 so Daddy and Mommy can go out without him. So, I have a call into her so we can do just that! It should be interesting.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Married 26 years and yes, we still date. Movies, dinner, whatever we can swing, time and moneywise at the time.

We usually try to get out at least once every few weeks. Our dates are meaningful in that we use the time to catch up with each other.......works great for us.

 

[Mishetta]

My DH & I only went out alone for our wedding anniversary ~ just out for a quick dinner & then back home...nothing to speak of really. Of course, the last time we did that was 3 years ago. I've never left my kids with a babysitter & I'm just too nervous to try it now. My Mom used to be my "babysitter" for when I was working & for those annual anniversary dinners. We never took advantage of my Mom even though she lived with us.

Regarding any type of party, weddings & funerals, if the kids can go, we go. If they can't, we don't go.

 

[nativetxn]

We go out several times a week.

 

[Samandmom]

What's a date?

 

[shep]

We try to go out every couple months but with our busy schedule we're lucky to go out once every 6 months

 

[poohandwendy]

As often as possible...the kids are older now so we have more opportunities than when they were little. Even if it is just getting in the car to get gas or pick up bread...it is valuable 'us' time.

Let me share with you what the OB/GYN (who delivered our firstborn) gave us the day I was discharged from the hospital (17 yrs ago)..

"Now that my job is done, may I give you a bit of advice that will ultimately have the most impact on this precious childs life, I believe much more than any book on childrearing will.

No matter how busy you become, and you won't believe how busy you will be, take every spare moment you have to remove yourself from parenting and nurture the intimate relationship that created this family. Date on a regular basis and have NO guilt for leaving your children with a sitter.

It all started with your love...the example you set in nurturing that love for eachother will be what your children will seek in mates (good or bad). If you do not see it as important, neither will they. You want your baby to be happy...the hugs, kisses and toys will do it for a short time, money, friendships and 'things' will be nice when they are older. But when they are adults (the longest period of their lives), they will fall back on what they have been taught by your example. They will thank you for not only staying together...but for staying in love. They will find happiness because you showed them how. "

Man....he was the best doctor and I didn't even realize it until I read those words. He was married to his wife for 40+ years and had 7 children (at the time).

 

[poohandwendy]

Just to clarify my above post...I have no idea if these were my drs own words or if he found this written somewhere and passed it along to me. I received it as a typed copy. I assume he handed this out to all new parents. So, if someone else has seen this before... I just didn't want to suggest that this originated with my specific doctor... I have no idea...but I am glad he shared it with us.

 

[tiggerlover]

Not often enough. When we lived in the US we went on dates about every 4-6 weeks. Now that we live in Italy and babysitters are scarce we hardly get a date night. Last date night DH and I had was on Valentine's Day.

 

[believe]

As shep said....not as often as we would like. Before my Mom was diagnosed with cancer it was more often. Right now we do what we can. This Saturday we are going to Cleveland and returning Sunday evening. Kids will be with my sister.

 

[CyranoJones]

We try to go out to dinner each Thursday. My DH can't always guarantee that he will be able to have that time free, but we do make the effort. And it's so worth it.

 

[Kitty 34]

Definetly not enough!!!