How much should each family pay the baby sitter?

Discussion in 'Community Board' started by kdonnel, Jan 10, 2019.

  1. kdonnel

    kdonnel DVC-BCV

    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2001
    Messages:
    1,712
    My neighbors are in a fight with their brother over splitting the cost of a baby sitter.

    Couple one has 2 kids. Couple two has 1 kid.

    The baby sitter charges $12 an hour for 1-2 kids and $15 an hour for 3 kids.

    At the end of the night couple two offered up just $3 per hour of money and couple one said no we should split it 50/50. At the moment it has been two weeks since that night and they have not spoken since couple two grabbed their kid and left in a huff after ultimately agreeing to pay $7.50 an hour.

    My neighbor asked me what I thought. I agreed that it was only fair to split the cost 50/50. If they had each got a baby sitter they would each be out $12 an hour. There are certain fixed costs for the baby sitter and those costs should be split 50/50.
     
  2. wvjules

    wvjules DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2001
    Messages:
    13,039
    I'd say 50/50 is more than fair. Still way cheaper than if both got individual baby sitters.
     
  3. Avatar

    Advertisement


  4. HopperFan

    HopperFan "It's a bug-eat-bug world out there, princess."

    Joined:
    Sep 6, 2003
    Messages:
    20,872
    $15 divided by 3 kids = $5 per kid
    Family of 2 pays $10
    Family of 1 pays $5

    They both saved money and both pay their fair share.

    And in the future they do not share services.
     
  5. piccolopat

    piccolopat DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Apr 25, 2014
    Messages:
    1,862
    I agree that it should be split 50/50.
     
    LSUmiss likes this.
  6. PlutoRocks

    PlutoRocks Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Oct 18, 2011
    Messages:
    232
    This seems the fairest method to me.
     
  7. sam_gordon

    sam_gordon DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2010
    Messages:
    16,646
    This.

    I've thought about something similar... let's say two families are renting a villa. Family 1 is a couple and three kids. Family 2 is just a couple. That shouldn't be 50/50. So to me, you split the cost by total number of people, then each family pays for the appropriate number of people. So if the rental is $700 (for example), family 1 pays $500 and family 2 pays $200. Seems simple to me.
     
  8. Klayfish

    Klayfish DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    May 19, 2016
    Messages:
    7,483
    Not only that, if they're arguing about something that petty (IMO), then they clearly have bigger issues.
     
  9. HopperFan

    HopperFan "It's a bug-eat-bug world out there, princess."

    Joined:
    Sep 6, 2003
    Messages:
    20,872
    YUP and we have done exactly this is many situations on vacation etc.

    Which is why I said in the future they shouldn't plan things involving shared expenses again. I would have had all this settled in advance, the fact that it wasn't makes me think they have ongoing issues and avoid getting things settled.


    This triggered a thought .... we have family members that will take advantage, try to get more than they should, try to get out of paying their fare share. Maybe this was such a simple and obvious arrangement that the one family was simply fed up with being taken advantage of and held their ground. Now I think they were both wrong in their calculations so not sure who the user would be but it could have been a last straw.

    Again, these two need to never share anything that involves money. Obviously there is way more to their history and story.
     
    Last edited: Jan 10, 2019
    kirstenb1 and TheFloatingBear like this.
  10. ENJDisneyFan

    ENJDisneyFan DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Mar 4, 2016
    Messages:
    2,391
    If I had more kids I would expect to pay more. But honestly I hate drama, so to avoid a conflict I probably would have just paid the sitter the full amount myself and moved on with my day!
     
  11. Anchored

    Anchored Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Feb 5, 2014
    Messages:
    313

    This.

    2/3 of the kids, 2/3 of the price
    This should have been discussed ahead of time, though
     
  12. Cannot_Wait_4Disney

    Cannot_Wait_4Disney Ok all you A cattle, get in ...

    Joined:
    May 18, 2005
    Messages:
    12,674
    $3 is out. Couple two should pay $5 and couple 1 $10. That's 1/3 the cost for one third of the kids and 2/3 of the cost for 2/3 of the kids. No. The advantage of the 3 kid discount should not go entirely to the couple with one kid.
     
    LilyWDW, Toolulu22, Gumbo4x4 and 2 others like this.
  13. soccerdad72

    soccerdad72 DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Oct 23, 2012
    Messages:
    3,971
    More importantly - how much do they tip her? ;)
     
  14. Cannot_Wait_4Disney

    Cannot_Wait_4Disney Ok all you A cattle, get in ...

    Joined:
    May 18, 2005
    Messages:
    12,674
    They should immediately run to the dis and post about our out of control tipping culture.
     
  15. Hikergirl

    Hikergirl DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Feb 28, 2016
    Messages:
    7,786
    How old are the kids?
    If they are all the same age I say couple #1 pays $10, and couple #2 pays $5.
    However if couple #2 has an infant or a toddler in diapers or who is potty training, and couple #1 has older kids, a 50/50 split isn't unfair IMO.
     
    TheFloatingBear likes this.
  16. Turksmom

    Turksmom Mouseketeer

    Joined:
    Mar 2, 2018
    Messages:
    318
    That was my first thought, but 1 kid family would never be able to hire a sitter for $5. They would have a $7 savings and 2 kid family would only have a $2 savings over individual cost. I'm just stirring the pot- I would have just let them pay the $3 and not done it again.
     
  17. Hikergirl

    Hikergirl DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Feb 28, 2016
    Messages:
    7,786
    Another way to look at it is if they were individually paying this babysitter, each family would be giving her $12 an hour since that is what she charges for 1-2 kids. If they split the $15 equally they are both receiving an equal discount.
     
  18. HopperFan

    HopperFan "It's a bug-eat-bug world out there, princess."

    Joined:
    Sep 6, 2003
    Messages:
    20,872
    But you could say the family of 2 was paying the full amount they would have paid without family 2. AND the babysitter is now not focusing their time on just their two children but having to share that attention on a third child.

    And for the family of one, yes they would have paid more but their child would have full and total attention of the babysitter, not sharing with two others.

    I likely would have asked for $5 for their share. If they said no they only wanted to pay $3, I would have said fine if you want to be that way but know we won't share any other services again.
     
    Turksmom likes this.
  19. kdonnel

    kdonnel DVC-BCV

    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2001
    Messages:
    1,712
    I dismissed the 1/3, 2/3 option because there are certain fixed costs with getting a baby sitter that both sides should pay.

    It would appear in this instance that the baby sitter has decided that 1-2 kids is $3. So following that logic it cost $9 an hour just get the the baby sitter to come out, an additional $3 for the first 1-2 kids, and $3 for each additional kid. That works out to each couple paying $4.50 of the fixed costs plus $3 for their kid(s).
     
    mummabear likes this.
  20. sam_gordon

    sam_gordon DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2010
    Messages:
    16,646
    Sure. But family 1 is getting "more bang for their buck". That's why the percentage works. IMO of course.
     
    LilyWDW and Soldier's*Sweeties like this.
  21. LSUmiss

    LSUmiss DIS Veteran

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2014
    Messages:
    3,115
    50/50 b/c if each of them had used the sitter individually it wound have been $12/hr for the 1 kid or the 2 kids. How many hours was this for? Seems like a ridiculous thing to fight about. I can’t see where it would be more than the difference of $15 vs like $40. Not a huge amount of $ either way. How petty!
     

Share This Page