how many of you that have been married a while

[luvmyfam444]

still have contact/friendships with members (not family) of your wedding party?

 

[Bob Slydell]

My best man is still my closest friend. I'd say the same for my DW's maid of honor, but she's possible disqualified, since it's my sister. We'll be married 9 years this fall.

 

[andromedaslove]

My Maid of Honor and I don't speak AT ALL anymore, and the rest of my party were family. My Husband is still very close with the only person in his party who wasn't family!!

 

[mrsmom]

We have been married almost 21 yrs and are friends with all but one of the people in our wedding party , Most of us hang out on a regular bases.
Kim

 

[HayGan]

My maid of honor is still my best friend and I am still in contact with the other member of my party who was my college roommate.

 

[mrsltg]

Dh and I were just discussing this the other day...

Out of 3 friends in my bridal party I am still in touch with two. The one I'm not in touch with was my MOH. In fairness our interests diverged dramatically after I was married and the kids came along. She's still living the single life and I don't fit there anymore. The other two girls are married and one has kids about the same age as mine. We've got lots in common.

Dh speaks to 3 of the 4 but only very occasionally. His best man and family moved away and aside from the random phone call and Christmas cards there isn't any communication. The other two are cops on the same pd as him. They see each other maybe once or twice a year at work.

Amazing how your friends change over the years.

Erin

 

[liamsaunt]

We'll have been married nine years in June. Everyone in our wedding party was family, except for one of our groomsmen. He is someone I've been friends with since I was 16. My husband met him and they became friends some years later (before DH and I knew each other).

He was friends with both of us seperately before we started dating, and he is still one of our best friends--in fact, he sometimes comes to Disney with us!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

We've been married 21 years. Most of the wedding party was family so we still see them. I lost touch with my matron of honor except for Christmas cards. We both moved away. DH's best man went through a bad divorce and really changed. We don't see him even though he is in the same town, but we do see his wife. That is sad becasue he and DH were childhood friends.

Interesting question.

 

[Snowysmom]

We have been married for almost 30 years. I am in contact with my matron of honor (friends since second grade) and one of my 2 bridesmaids. My other bridesmaid passed away 7 years ago and she was godmother to my kids. DH is in contact with his Best Man occassionally (his cousin) and one of his 2 ushers, my brother. Not a bad record for almost 30 years!

 

[Tigger_Magic]

We've kept in touch with wife's maid of honor and my best man and a couple of the groomsmen. We'll be celebrating #29 in June.

 

[salmoneous]

still have contact/friendships with members (not family) of your wedding party?

My party was my brother, one friend who no longer lives near my, but with whom I get together 1-2 year, and one friend who I've totally lost touch with. My wife's the same - a sister, a 1-2 year friends, and a lost touch friend.

 

[helenabear]

I'm still very close to three of mine. One we hear from now and then and then the last one who isn't family I don't know what happened to. But out of 5 friends, the three are still close to us. Honestly one we hear from now and then is one we asked just to fill a spot and we liked him (we were unbalanced due to female friends). The other friend I was close to for a long time. Until she started seeing a married man and then the friendship flopped

 

[buddy&wooz]

Married 20 years- I'm still in touch with my bridesmaids (at least Christmas cards). Dh knows where his groomsmen live these days, and got together with one a few months ago, but not much beyond that.

 

[barkley]

i was just thinking about this the other day-we are celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary this month!

of the 2 bridesmaids i had, one is on an entirely different life path and we just don't have much of anything in common so we realy don't communicate much. the second is majorly involved with kids, parents, work and family stuff in general and has never been good at staying in contact so i've only spoken to her maybe once in the past 5 years. one groomsman i hear of occasionaly from mutual friends, the other we've gone through hell trying to emotionaly support through additctions and frankly i'm glad he has opted to move to another area so we only hear from him once in a blue moon. the kids in the wedding i have no idea about-they moved with their parents years ago and i have no idea where they live at this point.

i am amazed when i watch our wedding video at how many older family members that have passed, some relativly soon after our wedding-so i enjoy watching having a video memory of them at a happy event.

i don't think it's unusual to lose contact with these people, lives change so much with marriage and kids-it's just natural to move in different circles of people (i have a good friend who had around 8 female attendants in her wedding party-after 20 years there are only 2 of us still in regular contact with her, but i think the difference is both of us had known her from 7-10 years prior to the wedding whereas the remainder had been friends for only a few years prior-they were the friends associated with specific times in her life-a job, some college classes, a missionary trip-and the friendships did'nt nesc. translate to enduring outside these situations).

 

[binny]

no, we each only had one person and his was a BIL who is now divorced and no longer in the family and mine was a friend for all the wrong reasons and Im quite glad to be rid of her, sadly.

 

[4greatboys]

One of my best friends was in both of my weddings. We have been friends since we were teens and still are great friends.
My other best friend I have known before I even met my dh and we are still very close.
The other 2 I dont really see or speak with anymore. I still consider them friends but we just dont seem to be able to get together.

 

[minniecarousel]

My two sisters and the two girls I grew up with were my attendants. I'm still close to all of them. DH doesn't even correspond with his Best Man anymore. One of my brothers was an Usher, as was DH's brother. Another Usher was a good freind that we stay in contact with, but haven't seen in a while.

It's been fun watching our older DS choose his Best Man and Ushers. His best friend from childhood is his Best Man & his brother is an Usher, along with another close friend.

 

[dbogen]

We were married 16 year last week and I was just thinking about it. Of the 10 in the wedding party, rwo are family- doesn't count. 3 of the girls communicate with christmas cards, 1 I am still good friends with and 1 I think just dropped off the face of the earth. For the Men, like I said 2 are brothers, two we see and although one is married to one of the bridesmaids, he has taken a life path different from ours. I don't know if that counts.

I was thinking about the weddings I was in and how I don't see them much. I am going to try to remember all their anniversaries this year.

Deanna

 

[noodles]

We have been married 12 years next week and DH and I both had 4 attendants.

DH had his three brothers and one of them was the Best Man. The other groomsman we dont have too much contact with. DH maybe talks to him once or twice a year.

My Sister was my Maid of Honor. Then two friends from High School who I dont talk to at all anymore. Once I was married and had kids we drifted apart. The fourth bridesmaid was my SIL who was married to DH's brother. They divorced and we still talk, but are not as close as we were 10 years ago.

 

[MerryPoppins]

We had a huge wedding party. We'd been dating a long time, so many of our friends were married. Four of our bridesmaids/groomsmen were married to each other or soon would be.

Then groomsmen: DH has lost touch with his best man. Two were family. Two we still keep in contact with. The last, we don't ever see, but my brother keeps us informed because he hears from him occassionally.

The bridesmaids: I still email my maid of honor regularly. Three were family. One I talk to on the phone several times a week. And one I've lost touch with. I also had two junior bridesmaids: one goes to our church, so I see her a lot and the other I see her parents about once a year and they update me.

I never would have guessed we'd lose track of any of these dear friends. One couple is now divorced. They moved away and I think they sort of started over with new friends. It's still hard for me to think of them as not being together, because when they left they seemed happy.

Edited to add, we'll celebrate our 22nd anniversary in July.