How do you write your own vows?

[sajilunni]

I'd like to write our own vows for our vow renewal, but I have no idea how to start. I'd like to be more eloquent than the kinda cheesy and blubbery sentiments that first come to mind when I think of my DH (e.g.- you're the best thing that ever happened to me, you're my soulmate, you're my best friend, I think we have the best marriage in the world, I'm totally addicted to you, I'll love you forever and ever,etc.). I'd like to phrase things in a way that I haven't already done in the last 10 years, but it's hard to be original at this point. Is there some kind of free vow assist available anywhere? Or have most people done it completely on their own?

Jil
P.S.- although we had 2 whole weddings (a Hindu one and a Catholic one) they were in our native tongue which we don't speak, so we just had to phonetically repeat the vows, and we never found out what exactly we vowed in the first place, lol.

 

[lurkyloo]

Oh man, I hear ya - I was so stressed out about saying something original and never-before-heard in our relationship or on Planet Earth that I left writing my vows until the night before the rehearsal!

Finally I gave in to the fact that I was not going to be breaking new ground and should just write what was in my heart. However, all the research I did probably served me well, even though I wasn't using it at that point, because I knew in the back of my mind:

- keep it short
- say what you love about DH
- say what you promise to do for DH
- say what you hope to accomplish together

I printed out a ton of info from this page back when we were trying to write our vows together. As I say, I didn't specifically end up using it, but it was great research to use as a starting point!

http://www.brilliantweddingpages.com/couples/weddingvows.asp