How do you act when you get angry?

[honeywolf7]

I got asked this question by Roger today (he's never seen me get really angry except for a time period of four months when we were just friends but had had a fight and stopped speaking.....that time every time he walked by my store, I would toss my head and turn my back on him.) I wasn't really sure of the answer so I asked my mom and an ex-b/f who I'm still friends with for their opinions. My mom said I'm very defensive and confrontational. My ex said that I shut off completely and act "snotty." Talk about opposite things to say. Anyway, I was wondering how you guys act when you get angry and whether you act differently with different people.

 

[FOJMO]

I tend to get very quiet, but I slam objects around and make noise. Sometimes I go into my bedroom and ostrasize myself from everyone and everything. After a while, I calm down and make amends, even when the other person is at fault. Can't stand to st ay that way for any length of time.

Sometimes, though, when I get angry and I'm yelling at someone, I CLEAN while I'm yelling. Hey, at least that's a "positive," isn't it????

 

[Disney Doll]

If I'm a little PO'd, I tend to speak my mind about it. If I am very angry, I get very quiet because I am afraid that if I don't shut up, I'll say something I regret. If I'm frustrated as well as angry, I cry.

If it's PMS week, all bets are off! There's no telling what I'll do!!!!

 

[nativetxn]

I cry. That makes me even more angry so I cry more. I really hate that I cry when I'm angry because people (especially masculine type people) just don't take you seriously when you are crying.

I also just withdraw from the situation and shut down communication or I will start crying again

 

[Beauty]

I throw things...LOL! But it takes a really really long time for me to get extremly mad. If I'm pissed I get "snotty" but if I'm really mad watch out.

My best friend still laughs about the time John and I were in an awful fight....this has got to have been about 6 or so years ago. Anyway John gets tickled at me when I'm mad and when he laughs at me I get madder. So he was laughing at me and I picked up a huge vase and hurled it at him. My best friend swears that the vase followed John around the corner into the kitchen...LOL! She said its like the vase was possessed, he turned and it turned. It didn't hit him though.

I also like to make noise and slam things!

 

[Tony-NJ]

angry and everyone will know it!!1 I've been known to break things, throw things, ... I also have been known to throw something(s) out of the person that I'm mad at LOL. I can also get real nasty!!

 

[sandramaac]

Well, we must first define 'Angry"

if I am pissed off angry--well I can be a real b----

if I am annoyed angry--I can be your worst nightmare

if I midly disgruntled--I can generally be reasonable

HOWEVER


If I am mad as hell angry

well I become an idiot---I can't complete sentences, I rant on endlessly, I become incoherent, unreasonable, then smoke begins to flow from my nose, fire from my mouth, and a orange glow begins to fill my eyes, all the while my heads spins in a 360 degree rotation

well this is at least what my kids tell me


anyone indentify with the above

 

[Kitty 34]

When I get angry, I usually confront the situation. I'm not very quiet when I get angry.

 

[doxdogy]

Depends. I will either get very quiet, cry or slam things. I have a recliner that is a rocker too. The DD and DH joke that when I am mad, the rocker starts going really fast.

 

[Serena]

Oh it depends on who and what and what time of the month it is. And it also depends on the reaction of the person I'm angry at.

I can be silent, I can yell and rant and rave, I can and have thrown things. I tend not to do that though, I hate to have to clean up the mess.
When it's pms I get emotional and make no sense at all and the worst part is I know it afterwards.
My h and I were really good at making things worse instead of better. I could be furious for days.

Some people have a way of making me get over myself really fast and I end up laughing about it and myself. I really, really like that.

 

[Mermaid02]

I used to really go for the jugular....... I'm a bit more reasonable now that I'm older.

 

[Princess Michelle]

It takes a lot to make me angry and when I get to that point I'm usually so frustrated that all I can do is cry.

 

[The Sweetness]

I cry and sry... Oh the shame

 

[honeywolf7]

He asked me if I cry and scream. I have been known to yell, but I don't cry when I get angry.

 

[browneyes]

You don't want to see me when I'm angry. Not many people have seen me angry.

 

[ChefBilly]

Extremely mean. Unfair. I fight dirty. It's something I have to work on.
But isn't making up great??

 

[TIdoublegaER]

Sandramaac summed me up best. I've been known to yell, break things, slam thing around or not speak to anyone. It really depends on who the person is and their relationship to me. Nobody can make me as mad as DH can!

 

[AngieBelle]

I'm pouty and whiny. In extreme cases, I'll scream and cry like a temper tantrum. When I get mad, I act like a little kid- which is perhaps one reason why people don't always take me seriously. I have visions of my future children not listening to me because everyone seems to think I'm "cute" when I'm annoyed! Remember in Lilo and Stitch when Nani and Lilo run to their rooms, slam their doors, and scream into their pillows? That's me.

 

[Saffron]

I'm like Kitty, I confront the situation. I talk, sometimes loudly but not yelling or screaming. I don't throw things, slam things, stomp around, yell. ACK! That's how I grew up ... with my parents doing that stuff. I can't handle it now. All of that stuff stresses me out!!!

Sometimes I say "bad words", but I say them calmly. LOL!

 

[suzannen]

Great visual imagery with the Lilo and Stitch, AngieBelle - I can instantly picture that and can relate to how they felt at that moment.

My first reaction is sulking, then if that's ignored (which it usually is), the drawer and door slamming, finally the tears. I hate it that I cry so easily when I'm upset, particularly in the business world where you try so hard to be professional and you do NOT want to break down and cry in front of your boss or a board member when you are having a really bad day!

My DH is also a sulker so when we fight my 8 year old DD usually says "when are you two going to start talking and kissing again?" That usually snaps us both out of it, we laugh and the fun make-up part begins!