How did you get pregnant???

[Maistre Gracey]

Other than the obvious, of course!!!
Anyway, my wife and I have been trying for about two years now. We even bought one of those little monitors that shows an egg at the peak time, but no luck. If I get home home from work at midnight, and there is an egg showing, I am thrusted into action...
Of course, there is the wife's method, but that really tires me out...

It took my wife's grandmother nine years, so we are being told by family to be patient.

Anyway, my wife is getting a little sad, so I guess I'm wondering what everyone did to be blessed with children?

 

[Adrianna]

I really no next to nothing about it, as I don't have kids (I know how they're made though ), I'd go to a doc and get your lil guys tested, there might be a medical explanation that you can get remedied.... unless you just enjoy the trying part

Good luck!

 

[jamsmom]

I am afraid my reply might be too much information. However, after others answer, I might be willing to.

 

[jfulcer]

Practice, Practice, Practice.

 

[mrsv98]

I bought a great book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" I learned more at the age of 33 reading that book than I had learned all the years I was in school. I followed the reccomendations, took my basal body temp every am before I got out of bed and used charts. I think I came close twice before DD "took" We actively tried for 6 months, which is about the norm, but it can take way longer so don't get discouraged. Your DW's age can have a lot to do with how long it takes. Here is an article about Toni Weschler, author of the book:

http://www.parentsplace.com/fertility/toni/articles/0,10335,238733_113684,00.html

Good luck!

 

[SuiteDisney]

Originally posted by jfulcer
Practice, Practice, Practice.

I thought that's how you get to Carnegie Hall.

 

[FreshTressa]

Yah, this is probably too much info, but hey, I'm willing to share!

That is really tough when it doesn't happen right away! Is she ovulating for sure??

You don't want to know how we got pregnant.

First kid, we were using condoms and a diaphragm......they never broke, but I guess one must have slipped past!

Second kid, my son was only 5 months old, I was nursing full time and hadn't even had a cycle yet. We used a diaphragm (couldn't fail twice, right???) and along came surprise number 2. I didn't even know I was pregnant for a long time because I hadn't had a cycle and I attributed all the hormonal stuff to being post partum and nursing!!!

So, I have no advice. I hope it happens soon for you!!!

 

[browneyes]

With our dd, I was on the pill and had tonsillitis. My antibiotic and my SO helped to get me pregnant.

With our ds, we tried during the peak time for me to get pregant and I got pregnant.

I have a couple of friends that tried for years to get pregnant, only to give up worrying about trying. They ended up pregnant not too soon thereafter. My best friend tried for about 9 years to get pregnant. She decided she was infertile. She was really bummed out when I got pregnant (she was on the phone with me when I took my first home test). I told her I'd make her get pregnant if I could. She got pregnant about two months after I told her that. She credits me with her son's conception (not that way, she said I jinxed her ).

Has your dw gone to her GYN to make sure everything is ok?

Good luck.

 

[MosMom]

We gave up trying. Seriously. We TRULY gave up though. We tried for 1 1/2 years and I was on top of my fertility. I read "Taking charge" and know more about my cycle then I probably should.

I was getting really frustrated but fertility specialists weren't for me. If we couldn't get pregnant, then we would stick with one child and she would be our little miracle. We moved into our new house in September 2001. We decided to stop trying completely until after Christmas since so much was going on. We had sex once in October and I got pregnant. I can't even remember the moment. I barely could remember that we even did anything that month when the doctor and I were trying to figure out a due date. I got pregnant in October and just figured I was having another late period until Thanksgiving. Took a test totally expecting it to be negative again but it wasn't. We were truly in shock.

PS - It was right around Halloween and I dressed up as Britney Spears in that "Slave For You" video for Halloween and that probably had a little something to do with it too. LOL

 

[Dan Murphy]

Best wishes, MG. After a good number of years we became adoptive parents. Two great kids!!!!

 

[Mad4Mickey]

With the 1st one we tried, tried and tried and then I cried and cried and cried . Then came the deals with God " I will be good , I will do everything that is expected of me ... "so on and so on Then one day my Grandmother called me from NY ( old Italian lady with a stern voice ) and said " I'm tired of waiting I want you to try this because it always works . Take a baby sleeper and put it under your underwear in your drawer and never speak of it again .

About 12 months later Whitney Dee-Ann was born !

With her brother we wanted them 2 yrs apart and as soon as I thought I was ready we started trying. My Ex husband asked me when we go ahead and start the drugs again and the counting and the praying and the crying . I said we are not ! about 3 months later we were having a brother for Whitney !


Sometimes when you really just dont know , God does .

Good luck ! It will happen when it is time

 

[Maistre Gracey]

Thanx to all for the advice!!! Dan, we have already talked about adoption, so at some point in the future I may call on you for advice. I truly think that is a great way to have a family... for both the parents, and the children.

--Just my opinion, but I do not want my wife or me to see a specialist. I know it may be something simple, but I never want it hanging over our heads.
In other words (if my wife was unable), I never, ever want my wife to feel as though she was "at fault" for not being able to have kids. I would like to accept it as a team, not "her or me".
I would rather have it thought of as "it just wasn't meant to be".
Does that make any sense???

 

[FreshTressa]

It does make sense, but it is makig a choice...

You can choose to reasearch it and increase your chances of having a kid,

Or, leave it to fate to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

So, if feeling like it was your fault is not worth increasing the chances of having a child, then it makes sense.

But for us, we would research it. It could be something really silly.

One other thing, are both you and wife of average weight??? Being over or underweight can severely inhibit your fertility.

If your wife exercises a lot, sometimes it can help if you take it easy for a while and put on 10 or so lbs. I have seen this happen so many times. It is just an observation, but it seems to make sense.

and vise versa-if overweight, losing about 15 lbs can help. Also, advil/aspirin and other NSAID's can inhibit fertility.

Do some research on some things that you can change in your lifestyle that might help without anyone being blamed.

Again, GOOD LUCK!!!

 

[bsnyder]

Makes perfect sense to me, if that's what you all want. It's a very personal decision to seek out infertility help.

My first pregnancy occured very simply. I stopped taking the pill, and bingo, several months later, I was pregnant.

And then, like browneyes, I got pregnant while on the pill. When DS was 4 months old, I had emergency surgery, had to immediately wean DS, and all of that just threw my cycle out of whack. It was not a happy time for me, as I hadn't wanted to have two children that close together. A few months after DS#2 was born, I made the decision to have a tubal.

Fast forward a few years, I have divorced and remarried a wonderful man. We wanted a child together, and made the decision to try IVF. It worked like a charm the first time around and we have a beautiful miracle, our 9 year old DD.

Good luck to you and your DW, whatever you decide to do!

 

[Maistre Gracey]

Thanx again. My wife and I are within 10 pounds of ideal weight (although we are certainly not perfect). I am 39, and my wife is 31. One of the things that is scaring me is that my wife was on the pill for about six years before we started trying. I am afraid that is too long, and possibly messed something up.

Anyway, I appreciate the advice!!!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I have really regular menstrual cycles and know my body very well. I know what all of the secretions and that mean. I can even tell when I am ovulating.

That being said, my Mom, sister, and I are all very fortunate to be able to get pregnant very easily. DD and the miscarriage I just had were both conceived after 2 months of "trying." My sisters 2 kids were both unplanned.

My Mom always joked that if our Husband looked at us "in that way" we would be pregnant. LOL!

Good Luck!

 

[C.Ann]

My brother and his wife tried for 6 years - and nothing.. they bought some land and started building a house - and BAM - they were pregnant!

My best friend & her DH tried for 5 years.. Nothing.. They adopted a little girl.. Two years later they became pregnant for their son..

Some other friends of ours tried for close to 10 years...nothing.. They adopted a son - and 2 years later a daughter.. Two years after that they went to Vegas to celebrate their anniversary and - BAM - they got pregnant and had another son..

I think there really may be something to the theory of "trying too hard.." My DD & her DH tried for two years and gave up.. When they least expected it (another one of those cases of "Did we even DO it that month??") BAM - they were pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl..

I know it sounds SILLY, but maybe if the two of you got really, REALLY totally involved in something else and didn't think about it at all it might just happen all on it's own.. (Well - not "all" on it's own - but you know what I mean..LOL)

Best of luck to you!

 

[Michelle]

Maistre Gracey, I know it's now what you want to hear, but I do think if you did some basic infertility testing (been there, done that) you would at least know if there are obstacles there. We tried for nearly two years also and did not get pregnant (I was your wife's age) and then did a few test to see if my tubes were blocked and to test DH's sperm count. All okay.

We did the basal body temp thing for MONTHS and then I got a new, demanding job and stopped with that and stopped officially "trying". Of course I got pregnant immediately.

Pretty much if you have gone through a year of regular sex and she's not pregnant then there is probably something going on that needs to be investigated. The pill should have no bearing at all, I know plenty of women who were on it for many more years and got pregnant the first month they were off it.

We never were able to conceive a second child and once I reached 40 we decided to not try for any other tests or treatments, but for a first child I was definitely willing to find out what, if any, were the obstacles.

Good luck to you both, and I hope your dream of becoming parents is fulfilled!

 

[C.Ann]

Forgot to mention one other thing.. Pretty much a sure-fire way of becoming pregnant.........

Go into MAJOR debt for something!! Don't know why, but that usually does the trick...........

 

[SuiteDisney]

I was on the pill for over 10 years before I stopped it and got pregnant.

Here's one thing to consider... Now, I know I'm known for jokes, but this isn't one of them.... If you wear briefs, switch to boxers. This is true and there's a very good reason for it. If I tried to explain here people would probably yell at me, but it all has to do with temperature. Don't wear tight pants, also.