Not budget friendly, but stuff that was important to do. We flew to the east coast and stayed in a hotel for three nights to attend remembrance events for my sister-in-law (husband's brother's wife) who passed away at 65. For all except one leg of the trip we used SW point to fly, so only spent about $150 on air. Our rental car from Alamo ran about $137 for the three day period. I splurged on a standard instead of mid sized car so four adults could fit comfortably -- we could then drive out my 92 year old mother-in-law and other sister-in-law (husband's sister) instead of taking two cars on the hour and a 1/2 drive, but that only added about $20 to my cost for the three day rental period. My rate at the Holiday Inn in New Jersey -- just three block from my mother-in-laws house averaged $122 a night. I had the breakfast buffet at the Holiday Inn and we had dinner there one night too. More expensive than going out to eat elsewhere, but really pleasant and convenient. I was personally really happy with the quality of the food and the half way reasonable prices for being a hotel. The breakfast buffet ran about $10 pp but was quite good, $12 when you consider tax and the 10% tip we generally leave at buffets. They only charged us for the cold plate buffet even though we had hot offerings, probably because they saw that we just took one plate with sensible portions I think. And our dinner one night at the hotel with tax and tip ran about $40 for me and DH. Again, what we ate was really good and I was perfectly fine with the pricing, given that it was a hotel. How nice to be staying at a Holiday Inn instead of a Hilton, so I can actually afford to eat at the hotel. We also last night visiting with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law after family events during the day, ordered pizza about $30 for the four of us (convenient and easy). We sure didn't want my sister-in-law to have to cook for us after a busy day of events and my mother-in-law was definitely more inclined to stay in vs. go out. // Anyway we felt like going out there was the right thing to do and are glad we did, but we are looking forward to getting home today. // We did not have our 20 year old come out. We didn't want him to miss any classes the week before finals and he didn't know this sister-in-law all that well. He's quite a bit younger than these cousins too and on friendly terms, but not particularly close.
I will also say (and I'm sure it depends on your enjoyment of staying with relatives, budget, size of relatives house, etc.), that for us for some privacy, space, mental health breaks, etc. we always when visiting these east coast relatives stay at a hotel instead of at their house which is quite small and not really equipped to house guests. // Some things if they don't break the budget are just worth paying for to make your life/stay/visit a little more pleasant. // We stay right at my parent's house when we visit them, but it's a totally different situation.