hi! i'm new here

[m-and-m]

my name's Shayla. i've been on the Disboards for a while but i'm new to this section. i'm 15 so i'm normally on the teen boards. i just recently came out about being bi to my mom and my 2 closest friends.

i'm pretty close to my mom so it was easy to tell her. i'm very grateful of how accepting she was. she's been very supportive of me. i don't feel like i can tell my step-dad though.

i told my friend Hannah when she came out and told me about her being bi. she's obviously been very supportive of me too. she's the one i talk to the most about it.

then there is my friend Liz, she is my absolute closest friend. we consider ourselves sisters instead of friends. i had a really hard time telling her. we sit on eachother and hang off eachother and are generaly really huggy. i was terrified she was going to take all that the wrong way. when i told her i let her know she was strictly my sister and that i didn't like her like That, so she wouldn't freak out. she was completely understanding, she was just upset i hadn't told her sooner. she had been sitting on my bed and i was on the floor, she actualy came and sat next to me on the floor and gave me a huge hug. i'm really blessed to have a friend as good as her.

sorry, for my rant.

i was wondering if at this age i should tell some of my other friends or wait and see who stays part of my life? i'm not quite sure what would be the best thing to do.

 

[MonorailMan]

Welcome Shayla!

I don't think there are any experts on this board as far as coming out is concerned, but what we can do is offer some support and opinions. (Trust me.....this board is good at giving both. But that can be a good thing.)

As far as coming out to your friends, I say try to get their opinion on bisexual and gay people before telling them. Maybe bring up a celebrity who has come out of the closet and see what their opinion on it is. If it's good, I'd try to come out to them. If they get upset about it or start treating you badly it just means they're probably not really good friends to begin with. I personally would want to know their views on it early on....otherwise having this "secret" on your shoulders is going to weigh you down to the point where you can't relax any more. Just be sure you're in an environment/location where you're comfortable and safe before telling people.

That's all I can really offer at the moment. Welcome to the boards!

 

[m-and-m]

thanks for the advice

 

[rosiep]

Welcome !

Your Mom is a very lucky woman to have a relationship with you that makes you confident enough to share who you really are.

I know I was non-plussed when my daughter told me because I love her through and through...knowing she can share her life with me makes me feel fortunate indeed.

 

[MickeyDee]

Hiya Shayla...welcome!

 

[Jeff90]

Welcome!!!!!

 

[Goofyluver]

Welcome Shayla!

 

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

Welcome!

 

[DVCajun]

 

[OrlandoMike]

I have no advice, but want to say welcome!

You have found a fun place over here!

 

[m-and-m]

thanks everyone

 

[PeterPan09]

Welcome aboard!

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

Welcome Shayla!

 

[PghLybrt]

Hello!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Just popping in to add another hello to the bunch Hi Shayla

 

[pixierella]

Hey Shayla. While I have no advice I wish my mom was like your mom when I was your age. I so knew back then but knew my parents would never accept me. And high school back then, not so accepting. Glad you have good friends and a healthy relationship with your mom.

 

[Tony-NJ]

Yo Shayla - Welcome. I'm not too good at this kind of advice - you are years ahead of where I was at your age LOL!

 

[soulmates]

Hi Shayla! Welcome! We have a 13 daughter,and though she's straight, she's chosen to not tell her friends about me & my partner. She tells them we're roomates. I respect that. She doesn't want to be outed, just yet. Kids at this age are still immature and can be very cruel. She's decided to wait and only she'll know the right time. It takes pressure off her, so far, so good. Remember, there's no rush to tell people...you'll find later in life, most of us, don't feel the need to tell everyone..they just figured it out. Those who are closest in our lives and the MOST important people, know. My being a lesbian doesn't define who I am...it's a part of me...I'm a mother, daughter, friend, worker, neighbor...so many things and I happen to be gay. Whatever you decide, best of luck and WELCOME to our board!!

 

[vaDisneyGuy]

HI WELCOME!!!!!!!

 

[Uncle Remus]

Hi Shayla! Welcome! We have a 13 daughter,and though she's straight, she's chosen to not tell her friends about me & my partner. She tells them we're roomates. I respect that. She doesn't want to be outed, just yet. Kids at this age are still immature and can be very cruel. She's decided to wait and only she'll know the right time. It takes pressure off her, so far, so good. Remember, there's no rush to tell people...you'll find later in life, most of us, don't feel the need to tell everyone..they just figured it out. Those who are closest in our lives and the MOST important people, know. My being a lesbian doesn't define who I am...it's a part of me...I'm a mother, daughter, friend, worker, neighbor...so many things and I happen to be gay. Whatever you decide, best of luck and WELCOME to our board!!

Now that is great advice!!

Welcome, Shayla.