Help needed from other teen parents....girl issues

[chager]

DS14 is having a rough summer as some have noticed by recent posts. Well his best friend is not making it any easier. His best friend is a girl he has known since they were young. In the the 3rd grade she announced se would marry him. They tried the boyfriend/girlfriend thing last year and it didn't work so well. SO they are only friends now. Nick is happy with that. She is not. Well with all NIck went through this week and being sick currently he didn't put a smiley face at the end of a text. J went all emotional (crying, etc) saying he obviously didn't care for her and why was he mad at her and she wasn't ever going to speak to him again. He brought me his phone and asked to me read the texts and see if I could figure out what he did that could have upset her so much.There wasn't anything at all that I could see. She just flipped over the smiley face thing. Well it is coming out that she wants his undivided attention when all the kids go out to see a movie and she throws a fit if he speaks/texts another girl. I did call her mom today and said that this behavior needs to stop. I told her about the smiley face thing and also about the possesiveness issues. I also told Nick that he doesn't need to speak with her today. That really upset him. He tells her everything and she tells him everything. I really amat a loss about how to deal with her. I have tried talking to her, her parents have talked with her, but it isn't working. She is really a sweet girl and normally a joy to be around. Just lately she has become obssessive it seems. She cries if Nick doesn't tell her goodnight evey night or if he doesn't call her/ text her when he wakes up. Any ideas of ways to get her to understand her behavior is over the top while tryig to preserve a friendship that means alot to my son?

 

[java]

Well he can do what my son did. He turned off his phone. His "ex" then started texting my younger daughter asking her to tell her brother to turn on his phone. EVENTUALLY it stuck. And they are now on friendly terms. He dealt with it in his way. I told him if he was old enough for a girlfriend he was old enough for the drama that went with it.
He said he was over girls for a while. (though there is a new one that scares the bleep out of me)
Good luck and let your son know that this shall pass.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No. He needs to stop acting like he is her boyfriend. I hate to say it but you cannot have your cake and eat it too.

Once they became BF/GF the relationship changed. However it sounds like the girl is still acting as if they are together.

Tell him to stop with the excessive communication. If he continues then it is a game they are playing. Whoa is you....